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  • My husband cut our $2,000 monthly grocery bill by $415 just by shopping differently.

  • Switching from name brands to store brands saved us thousands — and my kids didn't even notice.

  • His engineering mindset means no impulse buys and less food waste.

In May 2023, my husband and I sat down to look over our budget app on his laptop — one of my least favorite activities.

As a family of six living in the Chicago suburbs, our grocery bills were already sky-high and climbing with inflation. I hated budget conversations.

So 2k split six ways is like 330 give or take per person per month, being like 80 bucks a week. I usually get by spending 150-200 per month on groceries and that's usually me buying bulk one month to stretch out over a few months and the other months on treats like fresh fruits, vegetables, and maybe even some fancy bread once in a while. Are kids really that expensive to feed? Yeah probably.

Even though my husband never made me feel this way, I always felt like I was getting in trouble for overspending. So when he pointed out that our Walmart grocery bill for the month was $1,923, I felt the guilt creep in.

But then, he said something that I didn't expect: "Let me take over the grocery shopping."

I laughed. Not because I thought he'd do a bad job but because I couldn't imagine it would make any real difference. Plus, grocery shopping was my domain: I knew what we liked, and I meal planned. I didn't love the idea of him double-checking my choices. But I was exhausted from the weekly trips, so I handed him the grocery list — half expecting him to come back overwhelmed.

The next month, our grocery bill dropped to $1,511. I figured he was just cutting corners to prove he could spend less. But the following month? $1,555. Our pantry was full, our kids were happy, and we were spending around $400 less a month.

I had to admit: maybe my husband was onto something.

He started by taking his time in the store to consider all the options

I got curious about his method: "How are you doing this?" I asked.

It turns out his first grocery shopping trip took almost two hours — and not because he couldn't find anything. While I was home imagining him wandering lost in the aisles, he was carefully reading ads (the ones I would have tossed aside) and checking prices on every single item.

Ah yeah, that makes sense. Its a right sharp thing to do to save a few quid in this economy. Man back in the cupon days you could get some wild deals with what you found in the papers

Ever the engineer, my husband pulled out his phone to show me some of the side-by-side price comparisons he made. I was beyond surprised.

My husband made some big money-saving switches

My kids go through ketchup like water. I had been buying Heinz at $4.48 for years without thinking twice. The Great Value brand my husband chose is just $1.92 for the same size bottle, and it tastes exactly the same, saving us $2.56 every time.

Yeh going for the 'generic' house version instead of branded stuff genuinely makes the most sense the majority of the time.

But the ranch savings may be one of our biggest. Switching from Hidden Valley at $6.97 to Great Value at $3.54 saves us $3.43 per bottle, and no one can even tell the difference. We use it for everything from salads to dipping vegetables, so these savings add up quickly. We even did a blind taste test with our pickiest eater, and he liked the generic brand best.

Honestly know the pain of having picky eater family members. My picky eater only enjoyed cheese pizzas when they were flattened white bread covered in ketchup and American cheese microwaved to melt the cheese then lightly toasted on the frying pan and only ate makkas burgers with no onions, mustard, or pickles and no other kind of burger.

The cereal aisle turned out to have big savings, too. Name-brand Rice Krispies were costing us $3.98 per box, but Great Value Rice Crisps are only $1.97. This cut our cost in half while keeping breakfast the same.

I came in wanting to rip on some out of touch shitlibs, but hey, good on them for discovering reality. Hopefully they keep touching more grass

For the kids' school snacks, I used to buy the individually packaged Goldfish for $9.76 out of convenience. My husband started buying the bulk carton for $7.79 which saves us almost $2.00 for even more crackers. For what we are saving, I don't mind taking the extra minute to put the Goldfish into individual baggies for school snacks.

Seriously it's almost endearing they're discovering the shit a lot of our parents did for us when we were kids. Sure, they obviously got money to burn but still.

It's not just about switching to store brands or buying in bulk. Even with name-brand things we love, my husband finds a way to save money. For example, with our coffee, instead of paying $31.08 at Walmart for three pounds, he gets it directly from Dunkin on his way home for $26.21. That's saving $4.87 just by changing where we buy it. It's the exact same amount, but almost $5.00 cheaper.

