It did take me a little while to connect why I found so many models, who seemed to be popular, so unattractive.

Humble bragging about your sister...

Daddy Issues isn't the same as "marrying your mother".

I've always heard the former was about having a poor relationship with your father, and the latter about whatever your maternal relationship was like, good or bad.

I had an irrational hatred for Thandie Newton and I didn’t realize why until someone pointed out that she looks like my birth mother.

It's not, the Oedipal complex is a correlation. The "marrying one's parent" phenomenon most certainly has a psychological causality somewhere, but it's certainly not due to a generally applicable Oedipal complex.

A concrete example, the only relatively comparable thing I've had to deal with was tending to select romantic partners based on how familiar my dynamics with them were to me. Having lived in an unhealthy familial environment and with relatively few childhood friends, the only familiar I had was belligerent and punitive. Otherwise, none of my parents, or even from my extended family, are my type. I'm saying this in a literal sense. And this is against a constant, solid background of "like...no, they're family."

Many, many victims of domestic abuse would disagree, I'm sure!

he's not the kind of attractive I expected to wind up with

I can't tell if this is "I'm batting way out of my league" or "dude you're ugly as sin but you look like my dad so I'm into it."

I've also told my partner that when he makes that very specific devious chuckle (that deep genuine one it's hard to fake like when I send him a really good meme) sometimes I can feel my vagina make a little sploosh of goo.

o_O

the chuckle needs lube to continue existing

The Southpark Giny Tingle (from "The Ring" episode, if I remember right).