A landmark of trans and feminist nonfiction, Whipping Girl is Julia Serano’s indispensable account of what it means to be a transgender woman in a world that consistently derides and belittles anything feminine. In a series of incisive essays, Serano draws on gender theory, her training as a biologist, her career in queer activism, and her own experiences before and after her gender transition to examine the deep connections between sexism and transphobia. She coins the term transmisogyny to describe the specific discrimination trans women face—and she shows how, in a world where masculinity is seen as unquestionably superior to femininity, transgender women’s very existence becomes a threat to the established gender hierarchy.

Now updated with a new afterword on the contemporary anti-trans backlash, Whipping Girl makes the case that today's feminists and transgender activists must work to embrace and empower femininity—in all of its wondrous forms—and to make the world safe and just for people of all genders and sexualities.

you can order a copy here with code SERANO20 for a discount

embarrassingly i've never read this, but a new edition is the perfect time to change this! it's one of the big books people always talk about as a must read for understanding transphobia and transmisogyny, so now i'm doing that and i feel pretty comfortable recommending others do so as well

Sometimes I have to remind myself that I am more than my gender and that transitioning isn’t some magic fix for all my problems.

And other times the gender euphoria hits and it feels like transitioning is indeed a magic fix. I literally just put my hair in a messy bun and left out some hair danglies in the front (what the fuck are these called?). It would look like such a small change to someone else but it feels huge to me. It even made me like my beard. I enjoyed a selfie of my face. What the fuck.

y'all likely want to know about this! I'll refrain from crossposting every time I do anything so project journal entries will stay over there but stop by if the idea sounds interesting!

cross-posted from: https://hexbear.net/post/1989510

Hey 🥰 I'm a transfem who's been working on something that I think might be of interest here and I'd love to share, because I believe that we can share a very mutually beneficial relationship. This post is about permanent hair removal.

I am going to use the term "transfeminine" in the following as an abridged version of "transfeminine, non-binary, and any other individual, queer or not, who would feel more confident and affirmed with less facial or body hair". This is a project for everyone.

A little bit of background on permanent hair removal:

Really, the only two options on the table are laser/IPL and electrolysis. Speaking to the former first, laser/IPL is without a doubt the most accessible of the two options, but it comes with a lot of drawbacks. For one, laser/IPL is neither permanent nor complete. This may sound like an immediate dealbreaker, but the ability to delay and diminish hair growth down to light wisps for months to years at the cost of only a handful of sessions makes it a valuable instrument in transfeminine gender affirming hair removal. The drawbacks don't end there though; another serious and deeply unfortunate drawback of laser and IPL hair removal is that they don't work on all skin tones and hair colors. The mechanism of action depends on light passing through the skin and being absorbed by hair roots (which then heats up the follicle, damaging it, hopefully, to the point that it is unable to continue growing), meaning both light skin and dark hair are requirements for eligibility. This is deeply unfortunate for all but People of Pasta. There are other drawbacks, like an increased incidence of adverse skin reactions relative to electrolysis, but the two issues noted above make it a non-starter for black and brown folks and extra-bleached-flour crackers. These issues in mind, laser/IPL is a tool that can be relied on at times, but for trans folks, laser/IPL is a non-starter for bottom surgery preparation due to the incompleteness and temporary nature of the procedure.

Electrolysis is permanent, 100% complete, works on all skin tones and hair colors, and has a lower incidence of skin-related side effects. Perfect! What's the catch? Electrolysis is expensive as fuck. Where a complete course of bikini area laser or IPL may cost hundreds of dollars, the same area with electrolysis will cost thousands, sometimes as high as tens of thousands of dollars, due to the fact that unlike laser/IPL, which takes a second per exposure and can be done in areas of hundreds of hairs at a time, electrolysis must be done hair by hair, which is a lot of time to spend with a licensed cosmetologist/electrologist. Costs are similarly prohibitive for facial electrolysis, and even more wildly exorbitant for body hair removal due to the large surface area, so much that it is virtually never even discussed as an option for this. This won't do either. What is to be done?

