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I'd say whether I've done it part of a group or just randomly when I had extra food and offered it to someone theyve accepted way more than not.

I've been asked if I could buy some chips multiple times. I've bought and ate meals with people.

Maybe it's different in the places I've lived.

Eh having said all that, I've also talked with some people who were able to get food okay but needed money for other basic necessities. You can find food in a dumpster but not a shower or a safe place to sleep.

Some people also need to be mobile and it's a lot easier to haul cash than food.

TIL the word malapropism. Thanks!

Reminds me of when I was like 21 and one of my friends would get super worked up and annoyed when our friend would mess up an idiom. I had to take him aside a couple times and tell him "look my guy, you need to relax. You obviously understood what she was trying to say, it literally does not matter, and this person is your friend stop being a jerk."

I can't remember if he eventually chilled or I just moved away and forgot about it lol

Good post. I think there's several different reasons. It's a shortcut to identity, community. It gives people something to believe in. It can just simplify things. They have good feelings attached to X, so when X is thought of or spoke of or whatever it brings up good feelings.

For me I'd consider myself a fan of 3 different sports teams. I don't watch the other teams playing, except if it's something especially intriguing. Any info or news about other teams is always processed with a varying amount ok how does this relate to my team. Or how does this provide more context about what my team is doing. I like it. It's fun. How much and how frequently I care is related to how good the team is, but I'll always check in eventually even if they're garbage lol.

I'd just call it a heuristic. Fandom is a heuristic that can simplify and/or strengthen someone's ability to gaf about something.

If you haven't played it on PC slay the spire is my goat. I couldn't tell you another game I've 100%'d. I think ive put in like 200 hours.

Someone mentioned desert golfing here a few years back. I still play it now. It's so minimal. No settings. No music. Just get the ball in the hole. You can play it for 30 seconds or 30 minutes.

Everyone does it differently bit I'm a bit more selective about games I play on my phone. I've done some roms/emulators but I'd rather just play those on my computer. I only like games that I can go into or drop at a moments notice.

Finding a therapist was one of my most stressful and agonizing things I've ever done. Top ten at least. It's so...what, Ironic? Terrible?

God damn I don't like thinking about it, but I'm so glad I did. Try to skim and cut through the bullshit. They talk about entrepreneurial shit? Skip. They focus on important issues but it doesn't really apply to you? Skip. They look funny? Skip. They look too cool for you? Skip.

At some point I felt I just picked some arbitrary things to filter the search with.

But once again, I'm glad I followed through with it. I'm about 2.5 years in, it didn't Fix Me, only I can Fix Me, but I've learned more about myself in these last two years than the previous 5-8 years combined. And it wasn't my therapist telling me who was I was, or what I was doing, or what was wrong with me and how to fix it. It was her providing information and space and cues and exercises and support that helped me do the work.

Interesting. I wonder how accurately some people feel they can both can properly express themselves over text, and also understand what the other party is trying to lay down.

Nobody is going to want to date me if I can't make them laugh. I don't want to date someone who I can't make laugh. I don't want to date someone who can't make me laugh.

It's a lot harder for me to make people laugh over texts. It's easier if people already know how I communicate, but its still harder than in person.

So I'd always rather spend an hour or two getting ready and meeting someone in person to find out if vibes are good, sense of humors overlap, than to spend hours over a week+, checking for messages, thinking about what to say, thinking about what I said, all for it to fall flat. Or worse maybe, after all that, I finally meet them in person and vibes are wack.

Hell ya get that laundry done.

So forgive me if this next part doesn't seem relatable, or does not apply to you. I want to try and say it perfectly, but at one point I'm just going to stick with a particular wording and let it ride*. I'm not a professional, but I've done a lot of work addressing my own stuff, partly with professional help, and have found a framework, if you will, that helps me.

At a pretty basic level, I think there's two sides to the coin. There's information: tips, tricks, methods, processes, research, diagnosis, etc, and there's you and your relationship with yourself. How well do you know yourself? What do you think of yourself? How well do you treat yourself? Do you know how you think? Do you know how you react? Do you know how you feel? The better you can answer these questions, the better you can put yourself in a position to succeed.

I'm going to say mind, but that's shorthand for a persons brain, hormones, chemicals, physiology, habits, behaviors whatever else you want to include in the superstructure that is yourself, and how oneself processes and participates in life.

Everyone's mind works differently, or its variable enough where it might as well, but your mind probably isn't some wild place that always acts unpredictable. It might have blocks, it might work unintuitively, or be frustrating, it might have preferences, it might not work exactly the way you hope, but if you look inside enough, eventually you should probably be able to find some patterns.

If you better learn your mind, if you learn how it learns, responds, reacts to different things, you might be able to better position to do the things you want. Or you might be able to better recognize what it is you actually want.

