Yeah I continue to maintain that the volcel police is queer erasure and that queer sex (in a very broad definition) is actually a revolutionary act but Hexbear isn't quite there yet. Someday.
This is why I wish Hexbear was slightly more sex positive than it is, the overlap between modern queer kink and leftist shit posting is much more than folks might think
In communist North Korea the authoritarian government builds spotlights that point at the sky to make it look like they are building things when viewed from space!
Sounds like he's the first volunteer then
Honestly I wouldn't be surprised if he backed out after seeing who else was on it and what the event actually was.
A lot of people that I know in kink are autistic so that's definitely not a thing that excludes you from participating in this sort of thing. The good parts of the kink community love clear questions and communication. We would rather people ask a dumb question and be told no, than make a dumb assumption and cross a boundary you couldn't even conceive of because you didn't have enough context to know about.
As far as events, it depends on where you are, but my main suggestion is to start on something like FetLife. Which sucks and is an awful website, but, it's like Facebook for kink and as such basically any kink event is posted there. Then you just find events that you think sound interesting and start going. If you're looking for something even more entry level you can often find munches or queer community events on Facebook or meetup. Friends you make there will eventually trust you enough to talk to you about other more sex forward events.
My recommendation would be to find events that are regularly occurring and not one offs. Also find events whose hosts have complete FetLife profiles that have a history of attending or participating in events. Only go to events that feel safe to you and prioritize events that are explicitly safe to your needs. These sorts of events will have posted policies around consent and inclusivity. Even better if you can find beginner friendly or 101 sort of events. It's always okay to say no. It is always okay to walk out and leave. If any event has any expectation of you other than "be here and follow our guidelines" fucking run.
And then you start going. Most importantly you work through the awkward times. The first time you go to an event, nobody will talk to you. This is because the regulars are tired of meeting people, putting energy into people, and then never seeing them again. Even if you don't really talk to anyone if the event seems like your kind of space, keep going back. Push through the awkward phase. Eventually folks will be like "oh they keep coming" and you'll make friends. Or you won't and that event isn't for you.
Like all community building you start somewhere, go into it with the only expectations being "I want to learn and I want community", and the rest of it will come with time and effort.
Anyway always happy to answer questions about this sort of thing because I was a a baby poly baby queer baby kinkster once too and I only graduated from baby status because people helped me figure it out
I will continue to say critical support to the DSA for yet another anti genocide win. They are absolutely not a perfect organization but they are currently the only organization in the US that is pushing back on genocide via the levers that ordinary people understand and are willing to use, and I think that is worthwhile. They aren't going to build socialism in the west on their own but they are helping to normalize some actual socialist positions and I think that's cool.
Very true, I personally don't enjoy munches for a whole host of reasons but they are a thing and I'd bet basically any medium size city has multiple
That's what good spaces look like. Tickets to cover costs or as a small barrier to entry, good inclusive safe vibes only, and ways for everyone to participate (or the event makes it very clear it's not for everyone which is okay too.)
These spaces exist all over if people put in the effort to go to them with a focus on learning and community building. Just like any community space.
As much as I hate America and the American people I gotta say it is good to see that "we should stop killing infinity babies" is becoming a more popular political position
Lol what a grift. I go to an actual sex con twice a year. There are like 500 people. Tickets are less than $100 bucks for an entire weekend. The speakers are actually real speakers who do sex and talks and teach professionally. The classes are usually "we ran out of chairs so stand in the back" full of people interested in the content.
The parties at night are included in your ticket. The entire venue becomes a dungeon. There are meet and greets and online ways to find people to hang or play with. All included.
The only catch is that you have to know about it and you have to be referred to it. Tickets still sell out and there's still a wait-list every single time.
$18,000? Lol. Lmao even.
I guess that's the ticket price for "I have no community, and am not interested in finding one or building community, so I have to pay to pretend to have community."
Sex is awesome. These losers are not.
Also Adam Conover is one of the least sexy people on the planet and makes no sense to be at a sex con.
I've posted this before. Saw it years ago now. But. Here it is again. Genuine Beanis graffiti
Even the cyclone spores don't want to snuggle with me 
That's it. That's the post.
No it's not.
Be kind to each other and stop acting so darn rude.
This is not a vague post in reference to any specific thing so if you think it is you're wrong it's not. Just shouting louder about something I've considered and mentioned for a long time on Hexbear. We're all too mean to each other (myself included sometimes I know it and I'm talking to myself here too) and we should be kinder. Or just don't engage if you can't be kind, you always have the option to not post. It's better for site culture, better for your own well being, and getting mad red and nude online isn't gonna change anyone's mind anyway so stop wasting your time getting mad at comrades. Go dunk on libs instead there's a whole fediverse full of them and it's much easier and much more fun that getting into a shouting match at comrades. Support each other here however we can and let's all learn and grow and be better and kinder together. And then use that energy to dunk on libs. Or do something meaningful in the world. Either way.
Okay now THAT'S the post.
If anyone starts shit in this thread imma pop 
BE NICE
Thank you for attending my ted talk
STOP ERASING ME