submitted 2 weeks ago by moss_icon@hexbear.net to c/traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns@hexbear.net

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I’m AMAB, been gender non-conforming for years but have often flip-flopped on whether I’m actually trans or just a cross dresser.

Well in the past few months I have come to the conclusion that I’m bigender. I spent a lot of my younger years thinking I could have been trans, then suspected I could have been genderfluid. However, I don’t think I have a fixed gender identity either way, and I don’t think it fluctuates either. I like to think of my gender expression as almost like being two separate entities, I’m fine with dressing as and being perceived as a man and I’m fine with dressed as and being perceived as a woman.

I recently changed my pronouns on here to use any but this is a formal coming out. I am just another username in the sea of Hexbear but I am probably never going to formally come out in real life, especially living in the United Kracker Kingdom, so at least this might give me even a tiny bit of closure on this issue.

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[-] rattlethatlock42@hexbear.net 9 points 1 week ago

Congrats! cat-trans

[-] moss_icon@hexbear.net 2 points 1 week ago

Thanks!

[-] JustSo@hexbear.net 6 points 1 week ago

Congratulations. catgirl-happy

I am just another username in the sea of Hexbear

Perhaps! But you're a recognizable username and I only remember cool people.

You're a whole comrade, not "just a" anything. stalin-approval heart-sickle

[-] moss_icon@hexbear.net 2 points 1 week ago

Thanks for the kind words :)

[-] JustSo@hexbear.net 1 points 1 week ago

I did a whole lot of transitioning and it later turns out I too am bigender or.. I don't know agender perhaps. Post gender maybe. (I don't really dwell on it much, seems to be an "other peoples problem" from my perspective. I don't need a label for this particular thing for me.)

I'm really happy for you that you're figuring yourself out. I hope it feels liberatory. Non-binary "being" has probably been the most relief I've ever felt from myself.

[-] Des@hexbear.net 4 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

congrats! i was exactly where you were in your younger years for a really long time. also don't think i'll be formally coming out anytime soon except for people close to me (which i already have)

it took me some time to realize i was more trans-butch (dirt and greasy machine side), which was confusing enough on it's own, but i do have more femme moments and moods (nerdy goth girl inside me). and who knows what would happen if i started HRT.

my partner, however, is pretty closely aligned with you but instead starting as AFAB. they even have separate names for both genders as well as the andro one!

[-] moss_icon@hexbear.net 2 points 1 week ago

I have actually done the same thing re: the last paragraph lol.

[-] SorosFootSoldier@hexbear.net 3 points 1 week ago

Shame you can't come out in your public life but I totally get why though. Happy for you regardless.

[-] moss_icon@hexbear.net 2 points 1 week ago

Thanks :)

[-] Sneakytrickyyy@hexbear.net 3 points 1 week ago

Bit late but congratulations! meow-hug

rat-salute flag-trans-pride

[-] moss_icon@hexbear.net 2 points 1 week ago

Thanks :)

[-] sodium_nitride@hexbear.net 1 points 1 week ago

Bigender sibling? Yippie aubrey-happy

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