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I can't stop thinking about it no matter how hard I try. It was in front of my whole class uuuugggghhhh

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[–] [email protected] 50 points 6 months ago

It's the worst cringe of your life so far! so-far

[–] [email protected] 37 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Don’t worry, in another ten years you’ll have mostly forgotten about that stuff and you’ll be embarrassed about what you’re doing today.

[–] [email protected] 34 points 6 months ago (2 children)
[–] [email protected] 26 points 6 months ago (2 children)
[–] [email protected] 11 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Certainly a classmate of mine remembers, because I threw up on her new shoes when the teacher was narrating that axe scene in Where The Red Fern Grows. I think it was 4th grade though. Sorry, Olivia.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 6 months ago

Based throwing up tuna

Your body simply rejected the lead and mercury no matter what anyone thinks

[–] [email protected] 19 points 6 months ago (1 children)

I have OCD and get this pretty intensely every once in a while, there's stuff you can do about it

[–] [email protected] 5 points 6 months ago (2 children)
[–] [email protected] 9 points 6 months ago (1 children)

My personal method is based on my experience with IFS therapy/parts work, but truthfully I don't know if this will work for anyone but me. Still, I've had success with the following:

I envision the younger version of me that did the embarrassing thing. In my head, I see the current, adult version of myself talking to the younger one. I explain to my younger self that I don't find them shameful, that I understand why they acted the way they did, and that I forgive them for everything. I listen as the younger version brings up any additional concerns and offer any further reassurance/comfort/love that I wish to. It's important to take time with this and really sit with the uncomfortable feelings.

For me, this can resolve the acute shame feeling, and also prevent the memory from coming up again suddenly, or at least from hurting as much when it does.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 6 months ago
[–] [email protected] 5 points 6 months ago

If the cause is OCD, there are medications and talk therapy options for lessening the intensity and duration of intrusive thoughts.

[–] [email protected] 14 points 6 months ago

The past is history. The future is a mystery. All that matters is—ahahahahaha, I can't keep a straight face! You were, are, and always will be cringe! Embrace your cringe, nerds!

[–] [email protected] 13 points 6 months ago

Cringing at your past self is important. It means you've grown as a person

[–] [email protected] 10 points 6 months ago (1 children)

The fun thing about transition is it gave me a kind of clean break from my previous cringe (in my mind), but just as I tasted freedom I commited several more years of cringe in my early transition

[–] [email protected] 2 points 6 months ago

omfg too real. TOO FUCKING REAL.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 6 months ago

The only cringe that matters is future cringe

[–] [email protected] 10 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago)

It was necessary, to progress on ur Hero's Journey. <3

[–] [email protected] 9 points 6 months ago

Most of my old cringe moments are funny and I use as conversation starters but a select few moments make me start grinding my teeth and shout lalalalala because they really are just that bad.

The people that know such moments if i ever saw them in public I'd probably jump in front of a bus to avoid speaking to them.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 6 months ago

I never have to think about how cringe I used to be because I never stopped being cringe big-cool

[–] [email protected] 8 points 6 months ago

"cringe" is just your higher order social thinking brain reminding you that you're not supposed to do something because you may face social repercussions. The best way to learn is to make mistakes. Forgive yourself, accept that you have learned, and move on. Don't ruminate on your thoughts, if they are not helpful, let them pass you by without reacting.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 6 months ago

I am cringe but I am free.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 6 months ago

the cringe is in the eyes of the beholder meow-hug

[–] [email protected] 7 points 6 months ago

yea me too, I wish I could apologize to everyone

[–] [email protected] 7 points 6 months ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 6 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago)
[–] [email protected] 6 points 6 months ago

I act cringe every day of my life

[–] [email protected] 4 points 6 months ago

In ten years you will think the same of your current situation. The way forward is to realize most people are cringe most of thr time and it doesn't matter

[–] [email protected] 3 points 6 months ago

skill issue

[–] [email protected] 3 points 6 months ago (1 children)

I ask myself the same question, especially when it came to some of my lib tendencies. I usually chalk it up to youthful ignorance and try to move past it.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 6 months ago

Me being a lib made me tear my pants down on the seams at Class

[–] [email protected] 1 points 6 months ago

Why cringe about things that happened ten years ago when you can cringe about the things you did yesterday.

Or be like me and get ready to go out and commit some more fresh cringe to regret later between cringes.