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I don't think trauma is inherent to being trans. There are just many societal and personal reasons why it could be. Personally, I wouldn't say transitioning has been traumatic for me. Society and the healthcare industry have done their worst, but I'm at peace with my transition.It won't be the same for everyone, of course.
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it's not "inherent" as in, if we lived in a just world then they wouldn't go hand in hand. but in this world they do, at least for the vast vast majority of trans folks. im pretty at peace about the physical effects of male puberty etc on me personally, but social aspects of the gendered upbringing have left me damaged. i think this is a very common experience. that's not even getting into the general prevalence of transphobia and how it impacts trans youth especially. social norms often cause trauma. repressing is traumatic. for many the act of transition is where the healing begins so you are kind of missing the forest for the trees a bit. the damage often comes before.
If we lived in a just world where I got on hrt at 11
I wish I could have been on HRT at 11 but honestly even just a world were people were chill about me being trans and told me I'm doing a great job more would be nice.
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genuinely the only way to avoid this trauma
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I'm not saying it can't traumatic, I'm saying that trauma isn't inherent to every trans person. In the same way that you're speaking from your experience, I'm saying that it wasn't for me and I also recognise that my experience isn't universal.If someone feels that their experience was traumatic, then of course it should be recognised that way.
i understand. i think i interpreted your comment as speaking more universally than you actually did, that's my bad. i suppose i still struggle to imagine someone with literally zero trauma related to it just given the gestures at everything. just not an experience i can put myself in the mind of at all.
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I agree with you in regard to being trans isn't necessarily traumatic, but being trans in a transphobic society is absolutely traumaticdysphoria
I do not understand how living in the wrong body for years and years isn't traumatic.Society and healthcare are both excellent examples as well. How is there not trauma from being in a society that hates you. Surrounded by people who think you should suffer. Who deny your suffering. I literally can't imagine how that isn't traumatic.
My own experiences with being trans and growing up
It wasn't traumatic for me, because it was my escape. I grew up in an abusive home and spent most of time hiding away. Conversations with my guardians were always a risk and I kept friendships pretty surface level. Even the things I excelled at were co-opted and distorted by my guardians, who just wanted to live vicariously through me. It was a nightmare.All of that hopelessness changed when I realised I was trans. I started to understand in fourth grade, noticing that I wanted to wear the girl's uniform instead. Of course, that was something nobody else was talking about, so my hypervigilance paid off and I kept it to myself. It wasn't until middle school that I learned that people actually do transition, finding out from Myspace groups of all places. I was so inspired by everyone's confidence and everyone was so pretty. It felt like I had found purpose in my life for the first time ever. This was something that was mine, something I could always look forward to and no one could distort. I took the steps that I could while going through schooling and went full time just after moving out.
Ironically, part of my transition did get distorted thanks to past trauma, but it always a CTPSD thing for me. I really had a hard time trusting the world for too long.
Sorry to go on for a bit, but this is an honest answer to "how could anyone not find being trans to be traumatic?"
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I've often also thought that being trans isn't inherently traumatic. But honestly ... going through male puberty probably fucked me up in ways I can still barely understand.