(i ripped this off wikipedia real fast so sorry if it's lib)

In October 1776, the Public Universal Friend contracted an epidemic disease and was bedridden and near death with a high fever. Their family summoned a doctor from Attleboro, six miles away, and neighbors kept up a death-watch at night. The fever broke after several days. The Friend later reported that [deadname redacted] had died, receiving revelations from God through two archangels who proclaimed there was "Room, Room, Room, in the many Mansions of eternal glory for Thee and for everyone". The Friend further said that [deadname redacted]'s soul had ascended to heaven and the body had been reanimated with a new spirit charged by God with preaching his word, that of the "Publick Universal Friend", describing that name in the words of Isaiah 62:2 as "a new name which the mouth of the Lord hath named".

From that time on, the Friend refused to answer to their deadname, ignoring or chastising those who insisted on using it. When visitors asked if it was the name of the person they were addressing, the Friend simply quoted Luke 23:3 ("thou sayest it").β€Š Identifying as neither male nor female, the Friend asked not to be referred to with gendered pronouns. Followers respected these wishes; they referred only to "the Public Universal Friend" or short forms such as "the Friend" or "P.U.F.", and many avoided gender-specific pronouns even in private diaries. When someone asked if the Friend was male or female, the preacher replied "I am that I am", saying the same thing to a man who criticized the Friend's manner of dress (adding, in the latter case, "there is nothing indecent or improper in my dress or appearance; I am not accountable to mortals").

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[–] [S, M] 22 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (15 children)

hi, does anyone wanna make the mega in the upcoming weeks? if so, reply to this post and i'll add you to the list!

the list as it stands:

Thallo (10/21 - 10/27)
GenderIsOpSec (10/28 - 11/3)
TheChemist (11/4 - 11/10)
oscardejarjayes* (11/11 - 11/17)
HelltakerHomosexual* (11/18 - 11/24)
GayTuckerCarlson* (11/25 - 12/1)
Luna* (12/2 - 12/8)
Eco* (12/9 - 12/15)

​ * after name denotes someone who has posted before and will be skipped by first-time posters

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    [–] 31 points 2 years ago (6 children)

    I used to pressure my guy friends into wearing my dresses and then I would nearly die of envy after seeing them in my dress.

    Can’t wait till I’m muscular and manly so I can wear dresses again.

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    [–] 29 points 2 years ago (5 children)

    Listening to a guy rattle off paragraphs about his favourite slop, nodding along and agreeing, and then right when he's done, dismissing the entire thing because the slop is misogynistic as fuck mari-smug

    The stupid "buzzkill feminist" thing was actually invented for me.

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    [–] 29 points 2 years ago (4 children)

    I volunteered for a task at work that requires me record myself.

    I have to say, "This is MR. [Dead name]" at the beginning of each recording. Then I have to hear my voice when reviewing the recordings.

    Is this self harm? It's probably self harm wtf

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    [–] 29 points 2 years ago (3 children)

    "there is nothing indecent or improper in my dress or appearance; I am not accountable to mortals"

    lea-bounce waow-based lets-fucking-go

    The Friend is definitely near the top of the list of "dope historical figures I'd want to go hang out with if I had a time machine"

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    [–] 29 points 2 years ago (8 children)
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    [–] 28 points 2 years ago (1 child)

    Out of all the historical (like pre-20th century) transes I looked for years ago, PUF was easily the most based.

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    [–] 28 points 2 years ago* (2 children)

    pronouns requested in the gender survey have been added. ae/aer, thon/thons, pup/pups, ee/ees, and em/ems.

    https://hexbear.net/post/3712030

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    [–] 27 points 2 years ago (3 children)

    The PUF! lea-happy

    Fuck NPR I remember years ago they were doing a piece on the PUF and deadnamed and misgendered them constantly

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    [–] 25 points 2 years ago (22 children)

    they/theming transfemsI keep getting they/them'd by people who know I prefer she/her. And I mean honestly I vibe with they/them and might set them as secondary pronouns on this site. But it would be nice to be she/her'd at least once in a while, considering that's how I ask to be referred to as.

    I get that I'm mostly masc presenting right now, but I really shouldn't have to earn the right to be she/her'd. It really feels like they're saying "it feels weird to call this man she, but I can compromise with a they so that he doesn't get on my case about it."

    Even though I like they/them pronouns, it's starting to feel very tiring and invalidating considering the relative frequency.

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    [–] 25 points 2 years ago (4 children)

    It's official. I have plans to go shopping for girl clothes with a friend once I get paid

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    [–] 25 points 2 years ago

    i call her my wife and she loves it. i call her my waifu one time...

