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Sincere post, if you dare. What has this site and the people on it meant to you

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[–] [email protected] 29 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (2 children)

i see you all as tools for the destruction of all cisgenderkind cyber-lenin

[–] [email protected] 24 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago)

though for real this site has been useful for helping trans people out thanks 07

[–] [email protected] 21 points 2 weeks ago

AND PROUD OF IT leslie-shining

[–] [email protected] 29 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

i just like that i can post here and not worry about getting banned for criticizing israel, amerikka, capitalism, white supremacy, etc. i hate having to walk on eggshells on reddit and constantly getting banned/lectured to by the dumbest liberals on earth

[–] [email protected] 26 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

I got perma ban for this. This is hate speech. 😉

[–] [email protected] 16 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Honestly you're better off. Being on Reddit is self harm.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Lol, yeah. But you know, I had my communities there and communicating with people from all over the globe without thinking who they are, where they're from made me feel like I had my happy hippie place, like I'm connected to the world. And fuckers took it away from me by banning me so some zionist fuck doesn't get offended.

That day when day banned me, my ex committed suicide. I had a need to share it with someone because I don't have many people around me and unfortunately VL is my socialisation. I needed my online people that day. I wish there is a way to send a message to admins just do I can tell them to screw themselves in the ass with something hard and sand and papery for this ban.

Glad I found this place. I like it, even though it's a little bit complicated. 😅 But at least I don't have to read zio hateful disgusting bullshit.

And yeah, my mental health went to south since reddit showed me what pieces of inhumane scum live on this planet. So yeah, you're right, it really is a self harm in the end.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Oh, I'm so so sorry about your ex... Yeah, I didn't mean to downplay how much those online spaces can mean to us. It's really awful that it was taken from you for not towing the mainstream line. I have a Palestinian flag pin that I put on my backpack but I take it off when I go into the office because no one at work would sympathise and I worry about retaliation for it, so I understand. Fucked up world we live in.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 weeks ago

didn't mean to downplay how much those online spaces can mean to us.

I didn't take it as a downplaying from your comment. 🙂 Just saying that it's fucked up that those bastards are protecting Zionists' emotions and banning people without considering that maybe their platform is somewhat important to the users they're banning. And they're doing it like cowards, with a senseless bot to which every word can be forbidden word.

It's really awful that it was taken from you for not towing the mainstream line.

Oh, fuck reddit. I found Lemmy. 🙌

Oh, I'm so so sorry about your ex...

Thank you. ❤️

I have a Palestinian flag pin that I put on my backpack but I take it off when I go into the office because no one at work would sympathise and I worry about retaliation for it, so I understand. Fucked up world we live in.

We do... Fortunately, my colleagues don't say shit when I wear my keffiyeh, but even if they did, I'm feisty bitch and I would fight them over it. I'm just waiting if our stupid police will start to bug me, but I think they have bigger issues to deal with.

[–] [email protected] 26 points 2 weeks ago

Hexbear helped me deal with my dad's death. I probably don't have anything I can say that's going to be bigger than that.

[–] [email protected] 26 points 2 weeks ago

This site had been a pressure valve for me to rant and scream into a somewhat more comfortable void when I was otherwise surrounded by people I didn't like socializing with that had political views that made it hard not to stare daggers at them day after day.

Even now, in a nicer place that I'm much happier in, I have a bit of sentimentality about it and it's still a nice place to talk.

Habit-forming, unfortunately. I sometimes get so distracted being here that I put off stuff I really should have done first.

I am the posting.

[–] [email protected] 26 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (1 children)

I was on .ml for like a year so this account is new but it was what tipped me over the edge into really recognizing the lifetime of propaganda I was fed and how the people and politicians I thought were the 'good guys' do not care about people like me in the slightest. So you can say it was the final catalyst for my radical transformation.

Before I stopped using Reddit, chapo was "that one subreddit that got banned for wanting to kill people" but I started reading the posts people make here about North Korea and other countries that I made fun of and thought were just 'bad' and it made me start thinking about it.

My path was coming from being a very individualistic and selfish teenager, to a standard liberal cheering on the war on terror and several times at risk of falling into alt right ideologies, to a Bernie supporter, to a vegan, and finally ending up here. I don't want to call myself a communist or a ML yet because I don't know well enough how I'd respond if someone asked what that really meant, but I'm getting there and it feels right.

People make jokes about how posting isn't praxis and most people's time would probably be better off doing something else. But I don't think I would have gone further beyond in my intellectual and personal development and really criticized my past self to figure out why I had those views, why I was so selfish and why I and other people who still think that way are wrong. Mainly because there was nobody in my physical space that would have introduced me to those ideas.

[–] [email protected] 16 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

"that one subreddit that got banned for wanting to kill people"

big-honk Which people?

(it was slaveowners)

[–] [email protected] 5 points 2 weeks ago

Yeah, that context usually wasn't explained when other people would talk about it.

[–] [email protected] 25 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Hexbear showed that what I was seeing and thinking wasn't me being absurd, it was western society which is busted and horrific and there are frameworks through which to view about it, things to be done, and that there are soooo many leftists who aren't fuckers about queer issues.

