not sure what to do about this, but I feel like it’s the only thing I can “control”, even though it is kind of petty.  

My neighbors are very much an industrious hoarding type of Neighbor. 

They like to repair small engines and small devices to make a few bucks. They work on their cars in their driveway, which is just fine. I would do it too, except their placement of the small engine repair portion, the impact wrenches, tire changing machine, air compressor … is within 5 feet of the edge of my property line which also happens to be 5 feet of the edge of my house: i.e. my house edge is on my property one so when they run their engines at any hour of the day, I have both engine noise and exhaust, or air compressors/impact guns in my living room or my bed room. 

This means I cannot use those windows when they have those engines and air compressor running. 

I was OK with them having six vehicles i.e. four cars, two motorcycles in a two car spot and using the street for the rest even though that meant they parked closer and closer on the street to the edge of my driveway, making it hard for me to get out of my driveway. 

But I drew the line at all of those engines, making enough noise so i could not have quite enjoyment of my house. I even went so far as to put film up on the window so I could have the blinds open let light in but not have to see piles and piles of car parts, exhaust, various snowblower and lawnmower and other things in the alleyway between our houses. 

I’ve complained to their landlord because the piles in the backyard that they are creating actually extend over the property line. I know if I don’t say something about that and “you snooze you lose” that property (i own).  

But when I asked the neighbors to please stop at the engine noise right next to my house they doubled down. 

I went to the landlord nothing happens. I even asked the town and nothing happened there. 

So I’m doing a petty thing and I park one of my cars in front of my house. 

It’s not blocking their driveway in any way shape or form it’s not even blocking my driveway. There’s about one car length for a two door wrangler in front of my house. So now they cannot park all of their vehicles on the street without getting very good at parallel parking. 

It’s petty, but at least I’m doing something with the only thing I can control and that is making it so I can get out of my driveway by only worrying about my car in the street, not they’re car. Because last year they claimed one of my cars hit theirs.  Even so far as to have a cop issue a “left scene of an accident” charge; the prosecutor laughed and threw it out...  

So the neighbors have taken to playing “poor me” with the other neighbors; seen them outside pointing at my car and lamenting. They even went so far on Facebook to complain in our town community page but they complain in a way that makes it seem like they’re afraid of hitting my car and they’re asking for a place to rent, which is honestly something that should’ve gone a long time ago because they have four more vehicles and two motorcycles. They have so much stuff they had to tarp their porch so that nobody could see the blight that they have accumulated. 

Anyway, there’s not much I can do but I feel petty about it. It’s really hard. I am reluctant to talk to them again about this because I just don’t trust that they won’t claim I’m harassing them for something like that. They seem very much a litigious sticky tar pit of a scenario. 

Heck 6-8 months ago we were sharing meals! We were giving each other different foods from our cultures. They’re from Ukraine as immigrants from a war, they’re trying their best. They’ve got five adults living in that house in an infant baby and they’re trying their best to make things happen here in the US. I get it, but I can’t abide by having motor vehicle noise in my living and bedroom.

Ugh.  Thoughts?

I'm a 52-year-old father, and I'm honestly at my wit's end here. My 22-year-old son wants to change his last name to "Carrington," and it's driving me absolutely crazy. You see, he was named after me, and now he wants to throw that away just because he doesn't like our family name. He's been talking about this since he was 15-17, but I foolishly believed it was just teenage angst that would fade away with time. But here we are, years later, and he's still hell-bent on becoming a "Carrington." Why?

Well, for one, he's never liked me or my last name, and he's not close to my side of the family at all. My parents are in their 90s and still alive. I have siblings, but my son never spends time with them, and neither did I ever let my son visit them. The last time my son saw my parents or my siblings was when he was 10 years old, and that was it. But still, that doesn't give him the right to change his last name, let alone to that of some character name he likes.

