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I have a friend who lives in another city about 3 hours from where I live. We were really close in middle school and high school but had a falling out, a few years ago we reconnected and found out we were both in our transitions now. We haven't made too much of an attempt to be long distance friends but we both have made trips to visit the other a few times now.

They've been having a hard time keeping a job, and I know they had a rough spot in their relationship, and then last night they posted a cryptic almost goodbye message to their Facebook and now they're not responding to calls/texts/anything and I don't know what to do. It's not my place to do a wellness check, especially would never call the police for one, but I don't know any of their IRL friends who could check. Or if they have any. I'm really worried about them and it's been the main thing on my brain all night/morning. I have to go to work now and somehow just be like "I think my friend is gone but I'm here ๐Ÿ˜…"

Idk what to do other than to continue living my life as I was and I feel such guilt for that. Not really sure why I made this post if I'm asking for advice or if I'm just venting or what.

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[โ€“] [email protected] 3 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago)

I've been in your position few more times than I care to have been. It's scary and sucks - I one time messaged an employer to check. Other advice here is good.

In at least my experience of this maybe 10 times with four different people, every time it has been a scare that didn't materialise. Some people really keep to themselves for a day or two after intense episodes. I really know it isn't fun though, hope they're okay and you hear from them soon meow-hug