Misogynistic trans guys keep showing up at our center? (hexbear.net)

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All of these guys tend to be younger, it seems to be a new trend cause we didn't have issues like this 10 years ago. They'll come in, talk only to other gay guys, and exclude women (incl trans women) from all conversations to the point it becomes very awkward. This has happened 3 times in the past 2 years or so. We had an event recently and we had a handful of trans people show up. I tried to talk to everyone to just say hi (I'm the organizer after all) and the guy just stared at me?? Then one of the sweetest trans ladies there talked to me about how she was trying to get contact details for people so we could, y'know, be a community, and the guy apparently told her that all of his chats and local groups for trans men were men only and that they had so many issues with trans women trying to make LGBT spaces all about them so they only let trans men in. She was just looking for people to hang out with! The lack of solidarity here was shocking to me.

Maybe it's some social media thing? Over compensation? Idfk. Shits getting weird.

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[-] TheoryofChange@hexbear.net 8 points 6 days ago

I think unfortunately the issue is deeper than social media trends(anti-queer coin psyops), they have the potential to be effective due to material conditions. As the pressure increases on queer people due to an increase in political hostility, it will increase the appeal of pursuing assimilationist/collaborationist lines. For transmasculine folks, this can mean leaning harder into patriarchal masculinity and misogyny. The cowards who would cross the line must be handled firmly, if they will not listen to reason and change their ways. Simultaneously I think the work of maintaining welcoming, inclusive anti-collaborationist spaces (as it sounds like you have been doing) is even more vital than ever

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