Because he watched some soap opera called "Dynasty" and fell in love with their last name. I mean, seriously? Changing his name to a fictional character's name from a TV show sounds absolutely ridiculous to me. I'm really struggling to understand this whole situation. We don't have any Carringtons in our family, and it feels like he's disrespecting our family lineage and his ancestors. It's like he's trying to cut ties with his own heritage, and that just breaks my heart.

If he had a valid reason, like adopting his mother's maiden name, changing his last name to his wifes name or for religious reasons, I would probably be more understanding. Heck, if he was transgender and changing his name to better reflect his identity, I would fully support him. But this? It feels like he's going through some sort of identity crisis and hates himself for no good reason. I've suggested that he consider professional help or therapy to sort through his feelings and understand why he's so adamant about this change.

But he brushes it off, saying he's sure about this decision. I'm his father, and I can't help but feel like it's my business too. After all, I named him, and our family name has been passed down through generations. Now, it seems like it'll stop with him.I want him to know that I still love him, but I won't call him "Carrington." To me, he'll always be my son with the name I gave him. Maybe I'm old-fashioned, but changing his name to something so fictional just seems immature and crazy to me.

My son also has no respect for me whatsoever. He doesn't like me, care about me, and finds me annoying. He straight up said, 'I couldn't give a fuck less about you or your opinion. The fact that you think I should care proves how utterly stupid you are.' He doesn't consider his mother's brother or cousin his 'family' either, and he truly doesn't give one fuck about what I feel about this decision.

TL;DR: My 22-year-old son wants to change his last name to "Carrington" just because he watched a soap opera and liked their name. I think it's ridiculous, disrespectful to our family lineage, and shows a lack of understanding about his own identity. I won't call him "Carrington" and hope he'll come to his senses soon. Any advice would be appreciated.

Now, realistically, we're probably not gonna last forever. We're 18 and 19 years old. But whenever marriage is brought up somehow, even when it's around non-homophobic people or queer people themselves, she always says "he", "my future husband", "If I get married, I hope it'll be to a man/guy who does ____."

My girlfriend is bisexual and with the fact that we likely won't last to get married, I understand this, but I feel confused and also a little sad for some reason because I'm not a man. IDK why I feel like this, I know it's irrational and that she loves me, not a guy, so why do I feel this way?

When I was 17 (NB) I dated “Emma” (15F). We broke up when she was 16 and I had just turned 18. She said she wasn’t a good girlfriend, but I think differently. I think I was a bad partner.

I feel a nervous, tingling sensation in my chest and stomach when I think about Emma, and sometimes my face gets hot. I wouldn’t mind kissing her and I miss our relationship a little, but it’s also okay for me to just be friends, because I don’t know if she still likes girls/non-binary people.

What should I do? Do I still like her romantically? I have a girlfriend and queerplatonic partner, but I am also polyamorous.

I would either not risk making my girlfriend especially upset and not say anything because Emma doesn't wanna date anyone, or I'd get it off my chest.

So, me, (22F), my fiancée Aiko (monogamous but supports me, 23F) and my boyfriend Will (23NB but he/they pronouns) are all in an open relationship. Will is also dating this guy Dave (26M) for 2 months, while we have been dating for like 4 months. We are seeing how it goes, but I have one problem.

While I get that Dave is new to him and all that, they always sleep over, play video games, etc. and Will never invites me to do that stuff with him, only Dave and Will invite each other. It's a good thing I have Aiko to do that stuff with, but I mean, come on. I wanna spend time with Will too.

And I've even told him that and how I don't like how he leaves me on "delivered" or "seen" for hours, and he just says "Oh, sorry!" or "I'm just busy" or "I'm just depressed", so then I don't bring it up again because he has a reason to do so and I feel petty.

Here's the thing: He's usually doing this, and he doesn't do this often to Dave, just me. He always spams Dave and freaks out when he doesn't respond, and while Will likes me, he couldn't care less if I responded to him or not.

He says because Dave has been treating him badly, that he's done with men, but he clearly likes men more or at least Dave more than me.

