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submitted 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]
 
 

From the perspective of someone who sometimes has some cash to redistribute on here, I just want to provide some feedback on the semi-recent rule changes in this comm. I don't think all of them are working and I think this comm needs just a little bit more attention to rectify the situation!

First, and I hope least controversial: the sidebar desperately needs to be updated to reflect the actual updated rules.

Second, similarly uncontroversial, the rules should generally actually be enforced. Not enforcing them consistently is worse than not having them in some cases. This ties into several other issues.

Third thing, clarity is needed on whether or not payment details are allowed in the form of not (immediately) personally identifiable usernames. The rule rn says PII/opsec leaks aren't allowed and that payment links aren't, but usernames seems more gray. I thought that usernames weren't allowed at all until I re-read the post, and judging by the variety of different approaches to providing payment details in recent posts, I'm not the only one unsure.

Fourth thing, I think that strongly encouraging people to update their posts when they receive aid is a good thing for helping spread the community's limited aid resources around more where they are needed most. That's good guidance and I wish everyone did it!

Fifth, and to me personally, one of the most important, I am less likely to send money, if I have to effectively dox myself to the poster to do it, and when I have to ask for payment details over DM, that's basically what I'm doing (its trivial to correspond who I am by timing and payment method, even if multiple people do send them money, doubly so over multiple different posts over time). It's one thing for them to know my name or my venmo or whatever, but when they can tie that name to a specific hexbear account I start to go from "keeping the risk in mind" to "I don't think that's a risk I'm willing to take". So while I can understand the urge to not have posters dox themselves, the reverse is also true.

Sixth, as a result of having to DM for payment details (both because of the doxing risk and just the extra steps for both parties), mutual aid posters are currently incentivized to violate or skirt around grey areas of the rules if they want to get more aid. Combined with the lax enforcement/unclear rule, this creates a really sucky situation where people in need are punished monetarily for trying to follow the rules.

Seventh, related to #2/maybe #1 and others, I am of the opinion the comm probably needs another mod or two, it's pretty active and can be a fraught topic when there are disputes, and currently there only seems to be one active mod?

A further revision of the rules to explicitly allow non-doxxing payment methods to be published, followed by an update to the sidebar, would be greatly appreciated tbh. Or something like that. I appreciate all the work done to keep this site safe and functional and such, but these little issues have been nagging at the back of my mind for months now and needed to get out.

Thoughts?

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submitted 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]
 
 

Hello users of Hexbear, I am making this post to notify all users of the following:

Going forward comments giving unsolicited advice will be removed, comments that are critical of any mutual aid post or user will be removed, posts containing opsec leaks will be removed, posts containing payment links will be removed.

Posts containing personally identifiable information (PII) will result in a temporary ban from the mutual aid community

Posts or comments that state specific amounts received will be removed, please consider editing the title of a mutual aid post to include the mutual aid request has been received.

We strongly advise you ask people to send you a direct message to obtain information regarding payment.

Consider not make comments about getting large anonymous donations or about what the money gets spent on.

If you want to make a meta comment, provide advice/resources or hold another user accountable, then please make a separate post in this community but do not ping them or specifically/explicitly link their hexbear account to another hexbear account.

Users cannot assume that any post has been vetted and must do their own investigation.

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I've spoken on here previously about how I'm going through a disability benefit appeal and have no money. I can't accept cash due to the DWP. A couple of people kindly helped me buy food for this month. Now I'm in desperate need of some laundry disinfectant. Due to problems caused by my cancer treatment I have constant skin infections, I've been hospitalised for them multiple times as they can be severe. I started using a laundry disinfectant which has helped to reduce the frequency and severity of the infections but it's not available on the NHS and I'm almost out. If anyone is able to help it's called Eradicil and it's available from various different places including amazon.co.uk ebay.co.uk and eradicil.com. I also have it in my amazon wishlist. I'd be so grateful if someone could help me get some. Or maybe someone could give me an amazon voucher so i can order it myself? Anything that isn't actual money.

Sorry to ask for help on here again but I have no-one else to turn to.

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I'm currently going thru a severe mental health crisis. (I'll be safe, just miserable.) And I'd like recommendations for hauntology music. Anyone link a good playlist so I can give outta reality while hugging Basil? Photo is by my gay baby pitbull son.

