Being trans is giving me the POC experience that I never had growing up since I always lived in the most diverse and least racist cities (hexbear.net)

submitted 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) by GaveUp@hexbear.net to c/traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns@hexbear.net

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Since some people are misunderstanding, this is about how I never really felt marginalized as a POC thanks to lucky living situations but being trans is slapping me in the face with that experience now

People (cis/white) are only cool with you as long as they can view you as lesser and with pity

The moment cishet people find out I don't view myself as below them, have any shred of confidence, use the women's washroom with no shame, or that I only date women, their friendly facade slips

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[-] bobs_guns@lemmygrad.ml 36 points 1 week ago

Ppl really hate it when a trans woman stands up for herself or has any amount of self esteem

[-] GayTuckerCarlson@hexbear.net 35 points 1 week ago

It's driving me lowkey insane how much femininity is tied to whiteness and how socially acceptable it is to praise 'porcelain' skin

[-] PKMKII@hexbear.net 24 points 1 week ago

or that I only date women, their friendly facade slips

Is that an angry chaser thing? They drop the nice guy ally bit the moment it becomes apparent you’re not going to be a FWB for them?

[-] GayTuckerCarlson@hexbear.net 23 points 1 week ago

This is just how cishet men are when they find out they can't sleep with any woman

[-] GaveUp@hexbear.net 23 points 1 week ago

It's mostly cis women in my experiences doing that. I imagine it's like, they just treat me like a gay guy pet type of thing then suddenly I'm a threat or something

[-] lilypad@hexbear.net 6 points 1 week ago

Its this 100%. As long as were nonsexual (or there's no chance of us being attracted to the same group that they belong to) were fine, the second that gets called into question they fall back to the ontological perpetratorremoveds thought

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