Ask Lemmy

Get mental help, especially if you are a man. It's ok to cry, and doesn't make you any less of a person

If a child gives you anything, anything at all, blade of grass, shell at the seaside, whatever - take it with real, heartfelt thanks. It is all they have to give.

Protect your head when doing contact activities,sports, etc. Brain injury and seizures are a terrible thing to live with.

If you're ever randomly angry or sad for reasons that are out of your control and not the fault of anyone around you, make a small announcement. Something as simple as "I'm upset about X, sorry if it seems like I'm being short or snappy with anyone."

The ability to admit fault and learn from your mistakes is the most important quality that separates a grown person from an actual adult.

Always keep stock of water in an extra overhead tank or atleast an extra lid bucket bathrooms for emergency when tap water ran out. Just make sure to change water every two weeks to prevent bug parties in it.

If you don't have kettle then have a lot of water bottles especially that can store warm drinking water for long time, to never run short of warm drinking water in winter.

Do super soft yoga in the morning.

When i tell people i do yoga every day before work, they think its MUCH HARDER than it is. I get up, drink a whole glass of water, and sit on my mat. If its cold, i use a space heater. I put on an easy yoga video on YouTube (i love Yoga with Adrienne) and i only do the floor parts lol.

I am in such better shape, i have more energy, I've lost weight, my posture & balance are better, and i can self-regulate my emotions a thousand times easier. I am so, so much happier with this simple lil 20mins starting my day.

If anything out of the ordinary lasts more than 24 hours, get to a doctor!

Three days after Thanksgiving, 2018, I developed a really bad case of heartburn. "No big deal," I thought, "It WAS Thanksgiving and I DID have the extra plate of sweet potatoes..."

Super hard to sleep, couldn't get positioned right.

Monday, pepto did nothing.

Tuesday, same.

Wednesday, super nauseated, throwing up, called out sick from work.

Thursday, the heartburn moved into my upper arms, which I didn't know was a thing. Nausea was gone, but it was replaced by the feeling that there was a giant rock in the center of my chest, heavy, pulling down on all my insides.

Advice line sends me to the hospital, hospital runs a blood test and finds I've been having a heart attack.

Every time my heart beats, it only pumps out 30% of what it should, that heavy feeling was my heart getting heavier and heavier every heartbeat.

Doc says 30% is the line between walking around, talking to people... and not.

Thursday - Sunday, Cardiac Ward.

Monday - Open heart surgery, ICU.

Tuesday-Thursday - Cardiac Ward. You'd think they'd let a dude rest after cracking you open like a lobster, fuck no! Get up and walk!

Friday - back home.

Find a place where you live to have a "sit spot" every day. Ideally outside, but if weather doesn't cooperate, where you can see outside. You don't have to do or think anything, just sit (or stand) and enjoy the view. It doesn't need to be epic, just something you like looking at. (In one of my places, it was the way a particular building interrupted the horizon that I found interesting.) No phone, no computer, no book - just breathe and observe.

It doesn't need to be for long. Start with two to five minutes. I usually do longer when I can.

Yes, it's a type of meditation. But a type that works better for this neurospicy gal than sitting in utter stillness or listening to music.

Currently, it's the picnic table near my bird feeders first thing after waking for my spot. In the morning and evening they are most active, so I sit with a cuppa and enjoy watching them negotiate who eats first while I wake up and caffeinate. It soothes my nervous system in a way notifications and doomscrolling can't, and makes me better able to handle my day.

I'll take your advice one step further: after you've hand-squiggied yourself, do a quick towel dry in the shower. Dry your feet as you step out and you won't get any water on the floor

You guys just walk out of the shower soaking wet? You don't dry yourselves in the shower and then step out?

Do what you think is right, but actually take some time to determine if it's actually right or just feels right

Don't wait for someone else to challenge your beliefs do it yourself first, use the Socratic method if you need a starting point

Rewarding or ignoring bad behavior is the same as encouraging bad behavior

Leave places/systems in the same or better state than you encounter them

Don't play rigged games

Keep a bowl by the door for keys and loose change

If you're not going to soak your dishes, at least splash some water on them and leave them upside down. The food bits won't harden as much and you won't have to scrub as hard.

Ha, ha! I already knew this one!!

If the chore takes just a few minutes, fucking do it now. Right now.