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If neither of you have done poly stuff before, there are a lot of potential landmines for jealousy to spring up in this particular scenario. It's important to not catastrophize or minimize jealousy, but treat it like a signal that one or more parties anticipate imbalances. To work through it you have to consider the needs of all parties involved. Ensuring attention is spread evenly takes practice and effort.
To your second point, you're doing well by not acting on impulse and taking the time to think about who you are. What I would suggest is to open your mind to the possibilities, and simulate where they might lead. Your partners will not be predictable. You could find someone who neatly falls into your criteria and is "safe" in that regard. Or you could meet someone who develops impassioned feelings for you over time and, you might find you feel the same way about them. But what would you do if they have desires and you want to rein in it? How would you deal with that friction?
When dealing with people you can't lock them into a mold of your ideals. More relationships = more variables to contend with. You may have to find yourself coming to terms with your libido while looking someone else in the eyes, whether you like it or not.
She's poly and has no jealousy. I'm disabled and a lot less secure
I hadn't given much thought to the third person and how this would land on them. I'm cute and kind but don't even have the material conditions to take care of myself. So, I tend to think of myself as undatable, which is also a big part of my fear, both of being rejected and used for sex. The idea of finding love outside the relationship feels more like a thought experiment in other words, rather than an actionable idea.
I'm hoping my libido will dry out. Or that my gfs will light up. I've been celebate for several months as an adult. Intentionally avoiding self pleasure even. So, I think it's possible for my libido to get the message if I don't feed it. Right now there's a lot of habit energy though and difficult communication with my gf.