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alright gang, we need another win over the news mega this week! keep those numbers up and keep being trans as hell 
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I got away with a "I don't need you to understand, I just need you to believe (that I'm doing this for the right reasons/I'm happy/this is good for me)", though idk how the belief angle would go down with believers?
They came around eventually, and suspended their disbelief until such time too. Those that couldn't were left by the wayside and it's easier without them anyway.
Thank you, I'll remember that.
some upsetting examples
I want them to understand though. I want them to gender me correctly for example. I don't what them to say shit like "oh so now you want to be a woman" for example. I know they probably will and maybe I just need to accept that though. I don't know. And I want them to get the full picture of my experience.People are unpredictable sometimes too, like obviously if they're transphobic before hand or if they have issues with lgbt+ and such then you already know what to expect before hand, but some people can vary and even accepting people can have some really bad takes elsewhere. It's better to accept that it might not go well and prepare for that emotionally.
I probably should. I have no idea how I could deal with it if things genuinely went bad, instead of them just being a little ignorant.
I've been through probably the worst outcome to where I had to give up all my family. But I had years of other stuff with them and that was the final straw with me.. But I read about other trans people having good family and stuff and do stuff with their siblings and such so like I say it can be completely unpredictable at times.
I had some idea of my family and expected the worst with them.. I do think to be realistic with yourself, you know these people pretty well so you do already have some idea, but nobody can tell you how they will react either. I know it's hard and I get wanting to be accepted, hell I did even though I knew what reaction I'd get. I hate being negative about it, but I think being able to deal with it emotionally helps prepare you for even the most negative of reactions.
I would find some videos on youtube or something for people who want to understand and are able to talk with you would be good. I'm not overly familiar with many trans channels though.
I understand and appreciate that. Don't hate being negative, thank you. It is important to be prepared for unpredictability.
I will try and find videos like that, if anyone knows of any I would appreciate it.
You know I wish you well, just wish I had some good things to say too y'know..
I know that :) thank you.
some people can't understand, won't, or will throw up bizarre excuses as to why that's the case.
They don't want to understand, because they already believe it to be wrong.
Idk, I'm not going to go down the rabbit holes with someone who believes I'm going to hell, I'm just going to ask that they believe I'm doing what's best for me.
If they're receptive and show that they want to understand though? Yeah absolutely, let's talk about how binary gender roles reinforce the patriarchy, how talking about chromosomes isn't relevant or able to be known in everyday interaction, how going through a second puberty is rad af (but it'd probably be nicer making an informed decision about the first).
But those are conversations, not arguments. Some folks will want to learn, others will throw up walls wherever they can
I agree completely. I wouldn't argue with them.
Honestly, the only reason I want to come out is to get affirming care right now. I do not have much energy for those types conversations right now, although I think at some point I might.