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[โ€“] [email protected] 12 points 4 days ago (3 children)

alcoholism/relapse, self psychoanalysis, family shit, aging pet worriesRelapsed, feel bad, also feel worse about not feeling worse if that makes sense

Angry at self wanting to be perfect and a teetotaler

Angry that I also feel completely justified when I disappoint myself because I never felt good enough for my dad and he's the reason I became an alcoholic in the first place, and now dealing with him is what causes me to relapse

Meemaw cat gets mini seizures and flops over like she got a leg cramp and a really bad itch and will fall out of a chair when that happens

Spent all evening at the gym, go check on parents tired and burned out (failed my leg press sets, didn't have enough in the tank to stick to my rowing schedule either)

She has one of her mini seizures, flops out of her chair into his lap, claws his leg accidentally (it's a completely unintentional thing, she's done it to me and would never hurt me and she's 16 and I've had her and her sister ((RIP)) since she was a kitten)

He's drunk as always and says some nasty shit about her (she's an absolute angel and he's a disgusting decrepit braindead miserable piece of shit)

Immediately start wishing he'd just fucking die already, wish my mom divorced him before I was born, wish I'd never had to know him, etc

Take care of their dishes, laundry, scoop her box, take out the trash, clean her bowls, fill them and get her fresh water, put away their dinner leftovers they left out (I feel taken advantage of, they're not that incapable)

Leave and go buy a box of wine and a flask size plastic bottle of bottom shelf vodka (my shifting sobriety self rule was "no spirits")

Walk to gym because it's the only other place I go, do ab and back stuff I skipped

Pick up trash on side of road, pick flowers from bougie gated community's front gate for my windowsill

Listen to podcasts

Angry at everything

Gonna go walk home drunk and stop to stare at a fountain while I listen to angsty music

Maybe tomorrow I can be happier with myself but for tonight I'm fucking livid at everything and exhausted and feel pathetic and am so fucking mad at my shitty parents

catgirl-flop

The kindest self dialogue I've been able to muster lately keeps coming back to "well no wonder you suck, look at how and by whom you were raised"

Thanks brain brainworms

[โ€“] [email protected] 5 points 4 days ago (2 children)

you sound really down on yourself for not achieving 100%. But what i'm reading is a person working really hard on self improvement. Going to the gym, trying to be healthy, checking in on and caring for family even though they are toxic.. these are all admirable traits that you should feel proud of. I know it's difficult when you have expectations and struggle meeting them but don't be too hard on yourself; try to give your own self the same grace you would give to others! And celebrate the wins! Just going to the gym puts you way up there. Acknowledging and working on your drinking is progress. I hope you feel better!!

[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 3 days ago (1 children)

meow-hug

drinkingTelling myself I cleared the very low bar of "didn't lose anything walking last night" at least (done that before years ago, lost one of my favorite hats and a phone before wandering around blackout drunk when I was worse years ago)

I know I'm better than then but backsliding at all makes me so mad at myself

I want to be able to say "not one step back bugs-stalin stalin-nyet ) but I've slipped up 4 or 5 times(?) in the last couple months and it always sparks a self loathing spiral

Forgot how much I hate dealing with hangovers too

There's a reason I tried to quit beyond perfectionist self crit lol

catgirl-flop nyet

[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 3 days ago

i think it's less about not slipping sometimes and being perfect and more about just trying your best as much as you can. improvement is improvement you know? That whole '2 steps forward and 1 step back' dance still moves you forward.

i really know how it is I had a lot of trauma from my childhood my own shame was drinking until I blacked out and pissed myself but slow and steady got me sober even though it took many years I eventually got there.