Or any lesson for that matter

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[–] 43 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (6 children)

It really doesn't matter what you say when you argue with people on the internet. No historical evidence, statistics, political theory, or emotional appeal can change someone's mind.

Without getting into US politics, I think this country is going to have to learn how to resist White supremacy & nationalism the hard way. Things have to get worse before they can get better.

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  • [–] 8 points 2 months ago

    This is also true in person. Unless the setting is one where everyone involved is intentionally trying to expose themselves to new ideas they will ignore any new information they don't want to hear.

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  • [–] 2 points 2 months ago

    I don’t quite agree. What you say won’t instantly change someone’s mind, but it plants a seed, sometimes even if the person seems to be doubling down hard.

    When I’ve changed my mind about important things, it usually wasn’t because of one conversation. It was more like 100 conversations and articles that slowly built up doubt until one more point tipped me over. None of those individual conversations would have seemed to make a difference to the other person, but they ultimately contributed to me changing my mind.

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  • [–] 22 points 2 months ago (2 children)

    You're not going to want to do it later. It will just pile up until it's unmanageable.

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  • [–] 20 points 2 months ago

    That I fucking need to pay attention to these lessons

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  • [–] 15 points 2 months ago

    That I need to keep it simple.

    I tend to make things overcomplicated.

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  • [–] 15 points 2 months ago (4 children)

    That worrying about things outside of my control is entirely pointless. And that in the vast majority of cases, things turn out fine.

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  • [–] 3 points 2 months ago

    True in many cases, or maybe most of the time, but the way things are going, there really are a load of existential things at work to be both aware of, wary of, and take precautions against.

    These are not the 'simple times' of even 20yrs ago.

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  • [–] 12 points 2 months ago (3 children)
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    That it's safe for me to be seen as I am, and I need to show up vulnerably and imperfectly in order to move forward in life.

    I struggle with rsd and anxiety among other things, and instead of learning this lesson I keep hiding away and not actually living.

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  • [–] 9 points 2 months ago

    Shut my mouth when i know better but criticism is not appreciated

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  • [–] 7 points 2 months ago

    Not to try the Sunday crossword

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  • [–] 6 points 2 months ago

    People hate to receive unsolicited advice, however useful or well-meant it is. By all means offer, but don't force the issue if it's declined.

    And don't say 'I told you so' if things end up going south, however tempting it might be.

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  • "Stay the hell away from pizza and croissants even if you spent half your life in Southern Europe, dough doesn't agree with you!" 😭

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  • [–] 5 points 2 months ago

    How to drink water without choking on it.

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  • [–] 4 points 2 months ago

    Not taking for granted what I actually have. I constantly fail to live in the moment. I always seek more. Never satisfied with what I have. And I say I want a long term partner. lmao

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  • [–] 4 points 2 months ago (1 child)

    Limited edition/novelty snack flavors are never good. No matter how many mediocre snacks I've had to finish over the years I never learn my lesson.

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  • [–] 4 points 2 months ago* (1 child)

    I don't understand why people care so much about what other people look like.

    I'll never get it. But I don't think I've ever met someone who didn't like obsesses over their 'look' and go off about how other people are horrible for not looking they way think they should.

    and I kind of lose all respect for people who go on their little rants about fashion, or teeth, or haircuts or any of that, especially when they like use it to boost their own ego how they don't wear crocs or something, it's so weird and petty and gross.

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  • [–] 3 points 2 months ago (1 child)

    I like him cause he treats me just as shitty as my mom did and it feels comfortable

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  • [–] 3 points 2 months ago

    A lot of how I feel is normal and I don't have to belittle myself for feeling how I do.

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  • [–] 2 points 2 months ago

    "Be more quiet and mysterious this time"

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    I don't need to instantly be a pro at everything I do.

    I don't need to do every single thing the hardest way possible starting from the ground up.

    I won't learn these because my degree of ethics and authenticity is wayy too high.

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  • [–] 0 points 2 months ago

    Humans are in charge of human civilization.

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