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  • [–] 25 points 2 years ago (1 child)

    My hair is the longest that it's ever been in my life, but I seem to be getting to a point where I'll need to purchase some better-fitting shower caps.

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    [–] 25 points 2 years ago (3 children)

    god i love reporting comments on this website (for valid reasons, transgenderly). having a mod team that doesn't suck rules.

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    [–] 25 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (13 children)

    Really shook up the status quo tonight, came out to a long time friend. First time telling someone other then you all.

    It went well, he is supportive and reminded me he's my friend. Asked what pronouns I'd want around other friends too, which I forgot to bring up.

    I never like change, I am very fearful about this one, but it is actually going okay so far. Thank you to all the mega posters, I would not be where I am without you cat-trans

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    [–] 25 points 2 years ago (11 children)

    powercry-2 I DON WANNA PLAY WIT LEGOS

    I DON WANNA CLEAN MY ROOM niko-cri

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    [–] 24 points 2 years ago

    the government should pay me for anything transition-related ie. hormones, clothes, haircuts, ffs

    it's in the public interest that i'm as hot as possible

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  • [–] 24 points 2 years ago* (3 children)

    One of my friends was like, yo, even if you're just enby, you're not cis and don't wanna be cis, you should post on the trans mega!

    So, uh, hey all, how we doing? Gonna make a dal with canned pumpkin in it this weekend

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    [–] 23 points 2 years ago (1 child)

    MFW i check out my ass in the mirror only to realize i've been wearing my panties inside out all day

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    [–] 23 points 2 years ago* (3 children)

    come out at work on the 31st, telling everyone that my halloween costume is a woman

    just keep doing it for the rest of my employment there

    chat i think i found the best way to come out at work

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    [–] 23 points 2 years ago (3 children)

    The Friend's theology was broadly similar to that of most Quakers. The Friend stressed free will, opposed slavery,

    john-brown

    and supported sexual abstinence.

    volcel Friend? volcel-judge

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  • [–] 21 points 2 years ago (1 child)

    Around 1785, the Friend met Sarah and Abraham Richards. The Richards' unhappy marriage ended in 1786, when Abraham died on a visit to the Friend. Sarah, together with her infant daughter, took up residence with the Friend, adopted a similarly androgynous hairstyle, dress, and mannerisms (as did a few other close female friends), and came to be called Sarah Friend.

    just Roommates

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    [–] 23 points 2 years ago (1 child)

    Being ace and hot is so strange. makima-think

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    [–] 23 points 2 years ago (5 children)

    Are trans people genuinely this much cooler than cis people or did I just get unlucky with the cis people in my life and lucky with the trans people?

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    [–] 23 points 2 years ago (4 children)

    Readiing this thread, there's lots of sad queers who cant sleep

    I am now obligated to point out it is a full moon

    Solidarity

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    [–] 23 points 2 years ago (13 children)

    I love how many transgender people have a secret extra set of pronouns they divulge as you get to know them.

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    [–] 23 points 2 years ago (5 children)

    I’ve been broke and unable to afford testosterone and it’s killing me. Been off of it for months now

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    [–] 23 points 2 years ago* (3 children)

    Spotting trans mega posters outside the trans mega is the ultimate crossover event, such a rare and pleasant treat kel-bliss

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    [–] 23 points 2 years ago (1 child)

    agony-wholesome tiddies hurting which means tiddies are growing, but owie

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    [–] 22 points 2 years ago (1 child)

    I’m scared no matter how much HRT changes me, how much weight I lose, how good I get at fashion or makeup or hair care…BDD will forever have me only seeing a guy in the mirror. doggirl-gloom

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    [–] 22 points 2 years ago* (1 child)

    to backup my disability application my GP gave me a bunch of old correspondence between the psych hospital I was inpatient at for a while and him. some highlights:

    medical transphobia


    my old head doctor from the hospital, now retired, repeatedly misgenders me in a letter from last year when we had already been working together for a year or so. fuck doctors!

    my intake overview refers to me as "a female transgender". this one was just funny to me lol, very old school. obviously it is transphobic but it gave me a laugh. anyway just wild having hard personal evidence of the medical field being decades behind when it comes to dealing with us... I've thankfully got private option too, I'd say it's even worse here if you have to go public.