So, for a while, I (22F) only devoted (romantically) time and attention to Aiko (23F), my fiancée, as I have been dating her since I was 18 and I was monogamous for so long as I hadn't met the right one. When I came to the USA and started to live with my parents near my friend Beth, I met this guy she knew since high school, Will, and we really clicked.

Will (23NB, [he/they so you don't think I'm gendering him wrong]) is very hung up on this guy. We have been dating for like almost 4 months while he has been dating this new guy, Dave (26M), for about 2. They have sleepovers together, play video games, and all that stuff, but when I ask if he wants to sleep over or hang out, he will once in a blue moon. usually he barely answers my texts and is busy with Dave. He especially has been spending more attention on him due to Dave's depression and his failure to respond to his text messages, making him cry so he's been worried about him.

I get that, but even when he's not worried and even when it's been a while since they started dating, even when we started dating and stopped being just friends, he stopped responding. I tried texting him and he was like "Oh, I'm sorry" and continued.

has anyone else been in the same boat?

So I (22F) am dating Aiko. I have been for about 4 years. We are also engaged and have been for about 10 months. When I moved near my online friend Beth to the USA, I met her friend since high school Will. We really got along and now we're dating, have been for 3 months, almost 4.

Well, Will (23NB, he/they BTW so people don't think I'm misgendering him) is really hung up on this guy he's also dating, Dave (26M). He started dating him about 2 months ago. They do a lot of things together, such as having sleepovers every week and sleeping on calls and such when they aren't having sleepovers. They play video games together. They do a lot of stuff together. I can tell Dave means a lot to Will.

Recently, Dave has supposedly been going through a hard time and while Will does a lot more with Dave, he is still romantic with me and I care a lot about him as my partner. Well, Dave says he is depressed and losing interest in everything, but Will thought he didn't mean him. Will suggested they play a game (I don't know what, but a new release of a game) together and here Dave is, not responding to Will's messages and playing the same game he agreed they'd play together.

They stopped having sleepovers and calling as much due to Dave's depression and being busy and I will not stand for the fact that he made my boyfriend Will cry. What the hell!?

32F him 41 M Let me preface this in saying I didnt think I would have done this but I had to much to drink and guess gave my number out no memory at all. I am unfortunately like a very social person. He saw it was texted Hey at 6 something he saw my phone at 11, I never replied honestly didnt know the text was there.

That being said, I have been with this Male for over a year he will not define the relationship and will often say do you why dont you go out this and that. But we are together almost everyday though never expresses feelings. I will say he sometimes he spends the night with his kid who is a pre teen at her mother's house and I dont questions this. He does have his own place. I have never met his family nor do I think they know I exist. I am very disappointed that I had done this, I would have never responded back to the text I received but he had saw it because he was also looking at my phone and such. I feel guilty that I done it and again truly had no interest but was drunk which is no real excuse I did not respond to the text and had no intention too. But also in a year there has been no labels and I am often also proving myself to him. This is the first time I had done this. But he has told me this was unforgivable and to never talk to him again. Prior to I always treated the situation as a relationship but anytime I asked he told me he doesn't do relationship. I dont want to lose him but fear I have as he already had major trust issues. He had me change my sheets before often ask me how many ppl i have been with or who is the biggest. I denied it cause i didnt recall doing it. He has since ended it and called me a whore but continues to text me about how much I broke his heart and that he cant believe I did that. I went to his house showed him my texts though he thinks I deleted them.

Just adding: i have been home all week and haven't drunk since Sunday and even tho all day he says he is down and broke is heart.

Though all day yesterday has said he is done then He texted me last night saying lmk how bar is then told me to text the guy who texted me. And I said I wasnt interested but he said clear i was since he bagged me. I told him to believe what he wanted. He then discuss how he was sad he didn't have his friend to watch TV with. Then continued to assume I was out but then had me over. I am so confused the night went okay we cuddle never slept cause he was so upset.

