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Perfectly said! I agree that it makes sense outside of sexual activity. For example when making decisions as an affinity group at a protest or something: one person suddenly doesn't feel the proposed activity? Okay we're not doing it then. Maybe they think it's to risky, whatever, no need to explain anything, we retreat and regroup.
Also I just realized that by this model I'm clearly being coerced to go to work at my job, as are most people, but then again, we knew that already. Same thing for schools, again totally makes sense.
One of the things with group consent is that there's sometimes a distinction between "I don't want that so the group has to stop" and "I don't want that so I will temporarily exit the group." This is also something that's important to communicate about. "If you stray from this we all stop" vs "If you stray from this I will stop." Basically just a conversation about boundaries and what the consequences of those boundaries may be. It's actually funny you mention protests because well organized protests often have these conversations. "If someone crosses this boundary we all stop" or "We are doing these things if you don't want to then leave."
That's a skill I learned via polyamory rather than kink but it applies to all consent conversations too I think.
So basically yeah. Communication!
Yes, totally. I guess in a situation where it would be unsafe for one person to go back alone, everyone has to stop. That's why it makes sense to have small (2-5 people) affinity groups within a larger action group. So the action can still continue.