[-] [email protected] 1 points 4 hours ago

I need more than to just keep working the problem. I'm middle aged and living with family again, I've always been poor even though I excel at all my jobs and I have a degree. And there's no such thing as a "conclusion," except death, so what I'm working at is stable ongoing engagement in an arena where I can maintain that engagement. Still trying to think what that can look like. Thanks for the encouragement.

[-] [email protected] 1 points 5 hours ago

Can't see the image. Mozilla and chrome both say it's "unsecure" and won't let me proceed to view it.

[-] [email protected] 2 points 5 hours ago

The power-hungry ones that start campaigns of social warfare, yes. But they're also very socially powerful and are able to dictate social outcomes and perceptions. Often they're jealous that people like me, or that I'm performing very well at a job, and they see my social ineptness as an opportunity and a fun way to publicly demonstrate their superiority in some other arena. To them socializing is warfare. And it's not enough to just call them assholes, because I've lost many friends, and it has severely limited my job prospects. I need a response that benefits me more. But I also can't just keep throwing myself into that thresher. I'm still trying to think of the right approach. Because I'm ambitious and intelligent enough to want more than unemployment and isolation.

[-] [email protected] 3 points 7 hours ago

this guy gets jokes

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Sure. There are layers to it. If I socially interact for a few hours then I'll become exhausted, probably cranky. A psychiatrist said I have ADHD, and the sensory input of multiple persons being around is too much. Social environments tend to be overwhelming. A psychologist said I have avoidant personality disorder, but I'm not sure I agree since my problem isn't based on fear, the fear is downstream to basic social inabilities. But the fear does cause its own problems.

I also have a social phobia. I don't think it's genetic, since I didn't have it as a kid. But my teenage years (11-18) were severely isolated, and full of humiliation and severe loneliness. I just never recovered from that. I spent my 20s trying to learn, forcing myself into all these social environments, but it was mostly just a torturous cycle of collapse.

I over-rely on my sense of humor, and this often causes problems. Most of the time it works really well (people like to laugh, and they appreciate a good joke), so I can make a very good first impression. But when it comes to "actual" social interaction, I simply have no idea what to say, like ever. I can negotiate well on other people's behalf, and I'm good at explaining things, but in open-ended social situations I tend to be weirdly quiet or else I say horribly wrong things without realizing it. I've experienced multiple instances of people doing prolonged campaigns of social warfare against me because I accidentally insulted them, and they recognize my vulnerabilities. I'm terrible at reading non-verbal communication (this isn't just a product of social anxiety or phobia... my brain just doesn't pick up on these things, doesn't know what to do with them). So basically I'm not a social creature. Some people actually have thought that I was mentally handicapped (or experiencing cognitive decline, or that I'm "on drugs") because I just don't respond like an intelligent person. But then I'll go to "therapy" (what a disgusting joke) and they'll see how well I can explain myself, and they'll declare me to be fine. Clearly no problems with "communication" (but socializing isn't just explaining things to a person).

I could go on and on, but that paints a picture.

[-] [email protected] 19 points 16 hours ago

I'm wired wrong for most social interactions. It's a serious problem, and my attempts to overcome it generally make it much worse. But "accepting myself" means accepting unemployment, and then how can I pay rent? (Currently unemployed and living with family).

However, I don't think people's social behavior is all BS. I try not to be resentful. I know there's lots of BS, but I also know that's what becomes most obvious to me, so it's partly a matter of perception.

[-] [email protected] 2 points 2 days ago

Nobody's complaining about the simple.wikipedia part, but you already know that.

[-] [email protected] 3 points 2 days ago

They're not missing that part. Nobody's "raging" against simple.wikipedia

[-] [email protected] 3 points 2 days ago

I'm not at all serious about it. It's just an excuse to write "my boss fired me" as a punchline.

It's a variation on this:

Maybe I should have put the joke into the image, since a bunch of people are responding sincerely lol. I'm aware that work (modern pseudo-slavery) is horror. There's a never-ending supply of reasons to quit any job.

Of course you can 100% post your sincere answer alongside the others though. You don't need my permission! And it doesn't matter where you live. Post what you want.

[-] [email protected] 14 points 3 days ago

I'd rather be waterboarded

[-] [email protected] 10 points 3 days ago

If you just get LLMs to write your code then you can write your code zero times

[-] [email protected] 8 points 3 days ago

[ in walks fully-released-bug-driven developer ]

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I'm unemployed, and my living situation doesn't give me much space or peace to get any kind of work done. So I either want to find co-working space to rent, or coffee shops that don't play music and will allow me to stay for hours. I don't want to use the public libraries anymore. And I don't want to insult them by explaining why, let's just take "public libraries" off the table. Co-working spaces are probably what I'll go for, but wow they're expensive. I'm glad to hear some recommendations of co-working spaces that will let me sit and write (code and prose) whenever I want. Bonus points if they have a kettle so I can make tea. Please share your ideas and experiences!

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I know the Tea Store in the Byward Market has a nice selection of loose teas (highly recommended), but I'm hoping to find something nearer to downtown or Elgin. Not looking for bagged teas, but a place that actually stocks some loose teas where I can conveniently stop for a while without the detour to Byward Market. A restaurant is fine. It doesn't have to be a tea shop. Thanks!

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General history, preferably. Perfect Books has some niche histories and trivia, but I want to read the whole thing from the beginning (in hardcopy, not digital).

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"Linux" "Linux" "GNU/Linux" [gets thrown out the window]

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