We're happier and saving money

There have been unexpected benefits beyond just saving money. I no longer dread those weekly grocery trips because I'm not making them anymore. Since my husband actually sticks to the grocery list (unlike me and my impulse purchases), we're wasting less food.

I still handle meal planning, but he approaches grocery shopping with his engineering mindset.

Here's where I embrace my inner southern granny: bless her heart. She really doesn't know any better.

I wish we'd made this switch years ago. It's funny how sometimes the best solutions come from playing to each other's strengths and letting the more cost-conscious partner do the shopping. That one conversation didn't just change how we grocery shop — it's saving our family about $4,980 a year. And, all because I was willing to hand over the grocery list to my husband, who was willing to spend two hours comparing ketchup prices.

Frugality is indeed a virtue.

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[–] [email protected] 92 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I...I don't understand what this article is trying to say? Store brand items are cheaper than name brands, buying in bulk is cheaper, and some things have coupons? These are basic grocery shopping strategies. Especially when you are feeding a large family, you want to buy in bulk.

This is all common sense shit you learn by not being rich. Is this woman 25 and buying groceries for the first time after graduating college? Does she really get paid to write shit my 5th. grade teacher showed us? I don't get this. I have so many questions.

[–] [email protected] 47 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Does she really get paid to write shit

Clicking around a bit, it seems that she's primarily a YA author.

[–] [email protected] 89 points 1 week ago (3 children)

using his engineering intellect comparing prices for hours

looks inside

great value brand is cheaper and individually packaged food expensive very-smart

I feel like you could have figured this out on your own.

[–] [email protected] 50 points 1 week ago (2 children)

Honestly why this is so endearing in its own bleak way. It's like hearing about some Austrian Duke learning how to make pop corn for the first time

[–] [email protected] 25 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (2 children)

ah, classic "ojou-sama that married into a commoner family but kept her pride"

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[–] [email protected] 18 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Honestly that needs to be a more popular trope. Keeps the aristocratic vibe but proletarianizes it to a degree.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 week ago (15 children)

Story with chuunibyou & proletarianized ojou-sama deuteragonists, please. timmy-pray

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[–] [email protected] 17 points 1 week ago (1 children)

What if instead it was the Australian Dude and he learned to pop it on the barbie?

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[–] [email protected] 45 points 1 week ago (2 children)

that's basically the problem with 99% of financial advice on the internet, it's either a scam (buy my class or rugpull coin), non-reproducible, or it assumes something insane like that you were spending 40k/year on starbucks.

[–] [email protected] 24 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

Most of it boils down to some version of "eat less peasant" and it's the more literal that is usually being written by affluent person for workers not recieving liveable wage.

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[–] [email protected] 60 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Local bougie family saves thousands through cutting-edge engineering method of "looking at price tags".

Seriously, you hit a hard limit comparing prices really fast. At least in my experience, outside of stuff that is on sale, all the other items in the supermarket costs exactly the same, regardless of what chain you go to.

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[–] [email protected] 60 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I want to see the follow-up article for when she and her engineer genius husband discover costco

[–] [email protected] 38 points 1 week ago

Or Aldi/Lidl

[–] [email protected] 57 points 1 week ago (3 children)

For what we are saving, I don't mind taking the extra minute to put the Goldfish into individual baggies for school snacks.

Just wait until they discover reusable containers

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[–] [email protected] 42 points 1 week ago (8 children)

food is totally an area where a lot of the common practices in the US are a massive waste and against the interest of the eater, if the goal is to be satisfied, healthy, not broke, and not all fucked up after a few decades of eating.

cereal is one of the craziest mark ups. it's legit unhealthy garbage, basically just sugar and ultra-finely processed corn/wheat, which are some of the cheapest bulk commodities. cereal is the shelf stable cash cow in US industrial foods. i thought cereal was some kind of crucial breakfast component as a kid and ate it all the time as a young adult, because there is so much marketing around cereal. meanwhile, from a metabolic perspective, it's like filling a bowl with jolly ranchers and dumping milk on it. it's insane.

