is it bad if I wanna learn raqs sharqi? I need somebody who isnt me to tell me
this post was submitted on 10 Jun 2024
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Feelings of dysphoria really bad the last couple of days. Making myself go buy a new outfit as a treat 🍭
There's so many transition related things I want to do, but my ADHD has been pretty bad lately. I just can't find the motivation to do anything other than lay in bed all day with my blåhaj 
I had a dream last night that Abdelmadjid Tebboune said in an interview "What's the deal with westerners having like 107 genders? there should be like more, way more, this seems righter to me", sadly he's not that based irl 
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Playing that game (AuDHD or Trans), and all of the examples can be explained away as AuDHD, and none of the obv. trans examples fit. Really hits that.. imposter syndrome? That "Not trans™"
But here’s the thing… only trans people are worried about if they are actually transgender! A cisgender person does not have this obsession with their identity: they think about it, they process it, they move on. If you keep returning to these thoughts over and over again, this is your brain telling you that you took a wrong turn
I KNOW. But telling me doesn't fucking work.
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https://hexbear.net/comment/4670052
https://hexbear.net/comment/4904867
Chuckles and teary eyes.
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Everything is either "I don't know, I can't feel my feelings, I've chalked this problem up to autism", or it's "that's just autism". The latter fitting this line:
That’s another problem with gender dysphoria: early on, you can come up with an alternate explanation for almost every symptom
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One sticking point I come across a lot when I talk to questioning trans women is that they’ve paralyzed themselves with fear and are unwilling to act until they’ve solved the equation at the center of themselves and completely and fully accepted that they are, without a doubt, 100% trans.
To that end, it’s worth keeping in mind that you are not a puzzle to be solved
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Well, I just bought an epilator. Anyone have experience with one and/or have things you think I should know? And yes, I know they hurt, I'm not expecting this to be painless. 😅
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I feel like any time I post about being discouraged about my gender I get encouragement to transition, which is nice, but it’s not like I haven’t heard it before and it doesn’t help. Are there any trans people who just feel like transitioning is too much effort despite their gender causing them distress? I never hear anyone talk about this and it makes me feel like I’m somehow faking or deluding myself into thinking I’m trans when I’m not, especially because I have OCD.
Are there any trans people who just feel like transitioning is too much effort despite their gender causing them distress?
Yeah, I've seen people post here about that. Some people are "okay" with their assigned gender even though they would prefer another. Some of these people don't transition because it's just too much work socially, financially, medically, legally, etc.
Despite occasional dysphoria flare ups, I myself could probably spend the rest of my life as a man and not, like, die.
it makes me feel like I’m somehow faking or deluding myself into thinking I’m trans when I’m not
Another very common thought that I feel and have seen posted here. I see and use this word "deluded" a lot.
it’s not like I haven’t heard it before and it doesn’t help. Are there any trans people who just feel like transitioning is too much effort despite their gender causing them distress?
Are you looking for people to encourage you to not transition instead?
Do you think a sort of limited transition or gender tweak might be good for you? Like, not fully transitioning but doing some of the gender expression you enjoy without all the pressure.
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I'm also gonna say that OCD makes it extremely difficult to figure out what I want and what feelings and thoughts are "real" when it comes to being trans. I say this 8 months into medical transition
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it's not just you. I could have written this, lmao. Being a "man" sucks but actually putting in effort into transitioning sounds hard and scary so I've been putting a lot of it off or doing it very slowly. I'll be at a good place one of these days though
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