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Are there any places online where cishet men do the "omg a pretty girl looked at me and I forgot how to exist" memes that you find in some lesbian spaces? (hexbear.net)

submitted 1 month ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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this has been on my mind a lot. I follow some lesbian meme shitposting groups and there's tons of memes that are just like "This girl looked at me and I died and then she smiled at me and I came back to life" and I just cannot think of any cishet men's spaces that bring that have that level of absolutely dorky dysfunctional love for women. And, like, cishet men, their whole thing is supposed to be being in to women, and that just strikes me as really weird that there's not an equivalent. Like the closest I can think of is wife guy memes but that's just one wife, usually.

Do any spaces like that exist? Is it even possible given the way gender works in society?

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[–] [email protected] 17 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Not any public cishet male spaces. Either privately amongst trusted friends or in a very niche community where you can trust they won't try to out-masculine you for showing weakness.

The concept of cishet male spaces is weird because so many spaces are de-facto cishet male, very few spaces are explicitly for them. Like imagine justifying a space as explicitly for cishet males only... The best I can think of is a church men's group. Anyways, all those de-facto spaces are either mostly sexless in discussion or it quickly descends to the lowest common demoninator of sexual discussion, which is quite low.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 month ago (1 children)

i just learned not so long ago the concept of "man cave" where they have rules like "no women allowed here" which in my opinion, sounds everything but het. but for some reason, it is considered very manly and very het

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 month ago

Man Cave isn't defined by being "no girls allowed" its just a spare room where the man puts all his toys. Usually its the only room which he has creative control over. As in the woman would have creative control over the rest of the house. You also don't have a man cave without the presence of a woman. Otherwise its all just a bachelor pad.

Its like an affluent middle age suburbanite thing. Most often theres only one guy in it.