it's the opposite for me, claiming the title of woman feels like it carries a lot of the expectations of cis-womanhood, but being trans or queer lessens these, atleast in my mind.

Labels are just that, labels. Use what you feel the most comfortable with or what would describe you best. You can change these later if need be

For example I would have described myself as transfem 5 years ago but not so much now. I present femme mostly but I am an enby because of how I feel about myself and how I view the world. I wear what want and take whatever form I feel like.. I'm inherently queer also but nobody is going to force you to identify as something you don't like to identify as either.

Try not to worry too much , plenty of time to work things out

Use the ones that make you most comfy

I've long considered myself LGBTQ+ adjacent even though I thought I was an allocishet just because I grew up involved in the LGBT+ community (parents are lesbians and they took us to local LGBT+ family events as children). Weirdly, when I realized I wasn't exactly allo, it felt more weird considering myself LGBT+? I think partly because I already sorta thought of myself as being LGBT+, so I didn't feel more LGBT+ and the lack of a change made me feel less like I was less part of that group? IDK how brain works.

After realizing I wasn't cis, I've changed to thinking of myself more explicitly as LGBT+ and queer. But I generally avoid more specific labels with regards to my gender, but I'd say trans, NB, agender, and transfem are all probably labels I'd at least partially use, but I think "queer" is my favorite label currently.