The whole question of double standards is in a sense, asking about common unhealthy traits
It's not entirely on you. Accusing you of mansplaining is not cool, she should've just said something like "i'm sharing this because I'm looking for emotional support, not solutions, so please stop trying to solve my problems when I'm just venting".
In a sense, how people react to having problems shared with them is a cultural difference, neither is right or wrong but they can be jarring and confusing when you're used to one culture but interact with a different one. But it's not fair to just assume the other culture is acting in bad faith
- Find your toxic traits
- stop doing them
The general point is that the "what is a woman" question is still word games rather than an honest attempt at finding truth and understanding
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I switched to arkenfox since the librewolf package lagged a bit on arch and I didn't want to build myself. If sites really break bad (usually I can get around it by disabling some ublock settings), I just open a blank firefox profile
There's also arkenfox or librewolf
Insane expectations being placed on women around beauty and appearance, and the resulting insecurities that creates, play a big role in this