While i was there my friend called after midnight I answered but he thinks she was talking about setting me up with guys and that I was shady for turning down the volume but she was saying she was drained from my sadness about this situation. Then another female friend texted later and he had me show me show him the text which was a comment about this situation he took it as we were laughing at him and was upset that I shared that with her. He then wanted to see the conversation I showed it partially but he told me I made a joke out of him. I explained i have been upset as he said he was done and was talking it out with a friend that no one was laughing. He was upset so I went to leave then he said if I left we were done so I said and said that he needs to respect that I am going to talk to my friends if I am upset and that I wont share screenshots and then we laid in bed both barely slept but held each other he asked if this was gonna be the last night we laid together and I said that was up to him. He did not sleep all night and leaving was weird in the Am.

I then spent the day unfortunately punishing myself for hurting him and did not hear from him until almost 1am asking how the bar was and how he expected I was out. Then told me he couldn't sleep and then came over. He came over I explained the that I gave my number and I dont know why I did it but I never responded and had no intention too. He does not believe me he assumes that I have been talking to this guy and that I just got caught and that I hooked up with him. He said he was dumb for coming but still stayed. I tried to ask what I could do for him to believe me.

He made a comment of me going on a date when I was home. Told me my Instagram follows changed tho I didnt do anything on insta. If I dont answer quick he will say okay have a good night texting all night.

Again had me over last night and made comments during intimacy about me having bigger and better.

Is this irreparable? How can I work to try to rebuild trust?

I’ve been dating this amazing women for a few months then recently got into a relationship a few weeks ago, but she’s more sensitive than I am. I’m more laid back and don’t let things bother me and love dark offensive humor for shock value…she’s the opposite doesn’t like certain things said and say gets offended if I jokingly flip off (which I do to people I’m close to as a sogn of ironic love) for example. However our core beliefs like politics, religion, and personalities align for most part.

I’m not sure if this type of incompatibility is bad though and worried things might not last or how I can keep it. She did say she’s fine with me still being my full self around others I’m friends with just not her. Am I walking on egg shells?

It's been going on for a couple years and she fits really well in our relationship but last weekend she confessed to us that she slept with Steve Harwell at a carnival in 2021 and my wife and I can't get past it.

What would y'all do in this situation?

I am feeling insecure and scared right now. My husband of ten years and I have been separated for about a year. Things are up and down but we've been seeing a therapist. He has a history of aggressive driving. Today, he was driving fast, then passed a slower car in a no passing zone going 30 MPH over the speed limit. It scared me. When I said something, his initial response was "either I passed them or I was going to be angry behind them the entire time", then later that he should have warned me first. No apology.

I felt uncomfortable so I asked him to pull over. He did, and I explained I felt unsafe so I'd be more comfortable if I drove for awhile. He refused and told me "I just don't care about your safety or comfort right now", then explained it was because he was angry with me about something that happened earlier. What. The. Fuck. He's angry so my safety isn't important? Fuck you, dude.

I told him I'd get a ride to my house and left the car. He got angry and called me ridiculous and melodramatic, ordering me to get back in the car like I was a child. I started to walk away so he yelled insults at me and ridiculed me. I was so embarrassed. My friend picked me up and took me home.

My car is still at his house. He texts me later, telling we he'll move it to a nearby street and tape the key to the wheel well. I ask him not to and he ignores me. Then he says that he's thinking he might stop therapy after "my behavior". That's right: this motherfucker is mad at ME for walking away when he said he didn't care about my safety after I tell him his driving is scaring me. He didn't apologize for any of this beyond "I'm sorry things went the way they did", then began texting about his hurt feelings.

I was writing this to ask for a sanity check but after reading it I know I'm now getting a divorce. Fuck.

