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which is rad btw
Okay well you are welcome thenOh yeah, I mean this is a whole seperate thing I think. I'd be fucking pissed if a cis woman ever misconstrued me as a fuckin' fruity boy. And being misconstrued as a straight guy is just erasure. We cannot trust the cis
I think the difference in approach makes sense, though. Your gender percentages almost rsad as genderfluid to me at points... but it's like, it reads to me that being read as Queer (bottom) is close enough to Gender for you, maybe it's the contrast between you and the presumably-masc gay guy doing the flirting? But when you approach a woman, you wanna be related to inna femme way, right? So having a woman treat you that way is not fuckin pleasant. Tell me how offbase I am, but I think I get it.
Also this top-bottom sexual social order is distressing wtffffff the genders are determined by sexual role?? More power to ya...
TL;DR this post has been fact checked by TRUE TRANSGENDER PATRIOTS and rated T4T.
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I mean, I'm not insinuating that those are like, Genderβ’οΈ genders, but the way orientation interacts with gender is kinda fascinating to me? Like, is "man (straight)" a different gender than "man (gay)"? Is "woman (straight)" different than "woman (lesbian)"? Or like "man (masculine)" vs "guy", or "lesbian (femme)" vs "lesbian (butch)" or stone butch as its own gender identity? Idk, it's fascinating to me. (also people who self ID as "fem boy" but not as a trans femme? No shade to anyone, I just find it all interesting and confusing at times as someone that often feels like they (ze? see even cementing that mentally feels odd for me) are only ever at best approximating my own sense of self by relation to noticing how other people relate to each other and working it out for myself by process of elimination of what doesn't fit for me.something something gender? I 'ardly knew 'er, nyuck nyuck nyuck
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Gender is fuckin fake shit...I mean, while sexuality is very arguably marginalised more due to its gender connotations as per Bornstein, (because queerness breaks cisheteronormativity) practically speaking I am pretty sure woman (straight) and woman (lesbian) can be pretty much the same gender. I think. It also depends on how much one considers sexuality to be an essential element of gender though, which varies...
See like, what if we just didn't think about it and were just gay (or other) instead? This shit's such a brainrotter because there aren't actual definitions. It was made up, but by funny queers this time.
Idk your pronouns are pretty neato to me =) and I mean, I think that's an okay tactic, I mean what else are you supposed to do, right? Sadly I don't think there's theory that helps tell you what your gender is, unless you're a very specific strain of gender accelerationist.
I dunno, what do you want to be? Considering that you can be pretty much whatever, y'know. Whatever feels good to u.
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Aww, thanks!
I kinda like ze/hir but never used them irl and pretty much just go by they/them with IRL ppl and usually don't bother correcting strangers, might work on that but idk, I kinda just hate the hassle most of the time more than the occasional misgendering bugs me but ehhh
Ain't that the million dollar question lol
This feels silly to think and I shy away from really articulating this sometimes because I feel like it might come across as insensitive to binary trans ppl but uh
~I~ ~kinda~ ~really~ ~wish~ ~I~ ~was~ ~an~ ~AFAB~ ~enby?~
Like, I'm getting better about my self image and less uncomfortable with things I can't change and focusing on improving the things I can, but height/frame and junk bug me and bottom surgery seems really scary to me and is financially something that's miles and miles away for me if I ever wanted it and ehhhh, idk how I feel about it
One of the things that sticks in my head thinking about my appearance and bums me out sometimes is often thinking "I wish other people could describe me as 'elegant' and that doesn't really seem attainable in a way I'd be happy with given the hand I've been dealt"
I like feeling strong, but I just feel... clunky? Or "the wrong kind of androgynous for what I want?" I dunno, it's kinda hard to pin down sometimes but I frequently feel "off" like my sense of self has a hole in its sock or something