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I have power back, yes, but I still have an internet outage. For this reason, I have to use a mobile data connection for everything, and I cannot work as my job is a remote job that explicitly requires a stable internet connection. Due to how severely Milton hit and how much time it's made me miss work, I'm genuinely concerned about whether or not I'd be able to make rent again.

This is anxiety that I absolutely don't need right now, especially since I was thinking that the job situation made me feel secure, but of course, despite this, I still have to be let down by a fucking hurricane. I can't just have a month where I can calmly go about doing wage labor to pay for things that are essential for me to live. Nope! Even some natural disaster has to get in the way of that.

Overall, I gotta make $750 by the 1st, but any amount helps. I don't know how long I'll be without internet, but that is how long I'll be without the ability to work. I'll keep c/mutual_aid updated if I must do frequent posts again.

Fuck landlords and all capitalists alike.

I have Cash App, Venmo, and PayPal, so PM me for any one of those handles if you are willing to assist.

rage-cry

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I am only 30$ short of being able to get my Suboxone. This med is the only thing other than my dog keeping me off fentanyl. Please help. My PayPal is [email protected]

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It is day 2 of no Suboxone and no OCD meds. Please help me with even just ten bucks. I am slowly losing my mind. My PayPal is [email protected]

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we just had the worst rains we've ever had. we've lost power and our house flooded very badly. i have not yet been able to assess all the damage but it's pretty bad. some of the roof has fallen in.

we need money to buy a ladder and materials to make repairs. we'll do all the work ourselves. might have to post again if the electrical damage is bad, but right now i think we need like 300€ to get what we need to start repairs. anything is welcome. my partner's paypal is [email protected] or feel free to message for my bank details (it's a eurozone bank if that matters)

and thank you so much to anyone who can help.

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I'm highly distressed because of how much work time I have missed, and the fact that I'm struggling to have steady access to food has fucked me up bad. I had to toss everything from my fridge due to spoilage, and I'm feeling extremely pissed off at this moment. I had to endure this awful power outage for days, and the amount of rage, stress, and hopelessness I feel is not really able to be properly communicated.

Any help is appreciated because I most likely cannot get any assistance through actual organizations, be they government and non-government. I'm still trying in some capacity, though.

I have Cash App, Venmo, and PayPal. PM to acquire those if you are willing to help in any capacity whatsoever.

Thanks,

~ Angel

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Title. PayPal is [email protected] and cash app is $slimecore please help

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Hi, I’m out of cat litter completely and do not get paid until Friday. I take Apple Pay and Zelle. A bag of litter costs around $32

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I'm in desperate need of some assistance with some food cash please. Any and all help Is greatly appreciated. My cash app cash tag is $KodyMartinGerba and my PayPal is @CodyGerba or [email protected]. Thank you

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I have two ish days of meds left that are keeping me sane and off hard drugs. Pls help by boosting and sending anything to my PayPal, which is [email protected] And my cashapp $Slimecore

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Hi y'all. My name is Fawn. You might know me from such hits as "making sure theres neopronouns on this site regardless of the fits dudebros throw" and "More or less the entire reason there an anarchy comm." First of all, I just wanted to address that this is almost certainly my last post on this forum. I've simply outgrown the need for community it provided for me during covid. Rest assured that I'm logged off doing plenty of cool stuff irl. I find myself mostly posting here asking for help, and I don't wanna be a drain on community resources.

That being said, I have had severe tooth decay most of my adult life, without the financial ability to get it taken care of. I have about 6-8 teeth that still need taken care of, AFTER the loan you see attached in the above image. Obviously getting just my loan covered would be a huge relief, but it would probably be about $10,000 to cover the rest of the work I need done. If by some miracle all my needa get covered, I will update this post.

If you would like to donate to the last surge of procedures I need to settle into my middle ages in good health:

Venmo: @Fawn-B-1

paypal.me/sylviaGHousing

I can discuss other ways of getting me money in DMs, anything helps, really.

Stay strong. We are stronger than them. Much love.

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I’m homeless, in a part of AmeriKKKa where every winter is tolerable except for a week or two where it dips the closest I’ve ever experienced to 0°F. The last two years I’ve been able to ride it out in motel rooms paid for by friends but this year I don’t think I’ll be so lucky. As fall fades fast into winter I’m becoming straight up terrified.

