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Tea Time! - Trans Megathread from August 10th, 2026 to August 16th, 2026 (thelemmy.club)
submitted 3 weeks ago by to c/traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns@hexbear.net
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this may be early, don't worry about it, pin it whenever

First mega wooo, now I get to have my inbox flooded!

Friendship ended with coffee, now tea is my best friend. No promises but I'll try to post about a different tea each day!

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[–] 17 points 3 weeks ago (3 children)

It helped me a lot when a friend told me that i do not have to stick to the first name i choose and that it's ok to try things out. I also see in my friend group that a lot of people have several names and use one mostly around their family and for other "public" stuff and then have a "friend name" that we use amongst each other, and usually both of these are official names that are on our legal documents and all.

It's not only ok to experiment, it's a necessary part of transitioning.

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  • [–] 14 points 3 weeks ago

    this is real, my name evolved quite a a bit! those earlier names felt right during the times i used them and now i feel really at home with my current name but it took some time to get there.

    still use an older (more masc) legal name with acquaintances and family (this is i think in part because i look more androgynous / fem and making them use an unabashedly masc name is a bit like keeping them in check lol) and my more me name with everyone i'm closer to :3

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