go and take a hike

literally

go hiking

(i dunno shit helps me, but just for that time :sadness:)

If you can somehow make your internal monologue into a friend of yours everything gets easier.

Yes here it is. Simply be emotional stable

You can't help someone who doesn't want help, even if they're ODing consistently. Support doesn't mean controlling them.

The only thing a narcissist respects is firm boundary holding but they will keep pushing, so either cut them out permanently or be prepared to hold your ground

Do inner child work to find and address trauma from childhood

Grieve and process the childhood and family you never had. Feel the feelings that were repressed

i've seen posts from people who actually go to therapy saying their therapist basically rehashes the "serenity prayer" when it comes to things like climate change anxiety. gotta find one of those based, not-liberal, not-a-nerd therapists.

serenity prayer

Don't blame yourself for your traumas

TikTok screenshot of a white woman making coffee with text overlaid: I'm wondering if therapy is actually unhealthy for me ... I told her how I literally have psycho meltdowns ... like throwing things/screaming and she says "your emotions and responses are valid" are they tho? You don't think maybe I should just get a grip? Idk

You want to love everyone, but not everyone deserves the same level of love

Be kind and patient with yourself (WARNING EASIER SAID THAN DONE)

Stop calling me!

we're all human

go to a mental hospital

and I'm only slightly exaggerating

Stop it or I'll bury you alive in a box!!

I don't remember anything any of my therapists said to me cos it was all drivel skirting any actual issues. Then I found out I am autistic and immediately many problems were solved or at least understood.

For some reason not a single therapist wanted to tell me that or even suggest it. Haven't needed one since

JUST STOP IT!

be yourself

Here's what my therapist would have told me if they were cool and not just a waste of my time:

1. None of this shit is your fault. You live in a world where human life is worthless.
2. All the bad shit you are experiencing is a systemic issue. Therefore, it cannot be solved by individual action. Systemic issues require systemic solutions.
3. Only around 30% of life is under your control. The other 70% is material conditions that you can't control. This is not a doomer take. There is still plenty of stuff you can do within those 30% and you should still do your best. But try to be patient because there's gonna be times when you still feel like shit even though you're doing everything you're supposed to.
4. There is nothing wrong with you if you feel like shit all the time. Feeling like shit all the time is the only logical response to the world in which we live right now. But there is no point in wallowing in misery so try to chill out and give yourself a break.
5. You don't have to wait for somebody to give you the compassion that every human being needs. You can be compassionate to yourself. A good way to do this is through meditation and journaling, which are the two best habits that you can develop.

All of this sounds kinda obvious now but I wish somebody told me this when I was 20 years old and feeling like shit