Think you just pinpointed a major kink of your depression. Consumed by what others are thinking, even though that's their problem and not your's. I'm sure there's more, but I wouldn't be consumed about how you appear to others unless you want to live for everyone else's ideals and the expectations rather than your own.

Disassociating from that and reclaiming my life was a huge step forward in my depression and anxiety. I think that's one of the most common mental health pitfalls to not realise you've fallen into.

While people are alive, their accomplishments are always being compared to expectations; but if they die before accomplishing anything, the expectations are all that’s left.

It's nice to say nice things about people who've passed away.

Like if someone in their 20s passes away, and you're at their wake after the funeral, you're not going to say "well I kind of always just tolerated him but he was never going to amount to much and I didn't really like him".

Look. This is politeness. This is slightly different, but kinda related... I'm a teacher. If a kid got bad grades, obviously he did, the parents will see that. In my written comment, should I say he was a slacker? No. Why bother. Better to express hope for what he can do well in the future.

The same information is conveyed, but the respect shown to the person is different.

Calling someone a loser or saying they haven't accomplished anything is a judgement on someone's past and present self.

Talking about someone's bright future is recognition of the fact that they had potential and opportunities that will never be realized.

If you're thinking about suicide, please call 988 (USA) or an equivalent service in your country. I hope you get well soon.

Schrodinger's potential

Stop giving a shit what others think about you and just live how you want. You'll be surprised how much happier you are and how little opinions of people matter.

Often they're sad he didn't realize he had a bright future ahead. Fortunately, you do. Or if you didn't, you do now. You can't judge your life by how it is now. Especially with the world in shitty shape generally. But mostly because you're young. Regrets for your wasted promise are a privilege reserved for old farts like myself. You still have choices to make, and time for them to play out. Choose as well as you can. And don't be afraid to change directions as necessary.

Makes me wonder what I would be called if I died in a car crash at my current age of 40 🤔

"That maniac just drove through the mall and took out Santa and 3 of his elves before crashing into the Spencer's Gifts and exploding!"

Edit: Your post made me think of this, but more seriously, yeah there are some things that spiral. I think many people have felt the spiral of a depressing mood, if not proper depression. If you are feeling it now, I hope things turn around for you soon. You got this.

Thanks for being a great member of this community.

You don't have to care about someone to acknowledge that they could have done much more if they didn't pass away at a young age. Even you still have that opportunity.

If you are, hang in there. The emotional weather can change!

If people are ostracizing you for struggling with depression, you're hanging out with the wrong people. And if you only think that's what's happening, you probably need to stop listening to your liar depression brain

The only way to get respect from the monkeys while you're alive is by generating bananas. Lots of bananas.

Mostly true but one thing is wrong, no one is ostracizing you. Most people don’t think about anyone other than themselves.

People just say that to make themselves feel better. Or maybe they believe their "loser" friend would have one day come out of it.

If this is you, I highly recommend reading The Power of Now. Hugely helpful book thats not preaching or religious, it just focuses on how to live life in the now, which is how you achieve true peace and happiness. There is nothing but the now.

I read it a few times every year. Its been massively stress relieving.

A lot of people struggle with depression, but like most things in life, the key is practice. Just keep it up, don't get discouraged! One day you will be great at depression.

Hindsight is 20/20, even Van Gogh was totally ignored until after his tragic death.

That's because the media and the government will use your dead to do their propaganda

BINGO, AWESOME THINKING, THANK YOU!!!!!
Of course, I only heard this true The Capitalist Lamestream media- news-movies, & you know they truly do not know the young people who die or cared about them, real or characters, beyond profits.