Dying. If it's so scary, then why does everybody do it?
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I plan on skipping, so you might want to change it to almost everybody.
I've died zero times thus far and don't see why it should change.
!remindme 10 years
Ending capitalism to embrace a system where we end poverty, consumerism and discriminations.
I’ve always suspected people conflate communism with dictators, which is the main cause of distrust for anything anti-capitalism.
Are there any examples of a nation successfully transitioning out of capitalism without ending up in a dictatorship? I want to believe it can be done, but I have no idea what it would look like.
Public speaking. I've seen surveys where more people are afraid of speaking in front of an audience than they are of dying, which is utterly insane. For the vast, vast majority of scenarios where you might find yourself speaking to a group of people, the risk level is very low. Likewise, in the vast majority of cases, few people are likely to remember much about your performance. It's just talking.
Well I mean dying is a one time thing. However if you do badly at public speaking you will never hear the end of it. And if you do good they might ask you to do it again.
Can you imagine waking up at 3am and remembering how you said “Salvia” instead of “saliva” in your dissertation?! And it’s been 10 years since, but you KNEW you just outed your habits to the whole audience and your professors?!
Edit: Death is a sweet release you never have to remember, not like the above.
Spiders (USA).
Most spiders are harmless to humans and even beneficial to have around.
99.9% of every horror movie, which should be renamed jump annoyances, tada
Or the other category of horror, “that’s gross”
Asking someone out on a date.
I had social anxiety for years, so I probably struggled with this more than most. But it's surprisingly easy. And more often than not, if your instincts are that that person likes you, you're usually right.
if your instincts are that that person likes you, you're usually right.
They're not talking about you and i, dear reader.
Linux. It's more the same than different and everyone learns fast :)
Most mainstream distros are no harder to learn than Windows or macOS. People (especially as they get older) are just averse to relearning how to do things.
I replaced my father in laws win XP with ubuntu and more recently ubuntu with mint and he barely noticed.
Here is your browser, adjust volume here, no problem.
Universal healthcare. So scary only 33 of the world's 34 most modernized countries have managed to make it work.
I should mention that only South Korea and Canada have TRUE Single Payer (which is, IMO, what the US should be working toward).
Any other type of “universal healthcare” has the effect of creating a premium lane alongside the regular one. However, if all of society has to use the same healthcare system, they will have no choice but to collectively fight tooth and nail to improve healthcare for everyone. This is the only way, IMO.
In a truly just society, the homeless man sleeping on the bench would have the same healthcare as Jeffrey motherfucking Bezos.
Traveling to a foreign country.
I haven't done as much as a millionaire traveler but I have touched 30 countries and directly explored about 20 of them. I got to see wealthy first world Europe, as well as Morocco, Egypt, South America in Peru and a whole bunch of southeast Asia and India and Sri Lanka. Not to mention road trips in Canada and parts of the US west coast and east coast.
I got to see a lot of dirt poor slums and really rough places.
I don't drink nor do I do drugs because I'm in recovery myself (30 years sober) .. and what I discovered is that once you remove any and all illegal behavior, drugs and alcohol, the majority of people everywhere in the world are decent people like you and me who are just trying to get by. Sure they want your money and some people are desperate but touristic places usually attract seedy people anyway. Regular common people away from tourist places are just getting by and they really don't care who you are.
This is all within the realm of being realistic too ... you don't go wandering down a lonely alleyway on your own or go into a dark sleazy noisy bar. I'm just saying that as long as you are safe and others are safe, people the world over are no different than you and me.
Root canals. The procedure has come a long way since the 90s and is relatively smooth and painless now. Obviously having a good and skillful edodontist also helps, but it’s no longer excruciating like decades ago.
Can confirm. The pain kept me awake the night before my appointment, so I was quite tired while having my canals filled. As soon as the dentist had given me a couple of anesthetic shots, I had to struggle to stay awake. I felt nothing during the procedure, and the only pain after was in my wallet.
Australian animals.
Americans are the absolute worst at it and it's just so stupid. Yes we have poisonous snakes and spiders, so does America.
We have more of them than America, yes.
You know what we don't have? Large predators. You can go walking in the bush in Australia and you might see one of the most dangerous snakes in the world. You know what you do? You don't fuck with it and continue on with your business.
You're walking in America and oh, you've just stumbled across one of the multiple species of bears, coyotes, wolves, cougars etc. Animals that may chase you down and maul you. It's not even a competition.
And you, as an American, might say 'oh but you pretty much never see them'. Yeah same with dangerous snakes etc in Australia.
Skydiving
Yes, the first few times are intimidating. Hence why most students do their first few jumps tandem and then with a Jump Master after that.
After that though, you'll be looking out the window of the plane and seeing just how much air there is to play in. As you gain experience, you will internalize the fact you're safer in free fall, than you are on the airplane.
A chill guy on a Citi bike
Living in the Matrix. If you do what they want, you get to taste steak.
If you weren’t born into being one of those poors.
Needles.
I think mine is animalistic fear of damaging yourself. I’m fine, I sit down and act nonchalant. I’ll talk and look at the person or them doing it. But, under that is my skin getting clammy and breaking out in a light sweat…
Minorities.
The heat death of the universe.
You literally don't need to worry about it at all. You won't be there for it when it happens.
I don’t think anyone is out there scared that they’re going to find themselves present at the heat death of the universe, they’re scared of the implication: the idea that nothing matters, even on the grandest of scales, because everything will be lost in the end.
The fear isn’t physical, it’s philosophical.
The sun imploding in the next few billions years. I've had conversations about that that I could see in the person's eyes that they were getting really scared about it.
hunger.
I don't mean starvation I mean there are people that cannot sit with a slight uncomfortable feeling of hunger. If you have eaten enough to fuel your body in a healthy way then being slightly hungry will not harm you.