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[-] [email protected] 116 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)
[-] [email protected] 47 points 4 months ago

Jesus, two secret families just seems like a lot of work.

[-] [email protected] 35 points 4 months ago

Hold on so this guy had three different families at the same time?

What's the fucking point of living three lies

[-] [email protected] 27 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

That was how middle class boomers did unethical nonmenogamy. Cause like, the secret families probably had hobbies as well. Or they just found people who enjoyed not having a boomer man around as head of household. Thinking about it, that sounds preferable to alot of boomer relationships I hear about

[-] [email protected] 34 points 4 months ago

Imagine being able to provide for your family, let alone two.

[-] [email protected] 28 points 4 months ago

Boomers played the game of life on easy mode

[-] [email protected] 14 points 4 months ago

Yea I don't even want to live one life

[-] [email protected] 10 points 4 months ago

at that point i think it was a competition

[-] [email protected] 8 points 4 months ago

Polygamists are something else, man.

[-] [email protected] 16 points 4 months ago

My ex-uncle had like three or four and ngl he was pretty good at managing it all for decades so no one knew until it suddenly all fell apart five or six years ago

[-] [email protected] 86 points 4 months ago

What's the point of a polycule if you all live in different places? Damn, that's so much money wasted on rent.

[-] [email protected] 20 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

I don't necessarily want to live with someone I'm dating, at least in the early stages? Not all polycules are super committed relationships, or not everyone in the polycule is ay the same stage.

[-] [email protected] 6 points 4 months ago

its not my lifestyle but from the few people irl i know who do the poly thing its generally like this there is a primary couple and then like 2 or 3 people who are part of it but those people are a bit more casual it seems... i dunno

[-] [email protected] 16 points 4 months ago

What's the point of a polycule if you all live together?

[-] [email protected] 23 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

Saves on rent and easier access to leftovers. As a polyamorous person myself there is an aspect where you appreciate being part of the destruction of the standard liberal American relationship model as well.

[-] [email protected] 10 points 4 months ago

I enjoy my family but I also enjoy being alone

[-] [email protected] 16 points 4 months ago

I enjoy being alone, but I don't enjoy it as much as the 50% of my pay cheque that would otherwise be going to rent

[-] [email protected] 7 points 4 months ago
[-] [email protected] 12 points 4 months ago

ive been living with my wife for like 20 years i couldnt imagine not having someone in another room i couldnt have a quick adhd stim where i have to run in there and tell them the interesting (to me) thing i just heard real quick like im 5 years old

youd think 20 years of her sighing and pausing her tv show to hear me out (and not be interested in it all) would have driven her away by now but this is our routine and im not changing at this point in my life so

[-] [email protected] 7 points 4 months ago

Can relate. For a while I was going literal months without getting an hour (even a minute )alone at the place. Both my roommates finally held some stable work over the holidays and it was amazing.

[-] [email protected] 6 points 4 months ago

Did you had your own room at least?

[-] [email protected] 5 points 4 months ago

Thankfully yes, though I can't always keep it closed because my cat gets nosy, then loses interest, then gets nosy again. I can ride the high I got from having 5 hours to myself last month, but it can be really needling to live with introverts that work part time.

Might plan out a camping trip in the spring just to get away from people.

[-] [email protected] 41 points 4 months ago
[-] [email protected] 20 points 4 months ago

lGPL licensing of your intentionally buggy djikstra implementation to deflect from the fact that yes you did pick favorites

[-] [email protected] 39 points 4 months ago

As an aside there are alot of break up posts getting posted on Tik Tok today over the fires

[-] [email protected] 19 points 4 months ago

Why? People dump their partners if they don't have a house anymore?

Hmm, I wouldn't be surprised if it was that

[-] [email protected] 27 points 4 months ago

Alot of relationships can't handle a day's worth of stress or couples see how their counterpart behaves in emergencies for the first time and people get the ick

At least that seems to be the common pattern for the videos I've watched

[-] [email protected] 8 points 4 months ago

any good ones to share?

[-] [email protected] 2 points 4 months ago

This was also true for corona, tons of people suddenly realizing that they can't stand each other if they're together in one place 24/7

[-] [email protected] 16 points 4 months ago

I mean, surely you would decide the order based on location and dangerous areas right? Like? If you're the farthest one and you get picked up last that makes sense?

Doesn't seem like that was the situation for her in this case tho based on tone

[-] [email protected] 14 points 4 months ago

Yeah, that was my first thought. Triage but for picking people up in the polycule

[-] [email protected] 2 points 4 months ago

No. Those with the biggest, jiggliest boobs or lowest hanging sacks get picked up first. No exceptions.

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