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submitted 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (1 children)

We've been gas lit by a lot of propaganda. Trans people have been incredibly inclusive. I've experienced no gatekeeping.

If your desire to transition is great enough that you're weighing it against microaggressions and all of that, you're trans. Cis people don't do that.

microaggression yesterday that hurt and how I cope

My favorite aunt vomited the family shame up on my facebook last night. It hurt. It still hurts. I made an initial defensive response, deleted it, and took the time to try to educate her (and anyone else reading). Pretending I don't prefer feminine things was literally killing me. I choose life, I told her. And I hope you prefer a joyful niece over a suicidal nephew.

But I wasn't alone in it. I messaged my baby brother who has been incredibly supportive, and vented to him as well as my girlfriend. And my sister-in-law posted supportive words on the same post. The post was me asking people to use my name rather than my dead name. Aunt's shame was triggered, unfortunately.

And I'm not trying to minimize your fears of microaggressions, they do hurt. And being a trans Latina, you will likely have a harder time than I am with this family stuff, being trans and white. But, to stay sane, I focus on the joyful parts. The people who do support me even when people are being hateful. And that brings me so much joy that I'm tearing up typing this.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 6 months ago

I'm Latinx as well. Yeah, some Latinx families can be... quite conservative, especially when extended family or older members are concerned... I feel you, I do.

And thank you for not gate-keeping!