I love my partner more than anything else in this world. We generally have a great relationship but, I've been working 60+ hour weeks for a few months and it has started taking a toll on our relationship. I'm on the "high functioning" end of the autism spectrum and I'm also ADHD, so my work schedule has been particularly exhausting with my limited social/executive function batteries. I'm insanely burnt out. My SO is very supportive, mostly.. He's been taking a break from low wage jobs and working primarily at the house, and he just started a new freelance style job that amounts to a gig every few weeks for now. This arrangement has been working well for us, in terms of having things covered, but he wants to work more to bring in more income. He works hard and I see a lot of value in everything he does. No issues there. But, he doesn't leave the house much, so he has an abundance of social energy and is significantly lacking in getting enough socializing/ connection. He talks to his mom everyday and me. We're each other's best friends, lovers, and support system.

The problem we're having now is that I'm so burnt out when I'm home that I just want to melt into the couch and completely turn off. He wants to talk constantly because he's been missing me and has a bunch of pent up social energy. When I explain that I really don't want to talk a lot, he reacts like I'm telling him I don't want to talk to HIM at all, and I don't find anything he says interesting. I've tried to clarify, repeatedly, that I want to be around him, but sit quietly and play a game. It's not about him. I'm just too exhausted to be able to focus on what I'm doing (gaming, reading, whatever), focus on what he's saying, and focus on the video he's watching that is usually what he's talking about. I'm being asked to concentrate on three things at once and stay 100% engaged in small talk with him the whole time.. While I'm completely out of mental energy. I explain that I'm exhausted over and over again, as nicely as possible, only to be met with a negative response every time.

On top of this, he does a few things, constantly, that actually annoy me to no end. His idea of organization is hiding things where no one (including him) would think to look for that thing, in a different spot every time, and he leaves shoes/clothes/boxes/etc in the middle of open floors/walkways. I'm CONSTANTLY look for stuff and tripping/stepping on stuff. My ADHD/Autism is already a constant struggle, and his behaviors multiply those struggles. I'm always exercising patience. I look at those things as quirks of the man that I love. Small prices to pay to live with the love of my life. But, when I'm super burnt out I get very irritable and I'm not as patient.

That stuff, plus him refusing to let me sit in peace has been really getting to me and I finally blew up on him. I was definitely an asshole, but I feel like I was driven to a breaking point and he refuses to hear my perspective. His response has been "just go somewhere else and don't fucking talk to me then". He thinks I don't find him interesting at all and I'm not fostering any romance or connection in the relationship. I'm always trying to be sweet/cuddle and he rejects those attempts 90% of the time. He's threatening to leave me if I don't stop being moody. Basically, he's saying "tough shit, this is how I am, take it or leave it". I feel like I'm not allowed to recover from burn out around him, which sucks because, with how busy my work has been, I also really miss him and want to be around him. Why can't we just relax without all the small talk!?! I'm in between a rock and a hard place and he refuses to budge. I feel like I'm losing him and I don't know what to do.

Aside from these (IMO, totally normal) relationship issues, I genuinely think he's the most beautiful, intelligent, and generally amazing person I know. I want to spend the rest of my life with him. My plan is to establish some strong boundaries with my boss. Working 60+ hours a week for months on end is killing my relationship and putting too much strain on my personal life/ responsibilities. I'm willing to sacrifice anything for my relationship with my partner, but his reaction to how much I've been going through, and the way he's threatening to leave me after a few difficult months has me questioning if he feels the same.

On top of all of this, my dog died about a month ago. I had her for 13 years, since she was 6 weeks old. Losing her has been one of the hardest things I've ever gone through. I've been extremely emotional. Crying multiple times a week, sometimes multiple times a day, over her. Crying at random bits of world news, songs, parts of shows/movies. I'm a mess, emotionally, which has definitely amplified the burn-out irritability. I'm at the end of my rope, my partner has seemingly ran out of patience with me and I don't know what to do. I really need some external perspectives and thoughtful advice.

I left for a 5 day work trip today and we argued in the car the whole way to the airport. Posting this in between connecting flights, so I may not respond for awhile.

I (18nb/18m) have been friends with Karl (18m/maybe 19m now) since freshman year. We had been seated together in science class on the first day and really hit it off since then. Karl also has bad social anxiety and already had when I met him, so he only really talked to and trusted me.

