That's it right there, learn to trust your intuition. Doubt kept us safe from bullies but hiding all the time is too stressful to maintain and that stress causes all sorts of health problems over the long run, physically and mentally.

I'll share some national groups that are helpful and inclusive that you can hopefully connect with. And give you some other general ideas on how to find safe spaces. It would be hard for me to find something specific without doxxing you, so lets not do that!

https://www.lgbtq.virginia.gov/resources/

If you scroll down, there's a ton of links to Virginia LTBTQ organizations that will hopefully be able to put you in contact with communities in your city.

My personal goto is NAMI (national alliance for mental illness), I go to these support groups and they're very inclusive even if not specifically LGBTQ, Burning Man people (https://regionals.burningman.org/regionals/north-america/virginia/ - if you connect with them both radical inclusion and radical self expression are big parts of being a burner and I've found so much love in these communities), and if there's an LGBTQ center in your city, they likely have support groups for trans people and other resources you can tap into.

Depending on how liberal your city is, coming out during pride month was a huge blessing for me. I got tons of support. That's a long ways off. But, if you don't feel safe in your general community, see if you can find queer safe spaces in the mean time. And who knows, you may come out and find a lot more support than you expect and much fewer micro aggressions (that's been my experience).

That said, I have self defense classes on my todo list. Macro aggressions are something I need to be aware of. And I now keep a pair of shorts in my car so if I need to swap out a skirt for boy mode in a less friendly city I can.

I hope this gives you some ideas on some next steps. If there's a gender inclusion clinic in your area, I'm sure they have tons of resources too!