alternatively, one could buy steel cut oats for cheap as balls and throw them in a cheap rice cooker to have pretty badass oatmeal that won't fuck your metabolism all up... it will actually improve your heart and gut health. there are more instant options, and steel cut does take longer to soften, but it should be the cheapest/healthiest. and if you want it to be a treat, put honey or maple syrup all up in it, brown sugar, frozen fruit whatever. and you can eat your fill, not have a sugar crash, actually be sated from actual protein + fiber, and it won't come even close to the price per bowl of cereal. not to mention, no milk.... which is also expensive no matter if if it's animal or plant based. oatmeal is just oats, water, and whatever you throw in there on a whim to jazz it up.

[–] [email protected] 14 points 1 week ago

You can even do overnight oats (just soak them in water in the fridge) which is super easy. Then heat them up in the morning if you want to have a hot bowl.

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[–] [email protected] 39 points 1 week ago (4 children)

For like 95% of foods the store brand is literally the same thing as the name brand, Processed in the same facility and everything. The literal only differences are the packaging and the price.

[–] [email protected] 33 points 1 week ago

Capitalism is when you have the freedom of choice of different colors of labels

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[–] [email protected] 39 points 1 week ago (2 children)

Anyone else find it weird she keeps bringing up that her husband has an ‘engineer’ mindset?

It seems like she is saying her feminine brain couldn’t possibly comprehend comparing product prices and her big brain engineer husband had to come help her.

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[–] [email protected] 31 points 1 week ago (1 children)

this has nothing to do with his engineering mindset, you just grew up in excess and didn't ever have to think about any expense in your life until you had to

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[–] [email protected] 31 points 1 week ago (1 children)

What's really sick is that companies can charge these markups in the first place and people don't even blink

[–] [email protected] 31 points 1 week ago

Marketing and branding is literally the brainwashing they accuse commies of being able to do with our page-long paragraphs that explain why a lump of iron is the same price as a linen coat

[–] [email protected] 31 points 1 week ago (2 children)

Everybody is focusing on them being rich and not realizing these obvious things but the other conclusion is that the engineer finally got to use his engineering skill set irl because he went outside

[–] [email protected] 24 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I've more been wondering if he's actually using his engineer skill or if he just fell back to some old college struggle era habits.

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[–] [email protected] 30 points 1 week ago

My stupid woman brain wasn't big enough to buy the cheaper product, so I needed a man to compare two numbers for me.

I was expecting a "divorce should be punishable by death" or similar line that chuds and tradwhatevers like to follow this garbage with.

[–] [email protected] 29 points 1 week ago (2 children)

No I will not stop buying candles

[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 week ago

Yankee candle patriot scented

[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 week ago

Buy generic brand candles.

[–] [email protected] 26 points 1 week ago (2 children)

It's like the stories about couples making 6 figure salaries and living paycheck to paycheck, it's because they can't envision living less of a bougie lifestyle.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 week ago

Yea, but they've typically taken on huge mortgages.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 week ago

they're goldfish that're growing to the size their environment allows them to never anticipating the possibility they may need to go back to a smaller tank

[–] [email protected] 24 points 1 week ago

A lot of people are going to have to learn these skills. I’m thankful that my parents were frugal/poorish when I was young.

[–] [email protected] 23 points 1 week ago (2 children)

This is going to be used to say there's no food cost problems because this person saved money by changing their shopping habits so you can to, even though the people being lectured are already doing this and more.

Also, what the fuck is with them and buying food at Walmart? You're relatively well off and you're not going to the nicer grocery stores? So weird.

[–] [email protected] 16 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I'll put it like this

Chicago suburbs

Wal-Mart may legitimately be the only actual grocery store nearby

That and Wal-Mart has a reputation for being the cheapest option (which is not true, at least for a lot of stuff. Canned vegetables are probably the only thing Wal-Mart will actually save you money on)

Hell, where i live, I either drive the 20 minutes to Wal-Mart or do my grocery shopping at the 7/Eleven or the slumlord grocery store where they'll sell you expired shit at three times the price

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[–] [email protected] 22 points 1 week ago (2 children)

I used to spend about $30/week on groceries. Now it's about $80/week just shopping for myself. I'm on track for $1860 for a family of 6 the way I shop and eat.