Later on in freshman year, I had a friend group with a guy I’ll call Liam, and Karl asked if he could join it because he was looking for friends but was painfully shy so would only befriend Liam’s group if I was there with him. Karl and Liam got close pretty quickly.

I had unrequited feelings for Liam at the time, but thought nothing of it when he and Karl started to get close until Liam told me he was attracted to Karl, and that he was going to confess to him soon. Of course, I was happy for him but was also trying to hide my jealousy. When Liam confessed to Karl, he said yes, and for a while, I knew Karl was interested in him as he told me “I think I’m straight mostly, but I’d totally go out with Liam if he asked me out.”

Liam and Karl dated for the entirety of freshman year, but Karl is also quite Christian along with his family, so he always kind of had internalized homophobia which got worse through the years. Coupled with his anxiety, Liam said it never really felt like Karl was actually into him besides the fact that he would hug Liam and tell him he loved him. They broke up during the beginning of sophomore year because it didn’t feel to Liam like Karl liked him.

Perhaps this would be the first red flag, but I confessed to Liam eventually since we started to hit it off and he told me he was bi, and he said “Sorry, you’re not my type. I’m not into shy guys with… disabilities.” (I’m neurodivergent) I said okay and cried but was into him for all of freshman year and part of sophomore.

After they broke up, Karl and Liam were fine, but towards the end of junior year, started acting very weird towards Liam and avoiding him, so I thought they got into a fight. Liam then started to take photos of Karl and post them online along with his address or phone number depending on the post because “Karl is an ass and none of you should be friends with him”.

Karl never knew about this and I didn’t find out about the address thing until recently. I asked Karl at the beginning of senior year why he was acting this way towards Liam, and Karl told me “because Liam’s weird and we don’t have anything in common”. I did not further question anything.

Later on, Karl became somewhat attached to me and would spend a lot of time with me. He made a joke that I was his wife and that we should get married and live together, which I took as just that: a joke.

We started to hang out more, Karl would compliment me a lot (I’d do likewise) and we’d help each other with work, but we could never hang out because he had sports. Before I turned 18, I realized one night I couldn’t stop thinking about him and even had a dream about him. I suddenly found him sexy as hell.

I started questioning whether or not I liked him, and later realized, “Of course I do!”. I remember one time, which I posted about, he called me cute. I also realized he always seemed to treat me slightly differently than others, but I didn’t know if it was because of my condition or because of another reason. He would be very flirty and touchy with most people, for example, but never me.

He would sometimes be moody, somehow forget when I had partners in the past (he forgot I had a girlfriend), and get especially moody on the subject of romance. I also realized even though he was sad when I broke up with her, he started to compliment me more and be nice after the fact.

Now, he’s being moody again. When we work together, he’ll be nice and help me, but sometimes he’ll be very snippy and rude. He’ll boss me around, tell me he doesn’t like me, or treat me like his pet, but then he’ll be normal toward me. He also seems to have brought me up quite a few times to his parents and is not at all opposed to us hanging out when he can.

With his rude behavior, I don’t even know if I like him that way anymore, but I’m still curious as to how he MAY feel about me.

Nichole is gray, my gf. I am the bluish. She says I’ve been spending too much time with my ex who is also my best friend

So I saw a post on this girl having trouble with her bf and it reminded me of me. I (19NB) am having trouble with my girlfriend (18F). I dated her a while ago but had trouble with my ex who I still thought about I believe, so I stopped liking her. Now we are together but with problems because apparently I’m in the wrong for wanting to call my best friend and see what he’s up to

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so i'm polyamorous. i'm 15 years old and a girl. i go by "jessica" on here, which obviously isn't my real name but its what you can call me on this account. at a therapy group center, i met this other polyamorous dude "avery" (m16). at first, i was 13 and didn't know he was polyamorous, so when we connected really fast and he mentioned his girlfriend all of a sudden, i was sad but gave up and just wanted to be his friend.

