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And I'm going to add something that helps me talk to my therapist: "If it's mentionable, it's manageable."
After you've tried to deal with something yourself and haven't succeeded, telling someone about what's going on, no matter how unimportant or embarrassing or burdensome or shameful it feels, is the first step to living a life of contentment.
If a child gives you anything, anything at all, blade of grass, shell at the seaside, whatever - take it with real, heartfelt thanks. It is all they have to give.
My older sister gave my dad a dead bird she found when she was little. It ranks among the highest I've ever heard anyone shriek.
Protect your head when doing contact activities,sports, etc. Brain injury and seizures are a terrible thing to live with.
And cycling.
Ditto on the cycling. I’ve only ever gotten in one bad accident on my road bike, but if I hadn’t worn a helmet, I wouldn’t be here today. I got ran off the road by a car overtaking another when they shouldn’t have, went straight for a tree, used the roots as a sort of ramp to launch myself 5ish feet in the air, and landed helmet first on the road again with my bike landing on me soon after. I’ll never get on the bike without a helmet unless I’m on the trainer, no matter how short or safe I think the ride is.
If you're ever randomly angry or sad for reasons that are out of your control and not the fault of anyone around you, make a small announcement. Something as simple as "I'm upset about X, sorry if it seems like I'm being short or snappy with anyone."
Identifying and vocalizing your feelings is superpower. Good step toward living in a sincere manner. Obviously there are limits (Kant look away), but it makes life much easier when you aren't worried about being cool and cagey.
The ability to admit fault and learn from your mistakes is the most important quality that separates a grown person from an actual adult.
This is what puts a stop to most legal disputes as well. These company managers are always worked up about the LIABILITY! Of course attourneys are going to tell you to never admit fault, they want to bill for as many hours as possible. Just sitting down and apologizing goes a long way.
Also the opposite side to it don't keep hammering into somebody once they've admitted fault and are trying to rectify their mistakes (within reason).
People will be a lot more likely to be confident in admitting a mistake and being honest about it if it isn't blown out of proportion.
Always keep stock of water in an extra overhead tank or atleast an extra lid bucket bathrooms for emergency when tap water ran out. Just make sure to change water every two weeks to prevent bug parties in it.
If you don't have kettle then have a lot of water bottles especially that can store warm drinking water for long time, to never run short of warm drinking water in winter.
I try to always keep 30L to 50L of water safely stored in the food cellar.
If you store it properly it can stay safe and drinkable for years, I replace it about once a year though.
Do super soft yoga in the morning.
When i tell people i do yoga every day before work, they think its MUCH HARDER than it is. I get up, drink a whole glass of water, and sit on my mat. If its cold, i use a space heater. I put on an easy yoga video on YouTube (i love Yoga with Adrienne) and i only do the floor parts lol.
I am in such better shape, i have more energy, I've lost weight, my posture & balance are better, and i can self-regulate my emotions a thousand times easier. I am so, so much happier with this simple lil 20mins starting my day.
If anything out of the ordinary lasts more than 24 hours, get to a doctor!
Three days after Thanksgiving, 2018, I developed a really bad case of heartburn. "No big deal," I thought, "It WAS Thanksgiving and I DID have the extra plate of sweet potatoes..."
Super hard to sleep, couldn't get positioned right.
Monday, pepto did nothing.
Tuesday, same.
Wednesday, super nauseated, throwing up, called out sick from work.
Thursday, the heartburn moved into my upper arms, which I didn't know was a thing. Nausea was gone, but it was replaced by the feeling that there was a giant rock in the center of my chest, heavy, pulling down on all my insides.
Advice line sends me to the hospital, hospital runs a blood test and finds I've been having a heart attack.
Every time my heart beats, it only pumps out 30% of what it should, that heavy feeling was my heart getting heavier and heavier every heartbeat.
Doc says 30% is the line between walking around, talking to people... and not.
Thursday - Sunday, Cardiac Ward.
Monday - Open heart surgery, ICU.
Tuesday-Thursday - Cardiac Ward. You'd think they'd let a dude rest after cracking you open like a lobster, fuck no! Get up and walk!
Friday - back home.
Find a place where you live to have a "sit spot" every day. Ideally outside, but if weather doesn't cooperate, where you can see outside. You don't have to do or think anything, just sit (or stand) and enjoy the view. It doesn't need to be epic, just something you like looking at. (In one of my places, it was the way a particular building interrupted the horizon that I found interesting.) No phone, no computer, no book - just breathe and observe.
It doesn't need to be for long. Start with two to five minutes. I usually do longer when I can.
Yes, it's a type of meditation. But a type that works better for this neurospicy gal than sitting in utter stillness or listening to music.
Currently, it's the picnic table near my bird feeders first thing after waking for my spot. In the morning and evening they are most active, so I sit with a cuppa and enjoy watching them negotiate who eats first while I wake up and caffeinate. It soothes my nervous system in a way notifications and doomscrolling can't, and makes me better able to handle my day.
Neurospicy. I like that word!
I'll take your advice one step further: after you've hand-squiggied yourself, do a quick towel dry in the shower. Dry your feet as you step out and you won't get any water on the floor
Then what's even the point of feeling yourself up? But you're right about the floor! I have a textured faux wood floor in my bathroom and I don't even own a ~~Batman~~ bathmat. (Sadly, I also don't own a batman. ☹️) It's never slippery after I shower.
You guys just walk out of the shower soaking wet? You don't dry yourselves in the shower and then step out?
I will never understand people who leave puddles or wet bath mats instead of drying themselves in the already wet shower.
Do what you think is right, but actually take some time to determine if it's actually right or just feels right
Don't wait for someone else to challenge your beliefs do it yourself first, use the Socratic method if you need a starting point
Rewarding or ignoring bad behavior is the same as encouraging bad behavior
Leave places/systems in the same or better state than you encounter them
Don't play rigged games
Keep a bowl by the door for keys and loose change
If you're not going to soak your dishes, at least splash some water on them and leave them upside down. The food bits won't harden as much and you won't have to scrub as hard.
Ha, ha! I already knew this one!!
If the chore takes just a few minutes, fucking do it now. Right now.
And please make sure you communicate an expectation: that you can’t be the only one doing all the small chores.