I have never thought dropping a cast iron held concern for the skillet, but whatever inevitably stopped its fall.

One side it trying to force them to choose a side. It is up to adults to say "this is between us, and our relationship doesn't change your relationships."

OP could be very supportive of their mother and still not want to move out of the home they already lived in. But it doesn't sound like the mom wants to let OP do that.

Also, from their other comments, their father has been more supportive through their life while their mom has been cold and judgemental. Trying to force her child into a position whete they are expected to mete out judgement as well just emphasizes that they aren't terribly concerned with the well-being of their child.

And anyway, if you want support, you should give support. And OPs mom missed that boat, so it makes sense for OP to stay with the parent who supported them.

We do what we must

Because... we can.

It's not soup if they discard the water after cooking, leaving only the vegetables.

So... boiled vegetables. That's still already a thing. Not a particularly good thing (to my tastes), but been a thing for a long time.

That's fish.

Probably the same types who don't get how a promiscuous person can be raped, or that their promiscuity somehow invalidates it.

It's like "if some people want it, it's okay to force it on others. If some people want it under certain conditions of their choosing, it's okay to force it on them in other circumstances."

Just deliberately ignorant of the autonomy involved.

I don't know, running for a lot of us is just having our bodies start breaking down and want to avert that.

The first eviction is the worst.

The most burned-out generation yet.

"I need to improve myself" or "I'm just not his/her type I'll find someone."

Hm... the only thing I can remember thinking after having been rejected was "phew, that didn't work out, but glad I tried!" and moved on with my life. That... might be more to do with the general dissociation that I'm starting to realize has been a major theme in my life.

I got the highest score on the newly created school-wide writing assessment for two years running at my high school of 2k students.

Then I failed or dropped English 101 twice in college, once because even though my essays were nearly flawless and I did plenty of writing, I failed to complete my daily journals, and the other because the professor was so complacent that they didn't know the story they had as part of their syllabus for 15 years. I then passed it with an A when it was online and the "journal entries" were forum discussions about the weekly movie we all watched and discussed (e.g. Thelma and Louise, discussing gender issues and whatnot). I've never been good at busy work, or work designed to just "give experience." But something that engages my attention or is working toward a particular goal and I do great.

So yeah, like you said, As or Fs.

My experience with people who are really into working out is that they want everyone to be into working out, and want to help you get there. They're nerds for lifting. They're excited to get you excited.

Anyone who shit-talks you for not already being great at it is a fucking poser and you should tell them that.