How do you stand up to bullies? All kinds of bullies? Especially starting from beginner 10-15 year old levels? I'm too afraid of being roasted and haven't practiced. (hexbear.net)

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Also, what are your favorite comebacks to bullies?

I need to stop trying to change unchangeable people. I've been through so many bad faith people who dehumanize at every turn whenever they feel they won't get consequences. I need to make there be consequences for dehumanization.

Someone said to me "What if there's a predatory creep that you don't know how to socially shut down, and they feel emboldened because you don't roast them?" I said that's happened. They said i need to practice in lower risk scenarios. Maybe I get roasted for calling someone an asshole. One day that can turn into me and the dehumanizer going 50/50, me and them both getting half the roast. But to even get there I have to start by being roasted by bullies.

I won't get anywhere if I don't start clapping back and getting roasted many times by many assholes.

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[-] [email protected] 6 points 5 days ago

I’ve seen people, kids and adults, get beat up for not responding to a bully before. It’s generally good advice, but I’d gray rock at your own risk.

[-] [email protected] 9 points 5 days ago

That's why I said "breaking noses" as an alternative. Grey rock should be the default reaction, but it needs to be backed up with violence unfortunately.

[-] [email protected] 8 points 5 days ago

Breaking noses worked for me but like I said that was the 80s

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