Inspired by this dorky exchange I had, thank u BountifulEggnog.
I want to know what your gender means to you, how you define it, what it means for you to "be" that gender and how you define it. Don't fuss about 'correct definitions' or anything, this is about your experience, I want to know what it means to you. How you relate to that gender, perceive it.
Genders have a social construction aspect and is very subjective, so I think people's subjective, personal views of their own are both important and interesting. Inquiring mind wants to know! 
I'll share some of mine I guess.
I was a trans woman until the contradictions sharpened to a razor's edge after reading Gender Outlaw and The Gender Accelerationist Manifesto. My brain got cracked in half. I have always hated the effects testosterone would have on my body, so estrogen was a given, but while I do identify with certain things that are commonly associated with being a woman... if nothing is inherently gendered, what even is a gender? 
I had a whole little episode about it in the megathread once.
As I went on from there, I realised that while I like certain things about "being a woman", equally I found I'd been sort of stifled by trying to fit into the social role. The women I have always related to most are the cis autistic women who basically yeet presentation in favour of dressing for sensory comfort. Almost kinda non binary, in a way... The more I interrogated binary gender in relation to myself, the more I dug up stuff like this. Also I didn't really like that "woman" is associated with cis people a lot, I really like the trans part of my identity, feel a lot of love for it. I've felt freer and mentally clearer and truer to myself as a Non Binary Transfem, it's cool and funny. What does it mean to me? It represents my goofy sometimes-androgynous presentation, my lack of cissie gender, how being neurodiverse influences my view, being a funny noody goblin. Share yours =)
Gender is posting in the trans mega. The more you post in the trans mega, the more gender you have.
srs
Gender to me is all about expression. There's no inherent essential thing deep inside me that makes me one thing or another.If I am not expressing my gender in some way, then I feel degendered or agender. To me, expressing my gender in a stereotypically cis male way doesn't actually feel like gender expression. It feels like default. It is comfortable enough but kind of joyless and devoid of emotion.
I'm with you that I'm not interested in being a woman, and I'd prefer to be a queer something. I believe this for the reasons you listed. But I love going to the gender buffet and taking the things I like. Femme clothes? Oh hell yeah. Girl stuff? Yup. She/her pronouns? Yeah, please. Hairless? Yup yup. Femme voice? Eh, I dunno. Weight lifting? Gonna keep that. Kickboxing? Yeah, I'm gonna keep sparring the bois.
All together, my gender is an express of joy. If I'm not joyful, then I'm not expressing.
What if you are agender and do not want all the gender it gives u
srs
YEAH