How do you stand up to bullies? All kinds of bullies? Especially starting from beginner 10-15 year old levels? I'm too afraid of being roasted and haven't practiced. (hexbear.net)

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Also, what are your favorite comebacks to bullies?

I need to stop trying to change unchangeable people. I've been through so many bad faith people who dehumanize at every turn whenever they feel they won't get consequences. I need to make there be consequences for dehumanization.

Someone said to me "What if there's a predatory creep that you don't know how to socially shut down, and they feel emboldened because you don't roast them?" I said that's happened. They said i need to practice in lower risk scenarios. Maybe I get roasted for calling someone an asshole. One day that can turn into me and the dehumanizer going 50/50, me and them both getting half the roast. But to even get there I have to start by being roasted by bullies.

I won't get anywhere if I don't start clapping back and getting roasted many times by many assholes.

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[-] [email protected] 4 points 5 days ago

Is there anything wrong with telling them they're assholes, why they're assholes, and vividly describing gruesome ways you think they should die until they get uncomfortable and leave them alone?

[-] [email protected] 1 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago)

Yes on the gruesome part, they would do a smear campaign pretending that I'm their bully.

One of them loved to cut peoples lifelines and doom them to threat of literal death. They had a job they said they loved. In it they enjoyed firing people in the most crushing ways they could think of speaking. I would ask them "how was work?" and they call every single person they talked to at work "stupid" "fucking stupid" or "stupid as fuck." It was at a work place they hated being abused at before they got promoted to the position of firing people. Then they loved how abusive the workplace was. They were the boss's favorite pet. I have no idea if the world is literally better off without this agressive lifeline cutter. If it is, I won't be the one to tell them.

The other person that they bullied me with acts like this person's vistigeal organ, copying dehumanizing behaviors as if it hurting me protects them from being targeted themselves.

I think i just need to just comment on their immaturity or roast them in a very simple way that discourages them.

this post was submitted on 28 May 2025

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