The mechanism of action of electrolysis hair removal is to insert an electrode in the form of a fine needle down the hair shaft and pass a current through the electrode, into the hair root, and out through a return electrode elsewhere in the body. This causes an electrochemical reaction in the hair root that produces a few nano/microliters of lye, which super, definitely, for sure kills the hair. (if you know the difference between galvanic, blend, and thermolysis, you're way ahead of the class, good eye but I'll bring it up again later.)

At home electrolysis exists, but it is not easy or cheap as it currently stands. Issues with machine quality, battery consumption, and power make this an option, but an undesirable one. My hope is that we can make it easier, cheaper, and safer, by designing an option that is more robust, more available, eats through fewer batteries, operates with greater power, and is designed with constant dynamic community dialog.

One thing I didn't lose in my transition is my audacity: surely I can make a device that applies a small current through a fine needle-like electrode in a short burst, right? So I got to researching. Can I buy professional-quality electrolysis needles without a cosmetology license? (yes, I can!) Are there readily accessible schematics for precision low-amperage current sources widely available? (yes, there are!) Are there resources available not paywalled behind cosmetology/electrology programs to learn to use this thing once I have a prototype? (yes, there are!) Has anyone tried to do this before? (Yes!!! Twice!!! More than that! Reddit user /u/abbxrdy, Github user ivanbarayev, the folks on the Hairtell forms, and Andrea James at Transgender Map, I have so much love in my heart for you. Here's to hoping that your work forms the foundation to bring accessible hair removal to all.)

My goal is to make a highly buttoned up, safe, accessible, and presentable electrolysis solution for transfeminine people to use on themselves, each other and for others to use on them. I want to cut out the cosmetologists, or specifically those in the electrolysis chain that take the surplus value from transfeminine people, like salon owners and machine manufacturers. I also want to avoid reliance on sparsely available, weak, and poor quality machines, which are the current sole option for at-home electrolysis. Ultimately, the goal is to bring safe, highly effective, and accessible electrolysis hair removal to all. Currently existing solutions generally fail on at least one of these. My objectives are as follows:

• Develop a circuit that can administer a 0.1 to 10 second pulse of current between 0 and 2 mA at a voltage between 0 and 25 V through an electrode upon each press of a button, foot pedal, or even bite switch, with no wall plug-in for safety reasons - battery power only.
• Make it into a printed circuit board that can be ordered and built out with no more than a soldering iron and YouTube tutorial level soldering skills.
• Develop a design for a probe that can hold an electrolysis needle, that can be actualized at home, without any advanced tools.
• Create a high quality and easy to follow manual for the build and usage of the device. This is missing with all current DIY solutions. This has to be something that is truly accessible to all - no electronics knowledge, wiring, debugging, multimeters, or anything else like that necessary.
• We're shooting for a budget under $100, but in general, cost is a deciding factor. It's not accessible if it's expensive.
• For now, my intention is to start with a galvanic only electrolysis machine. Blend and thermolysis produce much faster results, but I don't feel as confident working in high frequency electronics, and with galvanic being the most reliable option, despite being slower, it's the obvious pick for the 1.0 version. If this takes off, the plan is to continue with a blend or a mode-selectable version, which would really democratize electrolysis. If this works, blend electrolysis provides ten times faster hair kill time, and it's next on the menu. :eyes:

Here's what I'm capable of doing by myself:

• I'm an experienced multidisciplinary engineer. I have the skills to see through a basic version of this project to completion.
• I can also write a nice assembly and usage guide, I have experience in guide and technical writing for laypeople.
• I can bankroll all R&D and prototyping.

Here's what I would definitely benefit from community help on:

• I work terribly alone. I find it hard to get motivated if I don't have a team to share the work with or at least bounce ideas off of. I'm also not deeply experienced in this, and community collaboration will get rid of a lot of stumbling blocks that are probably easy avoidable. If you're experienced in analog electronics, you're the number one type of person I'm looking for, but I'd also love to work with digital/embedded folks when it comes to interface/UX time, or additionally anyone with electromechanical design experience for the probe.
• Saving the above, I still do much better with folks on the sidelines cheering me on, asking me questions, and keeping me accountable than I do alone, even if I'm working by myself.
• If you're a professional electrologist, I'd love to know what you like and don't like in a machine, what features are mandatory, what features are nice to have, and what features are pretty useless. If you have any other tips and advice, let me know!
• If you've tried DIY electrolysis before, please tell me how it went and how I can do better than whatever your most recent attempt was!
• I need help discussing the licensing. Do I want to go hardline GPL to prevent this from being picked up by manufacturers? Do I make it as open as possible with the hopes that someone can fabricate nice ones? Do I allow for manufacture with the provision that royalties be paid to some entity, which can then be redirected to some mutual aid project/charity/Maoist insurgents? Maybe even use a personal use only clause so I reserve the option to sell units as a worker's cooperative? This is all cart before the horse shit, but it's stuff that needs to get worked out before I make a github.
• What do I call it???

