Nope

No, a bit cringe to care about it at all tbh, but it’s not your fault you were made to feel/think this way about it

No. Just be who you are, genuinely, and interact in spaces where people accept you for who you genuinely are. Beyond that it'll happen. That's it basically. That's easier said than done but that's the trick. Be you in spaces that are comfortable for you and comfortable with you.

Nope.

Nah bro, and while I'm a firm believer in the fact that women owe us nothing and can do as they please - judging by the men alot of women are with, it might not be such a bad thing you aren't like them.

I'm not a virgin and would say I had a fairly successful sex life for my status/looks/whatever before I was in a relationship for a decade, but the ""market"" forces have certainly changed winds since I was single last. Maybe I'm just getting old, Idk. 😂

no

The first time I had sex I remember thinking that if that was all we were doing and I didn't like the person otherwise, it would have been hard to convince me to do it again instead of going to play Smash Bros with my friends. It almost makes me wonder if I'm ace in some flavor.

It wouldn't be my place to judge you for it. If late 20s virginity were indicative of some interpersonal transgression (woman hater, bad hygiene, abhorrent social skills) then it might be a signpost that points towards something pathetic about you. But if you're someone I like spending time around, then the number of sexual partners you have had is just noise. I don't think you'll ever believe it's not a big deal until you lose your innocence, so it's not like I'm telling you not to endeavor if that's what your motivational calculus is telling you. So if it all falls on deaf ears, it's not like you're going to have a bad time talking to people you find attractive and fuckin. If might just be part of your development.

Nope!

Nah, similar boat. Having people around - particularly in any intimate capacity - makes me excessively self-conscious.

Nah

Nope! Just don't be a 28 year old male virgin who is also pathetic. Worrying about it too much would be pathetic.

No, upholding the volcel pledge is based.

I'm asexual and aromantic, so I might be a bit biased though.

Only if you make it apparent.

No but I understand feeling like that.

Lost mine around age 11 with a peer the same age. Most of the time I didn't even count it as real since I was so young. Was one of those sorta foundational parts to realizing I was trans when I wanted to be the girl during it.

I've had some casual hookups over the years with strangers but not had a proper relationship because I'm bad at selling myself. I sorta felt the same way regarding relationships a few years ago that I'm pathetic for not having had one, but then I thought about it, looked at the options there were and sorta just made my peace with it all. I'm not going to wade into dating apps, if I want a relationship one day I'll let it happen, but for now I've found happiness being alone.

Its brutal and loneliness can bring suffering, but its not pathetic. In your opinion, why would it be pathetic?

no, not at all. sex is nice but it's far from the end all be all of life

Absolutely not

No. Honestly, it makes you wonder if this trend of shaming those who have not engaged in intercourse is a ploy to serve the interest of getting working class people trapped in parenthood they didn't want and can't afford.

An obvious side effect of this is being less willing to engage in praxis and take risks, because now you have more to lose. It can, in many cases, serve to de-radicalize leftists.

No it's not. Caring about other people being virgins is the pathetic thing.

While not being pathetic it still really sucks. I really hope your situation will change to the better soon.

No, but I wish you wouldn't just call me out like this. 😠

No