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    [–] 22 points 2 years ago (1 child)

    Today, I actually stopped and looked at my shadow instead of just avoiding it and didn't completely hate what I saw.
    That's progress of a sort, I guess madeline-smug

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    [–] 22 points 2 years ago* (10 children)

    sometimes this site is exhausting tbh. why is it that people here love armchair moralizing about other peoples’ decisions that don’t affect them (this is about the β€œeating slop” thread but i see it elsewhere too) without maybe considering that disabled people exist under capitalism too. i almost want to report that thread for ableism tbh.

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    [–] 22 points 2 years ago (6 children)

    Going for my 4th laser session! lets-fucking-go

    @UlyssesT@hexbear.net call the Drej laser to nuke my facial hair from orbit!

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    [–] 22 points 2 years ago (17 children)

    My little sister fretted about turning 18, she thought she was gonna be too old. She wanted to look like a teenager forever, which... ugh I know she just was but personally when I was that age it was a relief to finally be an adult and get out from being told what to do all the time

    Reminded me of the young twinks lamenting their twink death at 19 lol

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    [–] 22 points 2 years ago (2 children)

    coworker: you never respond to me

    me: when have I ever ignored you?

    coworker: yesterday I asked you three things and all you said was "I'm sleepy"

    I don't even remember that kobeni-sweat

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    [–] 22 points 2 years ago (1 child)

    Got called "lady" by a stranger at the grocery store. They don't know I'm actually a nasty gremlin aubrey-smug

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    [–] 22 points 2 years ago

    Hate that it feels like you have to walk on eggshells around so many cis people. You never know who is gonna take it as a deep personal insult if you politely request them not to say certain things.

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  • [–] 22 points 2 years ago (3 children)

    I love you all genuinely. I cherish reading about your livesβ€”your hobbies, your concerns, and everything that matters to you. Please know how much you are appreciated.

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    [–] 21 points 2 years ago (4 children)

    health, weight, positivity

    Getting closer to hitting 20 pounds lost! lets-fucking-go sitting at 18 as of today. Not too far off from being under 200

    Been doing okay staying up on exercise and weight training. One day I will thirst trap hexbear. That is my goal

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    [–] 21 points 2 years ago (6 children)
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    [–] 21 points 2 years ago* (2 children)

    oh good lord, my tits are slightly visible through my old dysphoria hoodie

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    [–] 21 points 2 years ago

    Not going to self doxx, but seeing one of my favorite transfem artists tonight and am so excited! transshork-happy

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  • [–] 21 points 2 years ago (2 children)

    sad

    spoiler Very very sad

    Very very lonely

    spoiler Want to talk so desperately

    But cannot be vulnerable

    spoiler People hurting hurts me

    Im surrounded by hurt people

    spoiler Im also a hurt person

    I want to be taken care of

    spoiler I want to take care of those im close to

    I just want to be held

    spoiler And told everything is ok.

    Even if its just for a night, or even just a few minutes, I want to know that its ok.

    spoiler I want to feel loved

    I am loved

    spoiler I just cant feel it.

    I can never feel it.

    spoiler I can love.

    But no matter how much someone loves me, i can never feel it.

    spoiler Im alienated from my self and my feelings of love.

    Do i even love anymore?

    spoiler or do i just chase ghosts?

    I havent had friends last more than a year, maybe two.

    spoiler Now im coming up on the time to leave again.

    Everyone always leaves me

    spoiler So i try to leave first.

    I got close to them.

    spoiler It was a mistake.

    because now i dont want to leave.

    spoiler but i have to.

    its not safe to be close to people

    spoiler its safest alone

    but alone is lonely

    spoiler i just cant find people who want to hear about my experience of life.

    except i can

    spoiler i just dont want to be close to them once they care about me

    because it isnt safe anymore

    spoiler i know its not real,

    but everyone leaves

    spoiler so i have to leave first.

    That way i dont get hurt.

    Goodnight

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    [–] 21 points 2 years ago (3 children)

    I'm trying to learn German but whenever i check a German news site, the entire front page is bombarded with "terror-group Hamas attacks peaceful Israeli citizens."

    It's fucking excruciating.

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    [–] 21 points 2 years ago (3 children)

    Goodnight, my fellow puppygirls and lovely ladies doggirl-sleep

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    [–] 21 points 2 years ago*

    They're putting me on all the estrogen. 10 mg injected estradiol valerate.

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  • [–] 21 points 2 years ago (2 children)

    anxiety/sobrietyGot an incredibly gay lil' idea for a Halloween costume that might be cute but I don't have any event to go wear it to and I'm agoraphobic and like all Halloween parties involve booze for adults and I'm holding on to the metaphorical wagon for dear life

    madeline-sadeline

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