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[–] [email protected] 22 points 1 week ago

His engineering mindset means no impulse buys and less food waste
Ever the engineer, my husband pulled out his phone to show me some of the side-by-side price comparisons he made
but he approaches grocery shopping with his engineering mindset

"My little trad wife pea brain couldn't grasp the concept of comparing two numbers, so my husband, an engineer, had to put his engineering mindset to work and engineer a way to buy the thing with the smaller number... did I mention my husband is an engineer?"

Jesus fucking deep fried Christ.

[–] [email protected] 21 points 1 week ago (1 children)

really bold to write an article where the headline is just "i'm a dumb sack of shit"

i fuckin hate article writers man

[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Being bad at groceries is nothing compared to this.

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[–] [email protected] 20 points 1 week ago (5 children)

Buying groceries on a budget is a skill acquired via slight starvation and desperation.

I grew up watching my mom cut coupons sunday night to go grocery shopping the following monday. I had Froot Loops maybe once or twice a year if the coupon brought the price below whatever generic was available, other wise it was 'fruit flavored rings' the rest of the year.

I shop almost the exact same way and always have. I keep a close eye on an item's price per oz. I use coupons. I buy ibuprofen instead of Advil. If i ingest some THC, i do it after grocery shopping. I make sure im not hungry in the slightest before i go shopping. I make a rough menu weekly based on sales that week. I go grocery shopping on Monday like my mom does. I occasionally buy in bulk and break things down into portions. Ive taught my children to eat what the feel they need without being over portioning. I buy very little convenience products, and buy items in the most unfinished state possible as everything goes up in cost the more it is touched by human hands. I buy vegetables/fruits when they are in season, and only when they are in season, although i had more leeway here than most due to living a stones throw from Mexico where a third grow season makes a lot of vegetables/fruits always in season and available.

I have a lot of buddies who wander the aisles, stoned out of their minds, or with empty growling stomachs and baskets full of name branded stuff in individual portion sizes, and wonder why their grocery bill is 350+ weekly while mine is about that much for a full month.

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[–] [email protected] 19 points 1 week ago (3 children)

But the ranch savings may be one of our biggest. Switching from Hidden Valley at $6.97 to Great Value at $3.54 saves us $3.43 per bottle, and no one can even tell the difference.

Bullshit! There is an obvious difference in taste and texture. You are STARVING your family of ESSENTIAL foodstuffs! Moreover, you should be buying Ken's Steakhouse!

[–] [email protected] 15 points 1 week ago

also you can buy like a gallon of ranch at costco/samsclub, also you can also buy ranch mix and also make a barrel at home, also you can also

[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 week ago (5 children)

You're eating the slop of swine with Ken's steakhouse!

The real mayo master race enjoy Kenji's serious mayonnaise!

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[–] [email protected] 15 points 1 week ago (4 children)

As a family of six

is it 1925 again?

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[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 week ago (2 children)

engineering mindset

God, I went to engineering school and even at my most obnoxious I hated the people who made their education their identity. I hate people who say "engineers think differently" with a passion.

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[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 week ago (2 children)

Tow thousand dollars, on what? A fucking cow???

[–] [email protected] 18 points 1 week ago

Name brands for everything apparently, not buying in bulk when it made sense to, and the lady didn't even use coupons from weekly ads that were available. Every poor family probably already does already probably buys generic and utilizes sales and coupons whenever they can. So I imagine this entire article is aimed at families that have never had to worry about their food budget until recently and are now discovering the things everyone else has been doing for a long ass time.

But to give a tiny bit of credit towards the author kids are notoriously wasteful of food. They'll take one bite of something decide they are full or previously favorite foods are now yucky, or just straight up drop it on the ground. Parents often become human garbage disposals to avoid food waste.

There's ways to minimize this such as exposing your kid to "ugly" fruits and vegetables, thoughtful eating habits, educating your kids on food waste of course, etc. Sometimes kids are gonna kid though, so you're always going to have moments where they waste food.

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