Also the caliber of person here is on average so much fucking higher than anywhere else I've been online. What cool comrades, what incredible posters.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

rat-salute-2 You're funny and I like your posts.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 weeks ago

How dare you say nice things to me maddened and in the sincereposting thread!!! I like yours too!!

[–] [email protected] 21 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (2 children)

I don't think I'll ever be a huge, huge poster. But what this site offers to me as a lurker is hope. Sometimes I feel like we live in hell on Earth and part of the punishment is that no one else is allowed to acknowledge it, but we acknowledge it, we call it out, and we commiserate. I wish I was closer to people here but sometimes just waking up and seeing that other people see it too is enough.

[–] [email protected] 15 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Fully agreed, it’s very validating to see other people acknowledge a lot of horrible realities most handwave or deny. It can really throw you into a solipsistic spiral when everyone around you seems to gaslight you or completely deny reality as you experience it. Simply seeing other posts here that I can really relate to has helped my mental health significantly

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 weeks ago

For real, same. I think about how much I can fall into despair now even with this place, I can only imagine what it would be like without it.

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[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 weeks ago

I found a YouTube link in your comment. Here are links to the same video on alternative frontends that protect your privacy:

[–] [email protected] 21 points 2 weeks ago

EVERYTHING

genuinely not sure I'd be alive today without it

it's been a hard year, and I've been absolute ass at replying to anyone who responds to my posts, but the responses have absolutely given me life and kept me going

idk where I'd be without you fuckers ❤️ love you dearly

[–] [email protected] 20 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago)

Not part of hexbear but I think most of you are the coolest part of Lemmy especially [email protected]

[–] [email protected] 19 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

What if you yelled into the void and the void yelled back “same tbh”? Pretty neat I think.

Some of the struggle sessions were actually helpful for me, eg DPRK or transsexuality.

[–] [email protected] 14 points 2 weeks ago

Tbh, same. It’s a lot better than what usually happens when I yell into the void: fascists screaming at me

[–] [email protected] 17 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 20 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (2 children)

Modteam Michael here.

How do you know you're not asleep right now? Or that you've ever been awake at all? A study in 1966 by McGill University study showed that the brain is actually more active when it's asleep than when it's awake. The latin phrase "Cogito, ergo sum" was famously stated by Renaissance philosopher Rene Descartes, commonly translated as "I think therefore I am" but perhaps he should have said "I dream therefore I think."
Anyway, everyone posting in this thread is banned.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 2 weeks ago

GOOD comment

[–] [email protected] 6 points 2 weeks ago

Anyway, everyone posting in this thread is banned.

Damn I gotta post now

[–] [email protected] 16 points 2 weeks ago

its a fun little site

[–] [email protected] 15 points 2 weeks ago

this site is the only place on the internet where there are people with good opinions, even though there are some bad opinions as well, truly a land of contrasts

[–] [email protected] 14 points 2 weeks ago

you’re nothing more than insomnia feed to me. but please keep posting

[–] [email protected] 13 points 2 weeks ago

You know how to make me smile. The rest of the internet does the opposite, not to mention anything on the Polish side. Without Hexbear I'd be miserable.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

It’s the only place where my cynicism and disdain for the current state of the world is met with commiseration and validation. At the same time, it’s not a complete echo chamber like most spaces. There are plenty of people here that have the same perspective, but still challenge each other’s ideals in a healthy constructive way. It’s a pretty diverse place.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 2 weeks ago

a place that makes me less depressed, which actually means quite a bit

[–] [email protected] 8 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

this site made the world make sense. there's so much doublespeak that i hadn't wrapped my head around:

  • the West is historically extremely awful & the West is amazing and civilised
  • Western democracy is broken af & Western democracy is the only democracy
  • racism is minimal and actively combated against & racism is endemic
  • non-socialist anti-imperialist states actively free people & non-socialist anti-imperialist states actively oppress/colonise people

there are so many more examples, but being exposed to this site showed me there was a way out of the imperialist core. this site to me is a blessing heart-sickle

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I'm a habitual lurker on forums, but the few times I've posted/commented here have 100% been better experiences than any other site I've used. It's nice to use a site that doesn't make me feel disconnected from reality for seeing the obvious and daily indignations millions-to-billions are forced to live through just because the currently dominant economic model insists this is justthewayitis. Its really validating knowing i can trust my own eyes. The only other place I've been that is similar is irl organizing, which I've not been able to do for some time now unfortunately (and, long story short, had locally become dominated with very electoral and liberal ideas, which was incredibly disheartening).

It's great browsing a site that can both validate these frequent observations of systemic failure while continuing to challenge my own worldview. Before browsing here and lemmygrad I had felt like an "internationalist," but in the last few years here I've started realizing how big the imperial core blinders really are. I don't necessarily know what to do with that yet, but it's something I'm working on and probably ought to just discuss on here at some point.

Plus, I always appreciate the way federated users are treated when they cruise by to spout bs imperial core takes (usually dressed up as if they're subversive in some way lmao).

I'm trying to post and comment more because yall seem pretty cool, I just usually don't have much to add.