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Trans Megathread from February 3rd, 2024 to February 9th, 2024 (hexbear.net)
submitted 2 months ago by AshenWolf@hexbear.net to c/traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns@hexbear.net
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Hi everybody! My schedule has been really unforgiving, so I may or may not end up writing something and making changes to the post later in the week.

Regardless, I hope you all have a good week!

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[–] LocalOaf@hexbear.net 10 points 2 months ago (2 children)

Money longer than KD's feet

dracula-flow gangster-spongebob

bawllin-sad niko-dunk

[–] inTheShadowOf@hexbear.net 10 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Money got longer, speaker got louder, car got faster

dancing-roach

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[–] LocalOaf@hexbear.net 9 points 2 months ago

Call me Ben Simmons, cuz I don't play at ALL

[–] 0x2640@hexbear.net 10 points 2 months ago

awwwwruf

[–] Eco@hexbear.net 10 points 2 months ago (1 children)

it's 2025 and i'm not afraid to say it: ryan and sharpay are better than troy and gabriella

[–] Frogmanfromlake@hexbear.net 9 points 2 months ago

There was this gossip website I used to browse that I can’t find anymore. It was largely comprised of older queer people who would gossip about Hollywood from the Golden Age to the 80’s.

It was from them that I learned the rumors of Mickey Rooney secretly visiting glory holes and Walt Disney possibly having a fling with a starlet.

[–] Eco@hexbear.net 9 points 2 months ago (1 children)
  • elder scrolls: john cena
  • elder scrolls ii: doggerland
  • elder scrolls iii: morrissey
  • elder scrolls iv: bolivian
  • elder scrolls v: scarab
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[–] Wendy_Pleakley@hexbear.net 9 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (2 children)

friendship, dysphoriaI still don't get how things go from "we see each other in class and interact positively" to "we text regularly outside of obligations and make an effort to spend time together", let alone "we travel to see each other and consider each other close". My classmates have all been in school together for years already. These people have histories and pasts with each other. I don't know if I'll ever have a past or a history or a long-running kind of anything with anyone. A Man Without Relation.

Someone asked me what I do outside of school and my brain short-circuited. All I felt comfortable saying was "YouTube" because "smoke weed and wish I were a girl" is kind of off-putting? Runner ups include failing to choose a new TV show or video game, or pacing around my apartment.

I wish there were a way to guarantee that a social interaction would be positive. I feel like I just keep waiting for a social cue that isn't coming, some obvious sign that it's okay to ask questions, it's okay to say how I feel, it's okay to want to hang out. I can't imagine any outcome other than a no. Truly.

If I felt like I could try and make girl friends without feeling like a guy who is trying to make girl friends and more like someone who is just naturally becoming friends with people who are naturally and obviously becoming friends with him/them, then maybe it would be easier. If I just were a girl, and just were 7 years younger, maybe, but obviously it didn't happen that way.

Like goddamn I just want to be cute and silly and whisper about dumb shit in my room together and go shopping and try on makeup and outfits and hold hands and gaze at the stars and go on drives and shit. If I knew how and where and when to want that you would have to put me down to get me to stop having that for myself. I'm that fucking confused and livid at everyone and everything

[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 9 points 2 months ago (3 children)

spoilerSounds like you should pick up some kind of hobby or volunteering! Then you'll have something interesting to say next time~ its also a good way to make friends. I used to volunteer at the animal shelter and I did a lot of board games, board games are a little harder cause you generally need other people. You could look through stuff like meet up for DnD oneshots, that's a good way of finding people who are into other stuff like war game minis, other ttrpgs, board games, etc. One time someone invited me to sing at a Catholic choir so, uh, I did that for a few months lol. There's lots of other hobbies, RC airplanes, gardening, painting, video games, anime apparently counts as a hobby

One of the hard thing about making friends is that gap between reaching out and finding out if you're being rejected or they accept going out to do things. It's not easy, it can be scary. Sometimes you'll have to invite people out, more rarely you're going to have to agree to go out and do things you may not be into (me singing in the catholic church) but you want to let the friendship grow. Rejection is always going to be hard but the more it happens the lower the stakes get, eventually you get to a point where if someone turns you down for a hangout you think somethings wrong with them vs something wrong with you.

