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maybe I'm enby? (hexbear.net)

submitted 9 months ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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autocorrect keeps wanting to make it "envy," which isn't entirely wrong

How did you figure out you were enby?

I've come to realize that my super-femme presentation is a form of masking, and I'm trying to figure out where I actually fall in the spectrum of gender.

So yeah, how did you figure out you weren't "gender" and were actually enby?

Does just thinking that maybe I'm not either mean that probably I'm not either? Is the state of being unsure and kinda in-between where you identify or what?

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[–] [email protected] 14 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) (1 children)

autocorrect keeps wanting to make it "envy,"

Haha me too

How did you figure out you were enby?

I (AFAB) realised I didn't relate to either extremes when it came to masculinity and femininity.

I've always felt that way, even as a kid I would gravitate towards "androgynous" fashions, hobbies, etc. I didn't like being called a girl, but I didn't particularly enjoy hyper masculinity either.

Yet I find that some days I feel like I want to be callied he, some days I want to be called she and wear a nice dress. And yet other days I don't want to be seen as either.

I would be thrilled if the concept of gender disappeared all together.

I've always felt this way, yet when I was little they didn't have a word for it. If someone had described enby to me as a kid I would have been like "YES THATS ME. I'M NO GENDER AND BOTH AND NEITHER AT THE SAME TIME."

I don't know if that helps, everyone's journey is different and someone else might be better at describing it than me.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 9 months ago

This actually helps tremendously, this is how I've always felt, too, but I had internalized the idea that it wasn't okay to feel this way

But everything you've said, I absolutely, 100% relate to

❤️❤️❤️❤️ thank you very, very much