I want to do more than just survive this winter though. I’ve always dreamt of living out of a van, even before I was homeless. I almost accomplished that dream this summer but I fucked up. I think I’ve learned my lesson and I feel like I deserve a second chance. Not only would a van give me a place to stay kind of indoors-ish this winter, it will give me something I’ve never had before: my own private space. Being car homeless is generally better than being tent-and-sleeping-bag homeless; I’ll have a better shot at blending in, and I’ll have more mobility, a place to stash my things, etc.

I’m going to try my best not to dip into this fund for food or day to day sundries. But it’s hard when like, only one person sends me $20, or something.

And I’m going to keep boosting this fundraising effort—something multiple people have recommended to me.

CashApp and Venmo: allthetimesivedied

DM me for my friend’s PayPal.

I also might need someone’s help setting up a GoFundMe.

I’m at kind of a crossroads in my life. I can either have hope for the future and get my life back together, or I can keep not giving a fuck and die soon. Having a van, which would encourage me to replace my ID and give me some self-esteem, would help a lot.

Thanks.

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Fuck you pay me! Just kidding but anyone got a couple bucks to go out have s beer or something I'm cold homeless, Hella depressed right now and need something to do other then watch the paint fade on my van please n thanks cashapp; $paresomelove

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submitted 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]
 
 

We're going down the DIY route, so it'll be much cheaper, but I'm trying to get as many girls their sublingual drops and t-blockers as possible. I know how to make sublingual drops, since I'm personally too afraid to do injections. The t-blockers are quite expensive compared to the estradiol, and I'm trying to keep things as cheap as possible because everybody who has talked to me about getting hormones is quite poor. Anybody who wants to help me with my little mutual aid project, feel free to DM me for payment info. You'll be subsidizing people's hormones

Edit: Figured I'd add this, I already have mine. I tested my idea for DIY sublingual drops on myself first. This is purely for other people.

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I really need my Suboxone, anxiety, and depression meds to stay sober. Please help me or at least leave cozy pet photos.

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I'm having to pay my rent late and also had to miss two days of work this week due to being unable to travel in a hurricane. I don't have PTO left so that will be unpaid. I need the money by Wednesday at the latest. I'm going to try to contact social services to see if I can get rental assistance in the meantime.

My PayPal is sgriffith0891 at geemail dot com

CashApp is $sgriffith0891

Thank you all!

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Hello fellow open minded kind hearted people. (See what I did, I once heard flattery gets you everywhere)lol jk. OK so on a serious note I have the opportunity to better my life and "work"towards a better tomorrow for myself. Why do I mention you ask? Well the only thing holding me back is the job I've, or if this works out will, start is in another county not horribly far but out of the reach of my current public transit. So short story long a friend of mine is willing to sell me an E-bike to get back and forth to work on the daily, there only asking 90$ for it which is amazingly cheap, but with no start up money I'm stuck like Chuck, if any of yall want to help this person progress to the next step I'd love you forever !!! Cash app: $paresomelove

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I only have 3 days of meds left until I run out of the meds I was prescribed in rehab. I literally need these to survive rn. My PayPal is [email protected] and my cashapp is $slimecore any bit helps

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I don't have enough money to pick up my anxiety, PTSD, depression, and OCD meds. Please help me PayPal is [email protected] and cash app is $slimecore

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I am a transfem from Iraq and need someone who can sponsor me to Canada, I can provide more details about it and can communicate about it fully as needed so if you can or know someone who can please contact me ASAP

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My computer broke like 3 months ago and I'm broke as fuck. I miss programming so much and getting a new or used pc would be much cheaper than fixing my PC.

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Still stuck in the inhumanity of job searching with autism and no drivers license, and if not for the solidarity of comrades on Hexbear these past few months I'd have been absolutely screwed.

I'm looking for 30 to 40 dollars so I can run to the store and stock up for the week, but any amount would be extremely helpful and appreciated. My cashapp and venmo accounts are both under the handle cosecantphi

EDIT: Goal reached! Thanks so much to our dedicated comrade bumpers and generous comrade donors here on c/mutual_aid. I eagerly await the day my situation is stabilized so I can pay it forward. heart-sickle

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