If the symptoms fit you that's fine too, doin' their job for once. It's just that a lot of physicians and such tend to apply them as "subject must be young male with zero emotions, no social capability and an absurd interest in model train sets" type of thing, y'know? Women are hugely under-diagnosed because the criteria doesn't really see "female-typical" styles of masking.

I mean I thought puberty was gross but not everybody trans even has dysphoria, y'know? You're definitely not required to have been revolted by puberty or anything.

Uh it's like, since no human trait, physical or otherwise, is inherently gendered, then what even are "man" or "woman"? Could they even be defined, are they just a collection of vague traits that anybody could have? This combined with the Gender Accelerationist Manifesto really put the socially-constructed nature of binary gender into sharp focus for me, and I didn't really like the way western society weaponises the genders it colonialism'd everyone else with as a system of strict social and worker control. Doesn't feel that right to me.

I still call myself a lesbian and I can mostly fit in the "woman" box if someone puts me there, I am transfemme, but I'm also such a weird goblin with specific hobbies and intense autism that I only have the most vague relation to gender, beyond the whole estrogen thing, I guess

I don’t know, a lot of the symptoms are pretty dead on for me. What do you think is a good example where the diagnostic criteria are wrong/incomplete?

There's the whole issue of girls being underdiagnosed because they don't neatly fit the stereotype of autistic boys. There's also the tendency to underdiagnose NTs in general who have found coping mechanisms to mask the symptoms. People who put in twice as much effort as other students just to get by may not get accommodations because their grades are too good for box-tickers.

Also, if they're not qualified to give a diagnosis, they might be hesitant to say anything (similar to how x-ray techs won't tell you anything about how the x-rays look). Or they might just assume you already know. Or worried you might think they're insulting you if they suggest you're autistic.

I feel like I should have had a stronger reaction to like puberty, ya know?

I don't think I really had any sort of reaction. But I wonder if I might have already been dealing with chronic dissociation even back then. So it wasn't something I really considered my body anyways and even if I did, I didn't think there was anything that could be done about it. But there's no requirement to have any sort of reaction like that.