our therapist, "miss alex" (all fake names so they are in quotes) left as she was having a baby, then got another job or decided to be a stay-at-home mom, i forgot which. avery left the group a while before.

one time, i was in the waiting room and i saw him with a group of other teens, but i decided not to say anything. im faceblind and did not know whether that was him or not.

well, some time after, i was sitting pretty close but not right next to him, and i could clearly see that was the avery i knew. he recognized me and we finally exchanged social media usernames.

we became close. here's the thing: i found out he was polyamorous but he had a boyfriend, "david" (m16). he asked me if i wanted to, and i said yeah, and he said he would check in with david and finally tell him he was polyamorous. david supported him but wanted to be monogamous.

well, a month or two ago, they broke up. about 3 weeks ago, avery confessed to me finally when i joined his group again, and i realized i was so sad about him and david being together but happy for them because i was jealous and wanted to be the one for him.

now we are together. sometimes, he's busy with other things or just reads the messages and doesn't respond. sometimes, i get scared i text too much since i've been insulted and had mean things said to me from that, but the rational part of my brain says i've known him for like 3 years and for over a year fully, and he would not do that. he's always been respectful and loving even as a friend.

but i have an anxious attachment i'm trying to work on. my attachments are different depending on the partner and i for some reason always am more "secure" around girls and more "anxious" around boys, though i used to be avoidant.

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So basically I understand that dating a black woman is different than a white woman. She mentioned she feels comfortable when someone is open to learn and takes initiative to learn the societal and cultural things that affect her as a black woman. I don’t know what this means. And the take initiative part confuses me. And I’m not sure how to go about it I’m very open minded to learn but should I probe with questions or more so reading about it myself?

I’d like this relationship to go somewhere (so far had 4 dates) but her telling me that felt deep and I want to make sure I take right steps

Towards the beginning of the school year I was a lesbian, and now I'm a guy. Anyway, when I asked her out, Jess said she'd love to get to know me first, and asked me out after a week or so of "talking". Then, I found out she never even liked me and just didn't wanna feel bad for saying no, then claimed she was aroace. Someone online, however, said she probably just lied to get out of the relationship because she also never flirted with me but said she would kiss and sleep with boys. She then said she was straight and started dating a guy about a week later.

She asked me to be her English partner for an assignment recently just because I was the only one she knew in our English class. Sometimes she smiles and waves and says we're friends. Other times, she doesn't even bother getting to know me, barely talks, and says we're acquaintances. I also tried to start conversations with her and she just abruptly ends it and doesn't add anything so the conversation is really one-sided.

My mom thinks she wants to be left alone but then sometimes she acts like she likes me and wants to be my friend. We're not close enough where I can just ask her "What do you think of me?" she'd probably think that was weird and might lie to not hurt my feelings.

I feel like too much time will end up with us being like brothers, and too little time will end up with the relationship being forced. I get a warm feeling every time my crush(?) calls me, so I may like him, but IDK. He said sure, maybe if we get to know each other more he'd date me, and I agreed. But how long into the relationship before I consider dating him?

Hello,

I'm posting this to see if anyone has any advice as to what I might be able to do in order to improve communication/relations between my family members.

My sister and mother are currently in tension, where both will confide in me their feelings about the other but I'm not sure how I can try to help without betraying trust in one or the other.

No one in my family is good at communicating, unless it's judgement, criticism, or sarcasm. I know that's not all there is because they will say nice things behind everyone's back but never to their face.

My sister is a fairly recently new homeowner and about to have her first child (my mother's first grandchild). She feels disappointment that my mother never congratulated her on her success and achievement in purchasing a home.

My mother is excited to be a grandmother and wants to help my sister with her child, but is of the generation where physical possessions and items outweigh anything else so constantly buys things for the baby which my sister does not appreciate having to store in a box for two years before the baby can actual use the things. She also wants to be a good mother to my sister but everything she does is tailored towards physical things and items which my sister is fairly minimalist. My mother also gathers resentment towards my sister for never showing any appreciation for the things she tries to give her, as well as feeling like she can never do anything right.