An example of my own experiences which calls back to the * I wrote above. I'm not a perfectionist. I half ass stuff all the time, but when I'm interested in something, I can get really into the weeds. I overthink think it, try to fully understand it, do this, do that, but often while doing that I might get to a point where I run out of steam, or get frustrated, get distracted or whatever else and not finish it. So to make sure I finish this reply, I'm letting myself not say exactly what I mean, as long as I can get the general point across, and complete the task. Only recently I've recognized this is a pattern of mine. And I've recognized things I need to do to work through it, and I've also accepted its part of how my mind works. Maybe the best thing my counselor ever told me was "don't forget to give yourself grace".

So even if I'm misrepresenting what I'm trying to say, I'm giving myself grace because I do want to try and say something.

So give yourself grace. Not only did you recognize that you wanted to get something done, but you asked for help, and you got something done. Fuck ya.

So it's not like you cant do stuff, and you obviously have some recognition of your behavioral patterns: "(movie or game? if movie what genre? if game, single-player or multiplayer? maybe a book would be better? ah this is too hard better just doomscroll instead)." But do you also recognize what leads up to the times when you DO pick a game? When you do choose a movie? You did laundry, awesome, was there something before that helped? A thought, feeling, trigger?

For me it's always why? Why why why why why. Why did I chose to do X in the past instead of Y. Why did I want to play this game and not that one? What do you want from your leisure? Excitement? Challenge? For myself, I realized I really like stories, I like world building, I like adventure, I like characters. I don't particularly like detailed descriptions, which is why even though I like the things I mentioned, I never got into Tolkien, despite trying. Too much other stuff going on.

If you're able to figure out the why? Then next you figure out the how. How do I set myself up to encourage myself into doing it, and how do I discourage myself from doing not it. This is where you experiment with methods, ideas, tips, and tricks. But if you don't know what exactly your trying to address when you use a tip you're often just wasting your time.

Maybe a dumb metaphor:

Task: Drinking Tea Goal: Drink more Tea So you ask yourself, google, someone. "Hey I'd like to drink more tea but its a pain in the ass, any tips?" Answer: "Oh you should use an electric kettle, makes it way easier" An electric kettle is a correct answer to the question, but it assumes you know how to make tea, it assumes you know what an electric kettle is, it assumes you don't already have one or a similarly convenient water heating device, and it also assumes that the time it takes to boil water, is your specific issue. Maybe for some reason you have a boiling water tap, but only receive tea once a year as a present from you relative. If you dont properly recognize that it's your tea supply thats the issue, not the speed in which you can boil water, then not only will that given solution not work, you wont know why, and you'll have no clue why. It worked for this person, why not me?

Lol maybe a stupid metaphor but maybe not.

I could go on and on and I'm happy to talk about more things, get into particulars on my experiences and/or approaches with X ,Y, or Z, or my 2 cents on yours, but writing more is useless if I never finish, it's actually not helpful or you don't care lol.

Great! I cant reccomend it enough. A lot more content is already prepared for the steam early access release in a few weeks so that would be as good as any time to give it a shot.

I've played and enjoyed a lot of similarish games but for me personally they were ultimately either too long or too shallow for any sustained replayability. It doesn't play like slay the spire but to me it's right up there with it in terms of being completely satisfied with the 45-80 min playthrough one day while still wanting to come back to try it again the next.

Don't ask anyone what every individual item is on any menu. That's a pain in the ass, even if they spoke fluent English. If you're not super picky ask them what they recommend and get that. If they dont speak english you can do this with pointing, smiling, shrugging and thumbs ups. Always speak basic English while gesturing because they might be able to understand it OK even if they cant speak it, or don't feel comfortable speaking it.

If you're a little more picky do some prep so you have a little better idea of what to expect. Noodles/Soup/Rice/Veggies/Rice/Sandwich/Meat etc. Learn what those words are. If you know what you want but dont know how to say it, or are too embarrased, just say the number. Or point to it.

If you issues with spicy, make sure you bring that up. The this is too spicy face and hand wave to cool down your tongue is cross cultural.

People are generally pretty helpful if your polite.

Also lol on all the english on the menu. Especially at the bottom, literally "To-Go Orders" in english.

They can see changelogs if you have a software/database your company uses.

I wouldn't worry about it if you get your expected work done and you're online/responsive when you say you are.

Especially if there aren't any specific metrics or processes in place that check the other stuff. A big company might have a whole dept dedicated to that but is random manager X going to 1. Get your "tracking data". 2. Find out a way to turn that into useful information. 3. Analyze and standardize that info. 4. Create an escalation process based off of it. 5. Run all this by their boss(es)/HR to have buy in. 6. Keep up and follow through with it.

I'm sure there's other things I'm missing too.

For what goal to get you fired? There's easier ways to do that.

Its usually pretty easy to pop off/on the front wheel if you need more space. If the bike doesnt already have a quick release and youre going to do it a lot you could probably get one for under $15.