saying they don’t experience “as much oppression as people who do REAL THINGS like transition” is utter bullshit. Especially because, like Lily herself said, tons of non-binary people transition.

She's quoting truscum there. What other reason would a medically transitioning nonbinary person have to say that?

Also the only even remotely similar discussion I’ve seen to what this video is talking about is the actively developing transmedicalist / assimilationist movement you can see on Reddit or anywhere white rich trans people congregate

As somebody who has to hide that she's nonbinary from her health insurance because i wouldn't get HRT or surgeries otherwise, i find it hard to frame this as "extremely online". I know that's different in the US, but all of the NB people i know have to hide their identity from at least some of their doctors, in a medical system that gatekeeps every form of gender affirming care behind psychological evaluation. Exclusion of nonbinary people happens all the time, most countries don't even recognize that gender markers outside M and F exist, cis people completely fail to understand my gender, to the point where leaving out the nonbinary part is something i have to do if i don't want to get into a pointless debate, and these rich white trans people do not exist exclusively on reddit, either, they are very insistent on making some irl trans spaces uninhabitable for anybody who isn't trans in the proper way. Oh, also it's my country's current major culture war topic if language being inclusive of nonbinary identities should be made illegal.

Whether at least my own community has my back or actively tries to exclude me absolutely matters in such a context. Why would that be "terminally online"? It has real life consequences all the time, i constantly hear from people in my local community who face specifically enbiephobic discrimination, and the source of that are way too often other trans people.