My sister gathers a bit of resentment whenever my mother gifts her things, and has said as much on multiple occasions which hurts my mother's feelings as she is just trying to help in her own way. She is also not exactly the nicest person towards my mother, criticizing quite a lot (like house decor, etc) which makes my mom feel even more like she can't do anything right.

This all spills over onto my dad who doesn't care for how my sister makes my mother feel but I also understand how my mother makes my sister feel and why she responds the way she does sometimes.

So now I'm kind of stuck in the middle of things where everyone tells me how they feel about the other person, and I'm not sure how to help improve things without making someone feel hurt or betrayed.

I try and encourage one to say nice things to the other but then they respond with something along the lines of "well they never say nice things to me".

Any one have any similar situations or advice?

Hi, transmasc teen here. I have had a past with the social worker at my high school refusing to use the correct name and pronouns because I have to come out to my family if I do so. I don't wanna have to come out to my family, because even the most supportive members are anti-Testosterone. I am pro-Testosterone. They also say I will always have boobs and a vagina even if I get the surgeries because that's how I was born, and that I'm just a confused girl, when I know in my heart I am Anthony the sure and secure guy.

I haven't had a session with her in a while, so I don't know if she will use Anthony and he/him in private, but she won't let other teachers know that's what I would like to be called and calls me my birth name and uses she/her pronouns, but "feels bad". IDK if this is some law or what. I'll give her the benefit of the doubt and say maybe she just can't lose her job.

I don't know where to begin, so I'm just going to put words on 'paper'

I'm 33 and got out of a serious relationship ~6 months ago.

I'm looking for someone to spend the rest of my life with, and recently met someone that is a perfect fit for me on paper in so many ways, however there is a thought or feeling I just can't escape. I feel there is a lack of chemistry/attraction.

My new potential partner and I have been seeing each other for about a month, and have spent many days and nights together. She is objectively good looking and anyone would be lucky to have her multiple of my friends have said wow she's really pretty when they've met her however I don't feel the chemistry/attraction and I think I know where it comes from.

My ex was extremely feminine and we had insane chemistry from the start, the new potential partner I'm dating isn't feminine and is quite masculine in physical and behavioral ways and I think that's a turn off for me. I didn't even realize femininity mattered this much to me.

I feel insane for thinking of breaking things off with an objectively attractive, successful women who's logistics fit so well with mine it's honestly like finding a needle in a haystacks.

I feel stuck constantly fighting questions like:

• Am I just full of shit and looking for a unicorn that doesn't exist?
• Should I listen to my heart and feelings and let go of this because - it doesn't feel right?
• I'm getting old and want to settle down, should I priorities logistics and accept good enough?
• Am I just overly picky? Can I afford to be this picky?

My heart is telling me one thing, my head another. Help

Hi, so me (29NB) and my partner (23F) of almost 3 years have realized that our goals and long term plans are incompatible and that we can't stay together (not what I am here for, so no need to get into it) the thing is that we love eachother and get along great, and even after realizing that we are breaking up, we both still want to be friends. My question is, how? How to turn a relationship with plenty of sex and love into a platonic friendship without ending up emotionally stuck on each-other or having "slip-ups"?

At first I though that maybe starting with like 3 months of no contact can help make a clean slate to return to and start a new friendship on, but after discussion it I think that we still need eachothers' support as friends and it would be quite hard for us to just cut contact.

I had another idea of slowely banning romantic elements until the relationship goes platonic, maybe something like every week ban a new element, first can be saying "I love you" or terms of endearment, second could be sleeping over (we don't live together), third could be sex, etc, until we are essentially friends. But is this a terrible idea that will just leave us hung up on eachother?

Anyone with experience on how to turn mutual romantic love into a platonic love/friendship?