When I lost my virginity I realized that actually I was pathetic for other reasons the whole time 
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No, there's nothing inherently pathetic about "virginity" (which is a sus concept). No one's worth is determined by their sex life, whatever it is. It can certainly make someone feel pathetic to not get the connection with other people they're looking for, though, and I'm sorry if that's what you're dealing with.
I'm pretty sure this is just
the virgin post on r/cth
Please stop making fun of people for being Virgins. It's tough because I'm a leftist, I love this sub, and I work hard to be a good person and practice good praxis, but I'm also 28 and a virgin. Watching Y'all make fun of people for being virgins or calling people virgins really hurts.
Posting here on an alt because my normal username can be linked to me in real life, but I post here daily. Most of you have probably upvoted my posts at one point or another. But yeah, I'm old, and I'm a virgin, and while it doesn't bother me much anymore, it's really bad praxis to call people virgins as an insult or to make fun of them for being virgins. Incels are bad not because they are virgins but because they just blame women for their cause. Make fun of them for their shitty beliefs, not because they are virgins.
I think for a lot of us we still hold on to the capitalist idea of success that has been handed to us. That we need to have money and a job and a partner and kids and all that to be seen as good. And that's not possible for a lot of us. I know that's not possible for me I've been unemployed for years at this point. So we make fun of them for believing in the system but still not having it. I think it's right when people point out here that the things a lot of the alt-right are mad about are rightful things to be mad about. It's just that they then blame them on the (((globalists))) and muslims and immigrants and SJWs when really it's capitalism and actual rich people.
But seriously, that's all I have to say. Please think before using virgin as an insult. It's just a state of being, that of having not had sex, and every single one of you were a virgin at some point in time. Thanks for reading. I love all y'all anyway.
Thanks, this helped me. I wish, other people stopped making fun of virgins too.
no, it's not. obsessing over it is though.
don't worry, when you turn 32 and are married, you won't be having sex anymore either 
ahyuck hyuck
nah, sex is just ok tbh, even when i have sex with my sex god it isnt like, life changing. healthy relationships have plenty of solo time. if you feel pressured to have sex, remember that that is society being very creepy.
cuddles are better 
even when I have sex with my sex god
I strive to live a life like this
No, but basing your self esteem around how much sex you've had is a harmful social default
When I lost my virginity, the first and most powerful epiphany from that experience, right after the afterglow wore off, was the following:
"All right, now what?"
It feels like a big deal until you have sex. Then it's just a lot of pent up expectations and frustration left behind and you just continue with what you were already doing.
Don't let anyone bully you into feeling "pathetic" or whatever because of their own preoccupation with a score card.
Look at "RooshV." He's BAAANGED (in most cases, coercively or violently) scores of women and he's a pathetic loser that no one, not even nazis, wants to hang out with.
No. It's statistically unusual. It may be the result of difficulty socializing. But it's not in itself pathetic. If that's something you want to change, there are ways to go about it. It's certainly not easy to subject yourself to the horror of intimacy, but I think facing that difficulty head on with clear vision instead of pretending that it's actually easy and there's something inherently wrong with you is a good place to start.
Sex is kinda overrated, or at least put on this stupid pedestal above other things. Easy to say if you've had sex though I suppose?
It's far from pathetic to have not had sex though tbh. Equally, don't place too much/any value in virginity or abstinence either, but like, ehh?
tldr no it's not pathetic, but worrying too much over it might be at a certain point
Nah, shit happens when it happens. It's bad for your mental health to pin your worth to something that requires another person's participation, because you wind up getting down on yourself for other people's actions that you can't control. Instead, if it's important to you that you try, then continuing to try should be the goal.
No.
What you have done or not done with your dick does not matter.
AMAB and also late 20s bloomer - no, not at all. My first time only solidified my suspicion that I was probably ace, but even so I empathize with the anxiety and self-esteem issues that come with the territory. Not feeling wanted or desired feels bad, and I wouldn't look down on that (unless it's accompanied by reactionary baggage).
Did you listen to that cumtown episode or something?
Virginity is not something to be ashamed at, just don't make it a toxic identity or obsession, as with any form of malicious self-pity, it hurts you and others around you.
Having inadequate experience with romantic relationships does become an issue when you reach that age of late 20s/early 30s, as people do get suspicious or averse to committing themselves to a relationship with people who have not been in a committed relationship by the time they're 30 or older.
Not because of sexual inadequacy but because of a lack of experience with emotional intimacy and emotional reciprocity.
It's pathetic you're posting about this and not about which Final Fantasies are the good ones and which are the bad ones.
It just means you're taking things at your own pace.
Sex isn't transformational
Don't get too hung up on it but don't go advertising it either. The right person won't care anyway, and will make you feel comfortable enough that you can be honest.
I had sex at 14 and it certainly didn't make me cooler. Probably a net negative tbh
No. Next question.
Absolutely not, sex and sexuality is complicated and hard for a lot of us. It has no weight on your value as the wonderful person I’m sure you are
Hard no. You know what is pathetic? Dudes trying to hook up with everything that moves in order to ameliorate their fragile egos. You're a positively a chad dude and I'd be proud to list you as a friend.
It's odd and loneliness is a cause for concern whatever your past history, but I think it's absurd to consider it "pathetic".
Making it your self-identity definitely is, though
Nah. And lots of people are having sex later and later in life these days for a variety of reasons (mostly economic problems and social alienation but still). And regardless, sex isn't a defining life altering event for most people.
No dude, no don't worry about it
absolutely not
Nah
No
Nope. Sometimes it takes a while to find a person or situation in which you're comfortable.
No, a bit cringe to care about it at all tbh, but it’s not your fault you were made to feel/think this way about it
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