That's it. That's the post.

No it's not.

Be kind to each other and stop acting so darn rude.

This is not a vague post in reference to any specific thing so if you think it is you're wrong it's not. Just shouting louder about something I've considered and mentioned for a long time on Hexbear. We're all too mean to each other (myself included sometimes I know it and I'm talking to myself here too) and we should be kinder. Or just don't engage if you can't be kind, you always have the option to not post. It's better for site culture, better for your own well being, and getting mad red and nude online isn't gonna change anyone's mind anyway so stop wasting your time getting mad at comrades. Go dunk on libs instead there's a whole fediverse full of them and it's much easier and much more fun that getting into a shouting match at comrades. Support each other here however we can and let's all learn and grow and be better and kinder together. And then use that energy to dunk on libs. Or do something meaningful in the world. Either way.

Okay now THAT'S the post.

If anyone starts shit in this thread imma pop wowee

BE NICE

Thank you for attending my ted talk

all 40 comments

sorted by: hot top controversial new old
[–] 37 points 4 months ago (7 children)

Can I just chime in that in general hb is super kind and welcoming? I've posted some real goofy ahh shit on here before and y'all are waaay morel ikely to go along with my gags and goofs than some nerd on reddit or discord with a stick up the ass.

  • source
  • hideshow 7 child comments
  • [–] 23 points 4 months ago (2 children)

    Can I just chime in that in general hb is super kind and welcoming?

    Yes and no. After federation I tried moving to my ml account for a month or two and I had a few times where people assumed bad faith about things I thought were very obvious jokes. One reply was particularly nasty, calling me a horrible human being. That stuff kind of gets to me, so I pretty quickly came back to this account for shitposting and commenting in hexbear comms.

    Posting with this account over the years though I've only had one experience with someone here being a dick to me.

    I do think we're way too clique-y with instances here, there are probably a lot of users kind of lost with which one to sign up with and then they just stick with their first one. There are probably some people who could fit in well that get pushed away when we're not assuming good faith because their instance also hosts a bunch of jackasses.

  • source
  • parent
  • hideshow 2 child comments
  • [–] 16 points 4 months ago*

    I had a few times where people assumed bad faith about things I thought were very obvious jokes.

    You're not kidding

    >

    I was ALMOST curious enough to ask what they were talking about.

  • source
  • parent
  • [–] 15 points 4 months ago

    I will admit, when I see another instance's account saying something I brace myself for a terrible and ignorant take. I have tried to be more reserved with it recently though, if something is up to interpretation it is better to get someone to clarify what they mean instead of just assuming the worst.

    If you treat them nicely, you can always go back on that if they turn out to be awful, but if you treat them like shit and are wrong, you can't undo how you treated them. That's how I've been trying to look at it.

  • source
  • parent
  • [–] 6 points 4 months ago

    Yeah Hexbear is the coziest social media on the internet I know of, and I completely mean that. We have had some big struggle sessions that identified and purged toxic users (most notably in my memory, the Zionism struggle sessions).

    And that made this place better.

  • source
  • parent
  • [–] 32 points 4 months ago (3 children)

    frothingfash how dare you tell me to be nice, i'll kill u

  • source
  • hideshow 3 child comments
  • [–] 27 points 4 months ago (3 children)

    My mum always said if you don't have anything nice to say, post beanis

  • source
  • hideshow 3 child comments
  • [–] 24 points 4 months ago

    We sincerity post in this housecat-trans

  • source
  • [–] 23 points 4 months ago (1 child)

    Thanks for this post, dude. I've been feeling a bit down today so seeing some kindness goes a long way

  • source
  • hideshow 1 child comment
  • [–] 21 points 4 months ago

    When there are no more chuds or libs to dunk on, we turn on each other it-is-known

  • source
  • [–] 19 points 4 months ago*

    We're kindnessmaxxing in here, MFer

    I <3 you all, this is a nice place because of you

  • source
  • [–] 16 points 4 months ago* (1 child)

    pee pee poo poo

    Spoilerthis is my way of showing affection

  • source
  • hideshow 1 child comment
  • [–] 16 points 4 months ago

    Yeah, I may playfully needle comrades on occasion, but I am really not interested in arguing about stuff

    Also, I apologize if anything I've ever written has offended anyone that I am unaware of

    I'm just trying to be funny and cute

  • source
  • [–] 14 points 4 months ago

    God damn it, you've got to be kind vonnegut

  • source
  • [–] [S] 14 points 4 months ago (4 children)

    It would be a very funny bit to copy this verbatim and post it to badposting btw. That's not mean that's hilarious

  • source
  • hideshow 4 child comments
  • [–] 11 points 4 months ago (2 children)

    Had to check the comm because I thought it was. Eh, whatever, don't care! I will take out my insecurities on you and you will accept my written wedgie, nerd!

  • source
  • parent
  • hideshow 2 child comments
  • [–] 13 points 4 months ago (1 child)
  • [–] 13 points 4 months ago

    no more half measures walter

  • source
  • [–] 12 points 4 months ago

    Okay friend, I'll do it for you ❤️

  • source
  • [–] 12 points 4 months ago

    Hell yeah 🦨💨

  • source
  • [–] 11 points 4 months ago
    [–] 11 points 4 months ago
    [–] 3 points 4 months ago

    Like the energy bar? Not a fan, thanks.

  • source
  • [–] 3 points 4 months ago

    I can always agree with this. Ironically though this is the nicest group of MLs that have actually explained shit to various people that I have finally been able to understand the position and that we are not so different (anarchist. Though probably communist to some /shrug)

    Every other group of MLs ive ran into have been the fucking racist, transphobic etc yellin about identity politics makes them not racist or some other BS. Seemed very much a "I want power and then slam the door"

    I have scratched my head forever how there are so many MLs if this is how it is. It honestly made depressed.

    But I understand now I just kept having rotten luck. Which im thanthankful that's what it is.

    But this does kind of go with the post. You never know who's lurking and trying to learn. You gotta stand your ground of course. No point arguing with stone. But don't forget not everyone is stone.

  • source
  • [–] 1 point 4 months ago