Going forward, I plan to post regular bi-weekly updates to keep this alive, days of the week pending Maybe Thursday and Sunday?. Look forward to the first journal entry/post tonight where I show off what I have so far! I think /c/diy is the most applicable place to post due to the comm purpose, but this initial post is getting cross-posted to /c/traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns due to the relevance in that community.

Let's stay in touch! This is an alt but I'll be checking it frequently. Thanks for being an awesome online community and I hope this can happen in a way that results in material good for my comrades.

Sorceress Adel: Queer Icon? 🤔

Hang out. Chat. Talk about what's going on. Have fun :3

i'm going theater kid mode

the actual context of this song is super messy and not technically about being trans (and it's tied up with the mental illness stuff i'd really need to see next to normal again to comment on but i think was bad? haven't seen the show since a local production years and years ago) but taken on its own terms it feels so real to my relationship with my parents

[Natalie:]
Superboy and the invisible girl
Son of steel and daughter of air
He's a hero, a lover, a prince
She's not there

Superboy and the invisible girl
Everything a kid oughta be
He's immortal, forever alive
Then there's me

I wish I could fly
And magically appear and disappear
I wish I could fly
I'd fly far away from here

Superboy and the invisible girl
He's the one you wish would appear
He's your hero, forever your son
He's not here
I am here

[Diana:]
You know that's not true
You're our little pride and joy, our perfect plan
You know I love you
I love you as much as I can

[Natalie:]
Take a look at the invisible girl
Here she is, clear as the day
Please look closely and find her before she fades away

[Natalie & Gabe:]
Superboy and the invisible girl
Son of steel and daughter of air
He's a hero, a lover, a prince
She's not there
She's not there
She's not there
She's not there

like, that's SUPER trans, is it not? you see this boy that doesn't exist and not the girl that does, please see me, the mom going "i love you as much as i can"

please tell me i'm right to have been having emotions about this when i was 17 and in the closet

i hope he's changed! and i'm glad people being shitty to trans women using femboys as a cudgel no longer have such a high profile tool to use! but i need people to understand this

link

heres one for our trans men as well

I hope its ok for me to make this post. F1NN5TER is coming out as genderfluid. He still prefers He/him pronouns but is ok with any pronouns. Good for him. He is also coming out as bisexual.

Girlfriends (colored) by Akemimi on DeviantArt

they should do it with astolfo next, i feel like that would make the most people upset

if you call everyone dude and a transfem person gets mad about it, don't get defensive. just say like "sorry, i won't do it again" and don't argue "actually it's gender neutral" or "i call everyone dude". even if you do, i guarantee she's heard that argument from someone who very much does not call people they see as women dude. i certainly have

same goes double for the word guy.

We are seeking volunteers willing to help us make educational and motivational content for this year's push to get as many American trans people to a place of safety as we can.

We still need: Video production folks - videographers, sound folks, motion graphics, editing, you name a skill we can proably use it. We currently have lots of copy writers, but are short most everything else.

This will probably be a few hours a week of work in a remote workgroup - say on a weekend day - and a few more hours of independent work, flexible with what you can do.

If you'd like to help us please drop us a line at [email protected]

Lets work together and save some trans lives.

I have lots of little red dots and my skin is still irritated about a week after my first session. They look a little bit like in-grown hairs but also somewhat like post-laser erythema based on images. Wondering if I should ask the tech to do a lower power setting at my next appointment or what. My skin is also a bit sensitive and shaving is more painful and does not seem to do as much. I have dark hair and lighter skin.