The thing you point out about friendship between women, the thing you seem to be longing for, you can have it. It's going to be easier if you start to some out socially. I had a way easier time with friendship with women and getting in those kinds of spaces after I socially transitioned. If you want to start, maybe change your pronouns here (I'm assuming you want to be in a she/her or they/she kind of zone, excuse me if that's not true, you're not the first person I've met who thinks they have to "deserve" those pronouns vs realizing they have the right by mere fact of what they want). And it's going to take some time to start getting more intense and closer where you can hang out and suggest going for a night drive spontaneously, but shorter than you might expect!

I wouldn't get hung up on not being a cis women and older, that doesn't mean you don't deserve to have friends with the people you're around it means you have something real and interesting to offer by dint of your experience.

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[–] amberSuperMario@lemmygrad.ml 9 points 2 months ago (2 children)

Girl who becomes anti-authoritarian because the Royal Rat Authority is making her too angry

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[–] buh@hexbear.net 9 points 2 months ago (1 children)

unhinged thoughts about gender and sexuality
spoiler do cishet guys ever think "it would be funny if people thought we were a gay couple since we're always together lol" do cishet guys ever think "I'm glad I met a girl who accepts me even though I'm kind of a feminine guy" :::

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[–] LocalOaf@hexbear.net 9 points 2 months ago (4 children)

Sick and fucking feeling like absolute dog shit and in too much pain to really sleep and am so exhausted

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[–] Eco@hexbear.net 9 points 2 months ago (2 children)

my muscles don't hurt nearly as much after woking out yesterday

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[–] ComradeMonotreme@hexbear.net 9 points 2 months ago

iZombie was a really great show that basically disappeared from public consciousness the minute it finished.

[–] Tomboymoder@hexbear.net 9 points 2 months ago (8 children)

Idk if this bra is the wrong size or it’s just supposed to feel this way.

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[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 9 points 2 months ago (3 children)

I read Silence, I liked it, it was interesting. I came away wondering about self-sacrifice. Martyrdom is a constant theme (they're dealing with pretty intense suppression of Japanese Christianity in the 1600s), it's something we see people go through and Roderigues own thoughts evolve on.

It's never easy when your fate is held in someone elses hands but I do wonder if it's easier to die for your beliefs or to live for them.

spoiler, actual spoilers lolRodrigues has to commit apostaty by stepping on an image of Christ. The meaning in the act is drained as much as possible by the Japanese magistrate, they reassure everyone that stepping on the fumie is just a formality and they will not and can not stop them from believing regardless - later we find out apostate Japanese are tortured until Roderigues regents. But the act on stepping on the image of Christ is so tied up in Roderigues world view that he still imbues it with intense symbolic meaning. He is told this will be the most painful act of love he will commit in his life, and it probably is.

He came to Japan with Garrp, another priest, who also can't bring himself to commit apostasy and swims out to the ocean trying to save some tortured Christians before drowning. He was willing to die for his beliefs. But the torture didn't stop, it only did with Roderigues who was willing to live for them. Years later he still provides absolution (the catholic penitence right) to a recurring character, and in real life the church survived and there are still Christians practicing openly in Japan today.

It made me think if there's some critical moment in my life, some disaster, there are things I'd be willing to die for. But choosing self sacrifice and having to live with it, for years and decades, that might be harder.

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[–] JohnBrownsBussy2@hexbear.net 9 points 2 months ago

Intramuscular dose 2 - complete! Much better this time. Only needed on set of syringe/needles, and I realized that I had under-dosed by a mg last time so this time I gave myself the proper dose. This was on the left leg, and I don't think I pulled out the needle a great angle however so it feels a bit irritated, but otherwise fine.

[–] Kuori@hexbear.net 9 points 2 months ago

cw: drug usefeeling like i picked a good week to stop smoking weed agony-4horsemen

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