yeah I dunno, I often wish people had pushed a little harder on gender stuff. I knew about it academically, I had trans friends, they knew I had big gender feelings, but nobody pushed me on it, for years and years, it basically only came up when I brought it up.

Someone pushing me a little is what helped me accept my non-hetero sexuality back well before I knew I was trans. (just prodding a bit when I said 100% totally straight stuff like "I don't have a crush on X friend because he wouldn't be into it" or some shit. All it took was someone going "that's really not a normal straight thought you know?")

It didn't get me to come out exactly but it brought some internal suppressed thoughts and memories out and spoken into the real world, and I never again was closeted to myself...

On tumblr someone ran a couple of polls analyzing cis gay, cis lesbian, trans women, trans men etc about how they would feel telling someone they thought they were gay/lesbian/trans or whatever. The only group where people were uncomfortable was trans women telling someone who's questioning or just seems like they have some tendencies or whatever that they might be trans - except trans women themselves. Trans men had a similar thing just not quite as stark.

This has always bothered me like yeah I get how a lot of eggs instinctively try to hide their transness as a result of growing up in a cisnormative society and how pushing too hard can be counterproductive but, like, where’s the harm in just telling someone “hey I experienced that too and it turned out to be a trans thing, maybe it’s something like that for you too?” Like, there’s countless stories of queer people who struggled with their identity simply because they didn’t know it was a thing; no one told them. And yet, when it comes to trans people there’s this whole culture of not telling people they might be trans! It really does feel like transphobia

Fr even Nevada explored the idea in the second part. I won't spoil exactly how it goes down but the book even acknowledges that the "dangers" of pushing the idea someone might be trans are overblown. It's not like there's a point of no return, you don't have to commit to keep taking HRT, detransitioning is always an option (even though a vast majority of detransitioners do so for reasons OTHER THAN A FALSE DIAGNOSIS).

There's nowhere near this amount of pushback for other queer identities. It's mainstream for "maybe you're gay/bi/lesbian" to be a punchline. If one were to make the same joke but with transness it would not fly even with supposed allies. It's so goddamn stupid.

TV Glow enters the discourse