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Today: a short yap about computer hardware:
Damn I love the AM4 socket its so upgradable yay, bought a Ryzen 9 5900X for our old desktop soon to be homelab and so excited for it.
Computers are fun! ~~(and expensive)~~
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Damn, completely sucks that you’re being denied access to such an important thing because even if you’re not actively suicidal, you shouldn’t take these thoughts lightly.But professional help also includes social workers. They could probably help you find something that you could enjoy in your life and keeps you motivated. The one I’m seeing is offering me a plethora of different group activities and options that could be interesting for you too. Maybe it’s worth taking a look at that.
Regarding uterus transplantations: 30s is not too late at all. The cis women that got one were mostly around that age. And if your country’s healthcare system doesn’t pay for it, there’s still the option of paying it out of your own pocket. It’s currently about 100.000€, so not tooooooo bad. Definitely doable if your income is a bit higher.
And I also took a look if surrogacy is an option in Denmark and it seems that if there’s no money involved it’s legal. So if you can’t get your hands on a uterus and adoption is still not an option for you in the future, you still have that possibility.
Yeah, dating as a trans person is a nightmare, especially as a straight woman. Completely understandable that you’re feeling that way.
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Yeah Denmark is an awful country. Idk I don't really care about these thoughts, I feel kind of messed up like sometimes I actively want to get worse, but I managed to mostly get my life back on track so I'll hopefully not screw it up again.I don't think I'm sick/dysfunctional enough to qualify for help by social workers. From the outside looking in I'm highly functional and most of my friends are shocked by how many things I manage to balance in my day to day life. And I don't trust the municipality either, so I won't seek help there either, it's too risky to do before I hopefully get the last surgery covered.
I might be able to save it up, but currently I'm saving up for 2nd FFS and possibly some other surgeries. The government also shafted me with a recent reform, so it complicates it a bit. I was thinking of moving to the US after finishing my degree, but I wouldn't be able to save much there for at least the first 5-6 years, so I'll have to decide on what to do as I don't want to stay in Denmark if possible.
Yeah I hate dating honestly, it's so terrible. Either the guy is a chaser or he'll reject me for being trans😭
Moving to the US seems like a questionable choice right now. I would take a look at Canada, New Zealand or Australia.
Erin Reed, who rates US states on trans risk, keeps saying Australia is the best English speaking country for trans people to migrate to in the long term. I don’t know what metrics she uses and so am somewhat baffled as an Australian there but it is probably better than the UK or Canada.
Yeah I was hoping Trump wouldn't win, but I'd be moving in 6 years if at all, so I'll have some time to see how the situation develops. Canada is not a possibility, but Australia and New Zealand are viable options though they are more restrictive in regards to what I could do with my degree. I'll have to see what happens, if by some miracle I'm in a relationship by the time I finish my degree I might stay in Denmark.