Sapphic, perhaps.
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I wish people didn't hyperfixate on labels so much these days. I feel like it causes more problems than it solves in terms of creating an identity someone needs to stick to instead of letting people just be themselves.
Agreed.
The desire to subdivide ourselves appears to have been very beneficial to the ruling class in many ways.
You're bi and you have a type.
I love this answer. It's perfect.
I’d say I generally lean the same way, and I consider myself bi.
Depending on your gender you're heteroflexible or homoflexible
You're horny.
If you're looking for a technical term, you would fall under gynosexual. But even with the term: only you can truly define your own sexuality.
Probably bisexual, but you've got a type.
Yeah. Let’s not overcomplicate it. They’re bi with a preference for femininity.
I think trying to define it is fairly pointless. We love what we love and we lust what we lust. Rather than defining it, I wish we could all just accept that and stop hating people for having different preferences.
Yep, but sometimes you want to communicate about your preferences, and then you need understandable terminology. Giving names to phenomena is generally useful. Discussing things is useful. Understanding natural diversity is great and important.
Fair point but I'm not sure that naming every permutation is possible. We might be better off trying to make do with charts or something.
Yes.
This was the term I've heard, but damn does it sound terfy...
probably because it sounds close to gynophilia
That feels cursed as a fandom dot com wiki
Yeah, lgbt being a fandom sounds super phobic. Just looked up gynesexual on a search engine and copied the first link that had a definition.
Fucked if I know the new terms but for my entire 20+ years of sexually active life, you would be classified as bi. But like I said or implied, Im old as fuck and have no clue what the currently accepted term may be. If I need to know the new sexuality/gender terms then im fucking a woman who is way too young than I should be fucking with. Thats a statement of the types of people who live in my area and not a blanket statement that no older individuals use current sexuality identities.
From Fetlife's Kinktionary:
Finsexual: Usually refers to a person who is attracted to femininity regardless of a person’s gender identity. Is sometimes considered more inclusive than Gynesexual (as the prefix "gyne" focuses on female anatomy).
I'm assuming you're male? If so, this sounds like an exact description of my sexuality. If someone really wants specifics, I usually just say "I like femmes/femininity" or "I'm not into mascs." But 99% of the time I just say I'm straight. Seems accurate enough to me
Normal.
Are you implying that something else would be abnormal?
They probably mean it more in the sense of common, regular, standard or majority. If I say I'm a normal bloke happy with my gender, I'm not trying to shit on trans people, I'm just talking about myself.
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Bi but with a type?
Labels exist to describe what is. You don't need to fit neatly into a category. You like who you like, and you shouldn't apologize for it.
Like for me, I'm attracted to the late Andre Braugher portraying the gay man Captain Holt on Brooklyn 99 when he's pretending to be straight and describing his fictitious partner's heavy breasts. Nothing sexier than that, but the brain trust at Oxford hasn't come up with a word for that one yet.
Oh fuck you! I was not prepared to learn one of my favorite sitcom characters is dead. Fuck me, now I gotta Google how he passed.
My condolences. He died too soon.
Of course you don't have to fit a box. But it's easier to communicate your preferences if there is a lable you can use for yourself. OP is trying to find out if there is such a shortcut they could use. Explaining that they don't necessarily need to do that is not helpful.
Sure, but it's also helpful to know that there aren't labels for everything, nor do we need labels for everything. Really, the only person you need to communicate your preferences to is the person you prefer. In my (admittedly limited) experience, romantic partners don't want to be reduced to a subset of their attractive physical features. "I like you" is generally sufficient, and it's not really anybody else's business what you like or don't like. We're conditioned to try to label ourselves, and I would argue that it is unhealthy reinforcing that conditioning by inventing new labels.
OP could describe themselves as bi or pan or omni, but none of those are the sum total of OP's lived experience. We should describe ourselves, not define ourselves.
Holt talking about thigh gap is hilarious.
"There's nothing more intoxicating than the clear absence of a penis."
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Obviously you're a feminist /s
sounds like labels just aren't that useful to you
Labels are not currently 100% fixed, there's still some blurry edges around the newer terms, and older ones are shifting. Sometimes they shift faster than a given person can track.
With that disclaimer, it's possible that would fall under the bi or pan sexual labels. Depending on who you ask, that can be and/or instead of just or.
Bi covers it well, because it's an attraction to both men and women, and doesn't specify how they present.
You could fall into the omnisexual rather than pan or bi, as omni is generally considered to be for people that do care about gender, but without a specific preference; while pan generally indicates a lack of concern about gender at all.
However, there is also gynosexuality. Thing is it gets used in two different ways, only one of which fits your description. One usage is really close; an attraction to people that present as feminine. But, the other usage is that you're attracted to women, which includes anyone that identifies as a woman, but wouldn't include those that identify as men, while expressing traditionally feminine presentation. So there's a degree of conflict there, making it difficult to express one's sexuality with that label in discussions about attraction.
Not that picking a label really defines you or limits you. They're essentially just there to make matchmaking easier, and for general discussion.
Finsexual, from what I understand, is a newer term meant to replace gynesexual's dual meaning, in that it means that you're attracted to femininity regardless of gender identity or biological sex.
That's one I hadn't run across before!
Could be bi/pan with a preference/type, or gynesexuality/gynephilia.
I've heard the term "gynephilic" before. "Androphilic" would be the term used for being attracted to masculinity btw.
That said, you're free to consider yourself to be whatever sexuality you want. There are more than a few self-proclaimed straight men who are attracted to males who look pretty. Do you.
Gynosexual? I would say I fit into this category as well, but I just say I'm bi with a female preference.
Pansexual or straight but curious. Honestly just depends on what you're more comfortable with.
I was talking to my Emirati parents about this, and they said I’m just a manwhore...
That checks out.
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