How do you stand up to bullies? All kinds of bullies? Especially starting from beginner 10-15 year old levels? I'm too afraid of being roasted and haven't practiced. (hexbear.net)

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Also, what are your favorite comebacks to bullies?

I need to stop trying to change unchangeable people. I've been through so many bad faith people who dehumanize at every turn whenever they feel they won't get consequences. I need to make there be consequences for dehumanization.

Someone said to me "What if there's a predatory creep that you don't know how to socially shut down, and they feel emboldened because you don't roast them?" I said that's happened. They said i need to practice in lower risk scenarios. Maybe I get roasted for calling someone an asshole. One day that can turn into me and the dehumanizer going 50/50, me and them both getting half the roast. But to even get there I have to start by being roasted by bullies.

I won't get anywhere if I don't start clapping back and getting roasted many times by many assholes.

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[-] [email protected] 5 points 1 week ago

If it's adults acting like teenage bullies, tell them to grow the fuck up

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Capitalism has hijacked what the general public views as a "grown up". So i don't say grow up. People who act immature are still having a legit adulthood. It just that that's what their adulthood looks like.

My issue is not that they're not grown ups. My issue is that they're self projecting cowards who don't deal with their own bullshit insecurities. That they're downpunchers trying to make me absorb their damage.

Now I'm trying to not change minds. Skipping explaining that they're sad and should punch upwards, and simply being confronting about what they're doing. Responding coldly.

[-] [email protected] 5 points 1 week ago

Fair enough

[-] [email protected] 3 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

I’ve used this a few times, to varying success.

“Whoa, someone peaked in high school.”

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