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Trans Megathread from January 13th, 2024 to January 19th, 2024 (hexbear.net)

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"Nearly every social event I have attended with [communists] has inevitably had some conversation about linux, furry culture, obscure leftist history, tabletop games, or other equally nerdy subjects"

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[-] [email protected] 11 points 5 months ago

Went out shopping (for a bit) in full femme outfit today: black tank top + b/w flannel + leather jacket + full makeup. I was wearing a mask since I am still coughing/recovering, but I had full eye makeup (shiny eyeshadow, eyeliner, mascara and brow pencil). Also wearing a layered chain necklace and a matching studded choker, along with a studded belt and combat boots. Outerwear was a black leather coat. It was really fun, and I want to post it to RedNote but I don't know what tags to use

CW: Dysphoria, passing anxiety

Right before going out, I sent some pics to a male friend (platonic) that I am out to see if he thought whether my mask made me "look more femme" (i.e., help getting closer to passing). He said there was no difference. I don't think he was being mean, but that really hurt for some reason.

I've mostly just come out to my old gaming buddies, who are unfortunately cismen. I need to come out to my women friends in town to get better opinions and advice, and I desperately need to make friends with local trans people.

[-] [email protected] 11 points 5 months ago

I feel like cis men are gonna be clueless about transition stuff

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[-] [email protected] 11 points 5 months ago

ready penis one

[-] [email protected] 11 points 5 months ago

old-fashioned with shrimple syrup

[-] [email protected] 11 points 4 months ago

Do I message the admins if I want new pronouns added? Craving cat based pronouns.

Also at that there's so many cat/kitten based pronouns I can't decide which I like best

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[-] [email protected] 11 points 5 months ago

45 minutes wasted so far today from my coworkers not being able to weigh ingredients properly

[-] [email protected] 11 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

dysphoria

"self care" actually sucks ass and I remember why I neglect myself. Holy shit I never want to shave again. Fucking awful. Now that my clothes are back on I think I'm stabilizing but I went from "okay" to very much not okay.

Didn't even get half done kitty-cri-potato god I have to force myself to do that again don't I. And soon all that work will be gone.

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[-] [email protected] 11 points 5 months ago

socially awkward bullshit, misgendering, spaghetti and self outting for no good reason

Had a weird interaction irl where I got flustered about a stranger misgendering me and just blurted out me outing myself

The key fob thing at my gym went out at some point between when I got there today and when these other people showed up, so I kept having to open the door for them and explain it to them

This one (very attractive tbh, like idk really how I feel about cis women at this point TBH but like, damn girl, good for you, she probably has never skipped a squat set) has me open the door for her, I explain everything, right after she shows up and says she's gonna send the owner a thing about the key thing, this older (busted tbh but she was weird to me so I don't feel bad about saying that) lady shows up

I let her in while she's locked out

First thing she says is some shit about some Sinclair ass local news shit she saw like "I saw a thing about how this lady opened the door at her gym for a stranger and then he assaulted her!!'

...and I'm just like, "well for the record I'm queer, so don't worry"

Haven't outed myself to a stranger in a long time but fuck, what a weird interaction

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[-] [email protected] 11 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

CW: Transphobia, identification documents, health insurance, forced outing

More fuckery with my passport application. After sending it in for a correction after they failed to put the correct gender marker on it, they now sent me a letter (which took a week to arrive) that I need to send in my birth certificate. As far as I can tell from the state department website, there is no requirement to send in proof of citizenship with a DS-5504, so I am annoyed and nervous. I am including another letter with the relevant web pages about the data correction and gender marker change policies, but I am beginning to despair. I am now worried that the policy could change before the processing of the passport is complete.

Health insurance at work is also starting to be a nightmare. The HR system allows you not to disclose gender/sex, but that's fake because you have to pick a binary sex for the health insurance. The HR representative also used transphobic language in the email letting me know about this, so that's pretty bad as well. I put it down as female, and then updated my gender identity info as well to make it clear. Not adding pronouns yet since that pops up without digging into the profile, so at least I can avoid that involuntary outing, but it really sucks overall.

I am now worried that the insurance company is going to ask for proof of sex at some point, and until I get my passport I don't have any IDs that have the correct gender marker (updating state ID is out of the question).

meow-tableflip

agony-deep

[-] [email protected] 11 points 5 months ago

Once nice thing about RedNote is I have a place to post self pics that have an effectively 0% chance of being seen by my (anti-China) family.

[-] [email protected] 11 points 5 months ago

i finally finished children of memory and came to report it, just to find out that it's no longer my megathread :cri:

spoiler

i get why this book is kinda divisive - it breaks from the format of the first two heavily - but i loved it, though i'll admit i'm still processing the final 100 or so pages. the idea of the machine itself being sentient (or as sentient as anything can be) is a pretty fascinating question though

[-] [email protected] 11 points 5 months ago

dysphoria posting, kind of but not really

i only ever have two moods anymore

sicko-no "I don't pass!" (I look like a man and people gender me as male and I feel bad)

sicko-yes "I don't pass!" (I am a menace to gender norms and society with just my very presence)

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[-] [email protected] 10 points 5 months ago

it's bolshevikProglace now. lea-smug

small nsfw

if this doesn't make me eepy and/or horny i want a refund

[-] [email protected] 10 points 5 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

::: spoiler dysphoria, suicide My brothers went to the liquor store without me, my cousins are all friends and have excluded me and my siblings, I want to be launched into the sun, and I don't think anyone would care if I disappeared. My presence has no impact.

Shit weekend. I wasted it. Nobody sees me. God fucking dammit. I want to disappear

I feel more and more like I can only do self-care by shutting everyone out and deciding that I don't care anymore. And that's a hard thing to face, because I feel really let down. I was supposed to communicate perfectly in order to get help, and I couldn't, so no wonder I'm where I'm at. It stinks.

I don't like having violent thoughts. I don't know where to put this shit. I could scream at everyone. I could break something. If this is all a lie let me just blow it the fuck up and start over without any pretense of having somebody

Like I have been dead fucking alone with my thoughts for half a decade. I could rip my hair out but it's probably gonna fall out on its own. Then I'll look even more like a guy. What a strapping ~~young~~ man.

Obviously I'm stupid for expecting someone to notice an abrupt and obvious change in my behaviors. Obviously I expect too much from people. Which tells me that I, once again, have let everyone down. Like, this shit never ends! I don't understand the distinction between having zero expectations from others and just not caring. I'm getting really close to not caring what happens. It sucks.

I just wanna disappear and transition and never have to deal with these people again. It's not even that they aren't accepting,they just don't see me regardless and I feel invisible. I just want a new life with people who I don't have to wonder if they care or not. Like I am so sick of all of it and nobody caring. Am I a psychopath for being sad and hoping that someone notices. Am I really just supposed to say "hey can we talk . uh uh I'm SAD!" like a toddler. What the fuck am I supposed to do

[-] [email protected] 10 points 5 months ago

Ash was such a fake friend trading Butterfree for a rat, don't care for the 10 year old excuse I was a perfect 10 yo myself who never traded one of my friends

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[-] [email protected] 10 points 5 months ago

Omg modded Minecraft is so much fun

[-] [email protected] 10 points 5 months ago

unlimited rice on the hexbear world

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[-] [email protected] 10 points 5 months ago

i swear to god every time i see office workers reminiscing on the time they got to stay home and bake sourdough or whatever while there was a plague i want to injure them

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[-] [email protected] 10 points 5 months ago

Feelin' tired and sad today

catgirl-flop

Keep thinking about a stranger I ran into yesterday and wish I had been more outgoing and friendly, they seemed cool but I was stressed out and probably seemed bitchy and not very approachable

I feel like such a fuckin' goober a lot of the time in public but worry that I come across as intimidating or something

[-] [email protected] 10 points 5 months ago

She judge my slop too harshly

[-] [email protected] 10 points 5 months ago

Is anybody here particularly good with character design or color theory? I'm trying to figure out what colored clothing/armor would go well with colored hair, and I always tend to fall on whites/greys/blacks.

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[-] [email protected] 10 points 5 months ago

mental health, family shit, trauma but like, turning a corner and optimistic

Had an awful day and a really ugly family blowup

Thought I might actually lose it

Made it through the day with no incidents

Even did my gym sets and got girl scout cookies ordered from (former) crush (they're apparently a troupe leader and have been since they were a kid? Anyways yay cookies, they're nice and I think I'm mostly over my emo shit about that but w/e)

Anyways despite having been really tempted to commit (several) felonies and barely preventing myself from that, I decided after that to find a therapist again and work on CPTSD shit

I may not be able to fully get my shit together yet, but I'm now open to consulting with a shit-cartographer to at least map out where my shit isn't together

lady-doge

[-] [email protected] 10 points 5 months ago

genital-related query

Is it weird to moisturize your balls? doggirl-sweat

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[-] [email protected] 10 points 5 months ago

The new partner love is flowing very strongly. Trying to get prepped for Valentine's day. Anyone know of some nice stockings with hearts on them?

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